1. Coye Cheshire & Andrew Fiore June 22, 2015 // Computer-Mediated Communication Intimate relationships

2. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore1 Um, where were we?  Marriage markets — exchange theory  Exchange of differential characteristics  Opportunity cost of staying with mate  Lure of guaranteed replacement (big market)  “Love” as solution to commitment problem So what can we learn from newspaper personal ads in 1984?

3. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore2 Greek love styles Eros: passionate love Ludus: game-playing love (flirtation?) Storge: companionate love (deep friendship) Pragma: storge + ludus — practical love Mania: eros + ludus — intense, jealous love Agape: eros + storge — unselfish, giving love

4. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore3 Analyzing magazine personals  Fs seeking Ms same age or older  Ms seeking younger Fs (or not much older)  Homophily on personality traits, interests  Men more likely to describe attractiveness  Men also more likely to request photo  A contradiction?

5. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore4 So what happens when people actually make up their minds?

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7. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore6 Shifting gears…

8. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore7 Selves: actual, real, ideal  “Actual” self — who you present usually  “Real” or “true” self — who you really are, but are prevented from presenting  “Ideal” self — who you aspire to be

9. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore8 Self-disclosure  Progressive self-disclosure builds intimacy  (Passion as function of change in intimacy?)  “Gating features” preclude this process?  “Stranger on a train” phenomenon = “Stranger in a chat room”?

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11. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore10 Transitioning to face-to-face

12. 6/22/2015Computer-Mediated Communication — Cheshire & Fiore11 Liking in mediated channels  Lab experiment — interact with opposite- sex partner in one of three conditions:  Interact face-to-face for 20 min twice  Interact first on IRC for 20 min, then face-to-face for 20 min  Interact with one person face-to-face and one via IRC — actually same person

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