1. TIME KEEPS ON SLIPPING… the simple church

2. How was the date? What did you like? Did you do the whole list? Was it hard to do?

3. BARELY MADE IT… ARE YOU STRUGGLING FINDING TIME TO DATE? ARE YOU STRUGGLING FINDING TIME TO TALK?

4. RECENT SURVEY… On average… Married couples spend less than 3 minutes of meaningful conversation in a typical day.

5. First step… Realize…your life is happening now! Not someday! NOW!

6. COUPLE ACTIVITY #1 Get alone… pie chart your time together.

7. COUPLE ACTIVITY #2 Answer these questions. DO YOU… 1.Sometimes finish your wife’s/husband sentences? 2.Find yourself rushing when there’s no reason? 3.Spend less than thirty minutes in meaningful conversation with your wife/husband each day? 4.Realize you haven’t expressed gratitude to your wife/husband in days? 5.Feel like you are waiting to live until you reach a certain milestone?

8. COUPLE ACTIVITY #2 6. Have a tough time separating work like from home life? 7. Feel like you and your wife/husband are the two proverbial ships passing in the night? 8. Feel like your time together has been on hold? 9.Find that too many of your conversations with your wife/husband center on schedules and tasks? 10.Sometimes view work as an escape from your hectic home life?

9. YOUR NOT ALONE!

10. Help! I’m Exhausted… Recent Redbook Magazine Survey: 24 million women said, we are too exhausted and tired for sex.

11. “The quality of your love life increases in direct proportion to the amount of time you have to relax.” How to stay connected at the speed of life… Less and Leslie Parrott

12. SO WHAT DO WE DO? 1.BE HONEST…EVALUATE! 2.LIST ONE THING YOU CAN DO TO ELIMINATE HURRY FROM YOUR HOME?

13. Couples rarely fail to communicate…the question is how does it take place. (positive or negative) When does it take place?

14. MAKING THE MUNDANE MOMENTS COUNT 1.SAYING HELLO… 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 2.SAYING GOODBYE… 3.SAYING GOODNIGHT… 4.SAYING GOOD MORNING… 5.SAYING THANKS… 6.SAYING I’M SORRY… 7.SAYING I CARE ABOUT YOU… 8.SAYING I UNDERSTAND… 9.SAYING I LOVE YOU…

15. MAKING THE MUNDANE MOMENTS COUNT 1. REVIEW…WHICH AREAS ARE RANKED 4 OR LESS? 2. CHOOSE 2 AND FOCUS ON THEM THIS NEXT WEEK! WHAT CAN YOU DO TO BE MORE ENGAGED? HOW CAN YOU BE IN THE MOMENT?

16. 10 levels of Communication

17. 6 levels of Communication 1.Small talk: How was your week? 2. Facts: What time do we have to …. 3. Opinions: Strongest dominates! Can you listen? Do you value others opinions? Affair! 4. Feelings: Anger most common! 5. Needs/Desires: What do you need from me? SURFACE NEEDS vs. ROOT NEEDS (WHAT IS HER GREATEST FEAR?) 6. Beliefs: influence and leadership!

18. the simple church 3 SIMPLE SUGGESTIONS: 1.Daily- when and where? 2. Date nights- download #2 3. Depart quarterly- Plan it now!

19. Simple Suggestions: 1.Decide where you must succeed. 2.Make a list: Say no to some things tempting you to say yes. 3.Quit serving leftovers!

20. THINGS TO WORK ON: 1.Ask yourself…why you do what you do. 2.Learn to hold back. Kids get your best- job gets your best- church gets your best… What about spouse?

21. COUNSELING HELP www.MarriageMatters Now.com Steve and Debbie Wilson 318-469-2438 marriagematters@aol.com COUNSELING HELP www.MarriageMatters Now.com Steve and Debbie Wilson 318-469-2438 marriagematters@aol.com

22. THANKS FOR BEING HERE! the simple church