2. Stop Bullying Now

3. “No, you don't know what it's like When nothing feels all right You don't know what it's like To be like meTo be hurtTo feel lost To be left out in the dark To be kicked when you're down To feel like you've been pushed around To be on the edge of breaking down And no one's there to save you No, you don't know what it's like Welcome to my life” ~ Simple Plan

4. How Do You Define “Bully”

5. Did You Know? The word “Bully” meant the total opposite of what it means now. Five hundred years ago, “Bully” meant friend, family member or sweetheart.

6. Power over Meant to hurt May happen over and over Bullying is…

7. Two Types of Bullying Direct Direct Indirect Indirect

8. Direct Bullying Physical – hitting, kicking, pushing, stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s things, making someone do something they don’t want to do. Verbal – name calling, teasing, insulting, threats, intimidation.

9. Indirect Bullying Relationship/Social Bullying – gossiping, spreading rumors and lies about someone, making someone feel left out or rejected. Cyber Bullying - harassment using technology (email, Instant Messaging, websites, text messaging, Facebook, Twitter, etc.)

10. Cyber Bullying Percentage of all youth reporting bullying online (message boards, Instant Messaging, e-mail, cell phone, chat rooms, blogs, profile sites): Insults - 66% Threats - 27% Sharing embarrassing pictures - 18% Privacy violation - 25% Password theft – 33% Journal of School Health, 2008

11. Bullying in school is against the law Illinois is 1 of 47 states that have anti-bullying laws for schools

12. Workplace Bullying Ongoing mistreatment that may include - Verbal and non-verbal abuse - Threats, humiliation, and intimidation - Interfering with work

13. Workplace Bullying is against the law in Illinois The Healthy Workplace Bill guides employers and employees Illinois was the 15th state to introduce the Healthy Workplace Bill www.healthyworkplacebill.org/bill.php Healthy Workplace Bill

14. National Crime Prevention Council Want power Have a positive attitude toward violence Have quick tempers Have difficulty following rules Like hurting people and believe they are rewarded (attention, material goods) from their bullying People Who Bully - 1

15. Lack concern for others Are concerned with what they want rather than what others may want Find it difficult to see things from someone else’s point of view Are willing to use others to get what they want People Who Bully - 2 National Crime Prevention Council

16. abillitypath.org Why People with Disabilities may be the Target of Bullying People with disabilities who are bullied often stand out as being different

17. Signs of Possible Bullying Physical Changes Emotional Changes Behavioral/Social Changes National Crime Prevention Council

18. Physical Changes Cuts, bruises, scratches, broken bones Headaches, stomachaches Damaged possessions “Missing” possessions that need to be replaced Missing money National Crime Prevention Council

19. Emotional Changes Withdrawal and/or shyness Anxiety Depression Aggression National Crime Prevention Council

20. Behavioral/Social Changes Changes in eating or sleeping habits No longer wanting to participate in activities once enjoyed Beginning to bully siblings and/or friends or mistreating family pets Hurting self, attempting or threatening suicide Suddenly changing friends National Crime Prevention Council

21. Other Changes Not wanting to go to school or work Changing method of going to school or work (changing walking route, wanting to be driven instead of riding the bus) Drop in grades or change in work habits National Crime Prevention Council

22. When you notice changes… Ask to meet with the person in safe place of the person’s choice Gently point out the changes you’ve noticed Ask the person to share what has happened or is happening Listen and be fully present with the person Ask yourself, “Is this a behavior or is it a response to trauma?”

23. How Does Bullying Make People Feel?

24. Reasons People Don’t Stand Up for the Victim The bully is someone others look up to and want to hang out with. They agree with the bully because it makes them feel strong. They’re entertained by the bullying. They don’t think speaking up will help. They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will hurt them. They are afraid of being called a “tattletale”.

25. Tattling versus Telling – Is trying to get someone in trouble. Tattling – Is trying to get someone in trouble. – When you tell about bullying, you are helping someone else. Telling – When you tell about bullying, you are helping someone else.

26. Silence = Supporting the person who is bullying

27. We need YOU to help stop bullying.

28. It’s Not OK! A video highlighting The Arc Greater Twin Cities’ abuse prevention initiative. http://www.youtube.com/watch ?feature=player_embedded&v=T 1YzH9nPfLE http://www.youtube.com/watch ?feature=player_embedded&v=T 1YzH9nPfLE

29. Put a Stop to Bullying Speak up Encourage others to speak up “Cut that out!”“Stop that!” “That’s not funny!” “You’re hurting him/her” Make friends with someone who gets picked on Tell a trusted person

30. Are You Bullying Others? Does it make you feel better to hurt other people or take their things? Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way? Are you bullying someone because you have been bullied? Are you bullying someone because you have been bullied?

31. Stop Bullying Others! Apologize to people that you have hurt, and follow it up by being respectful. Apologize to people that you have hurt, and follow it up by being respectful. If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to someone about getting help. If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to someone about getting help.

32. You Are NOT Your Label Labels are for cans, not for people.

33. Strategies for Agencies/Organizations Involve self-advocates, family members, staff, and your local sexual assault center Implement a policy against bullying Implement a comprehensive bullying prevention program Provide training for everyone Investigate bullying incidents and work with people involved to prevent future incidents National Crime Prevention Council

34. 7 Things To Do When Someone Tells You of Bullying 1.Keep things private 2.Recognize how hurtful bullying is 3.Share if you have been bullied 4.Help the person figure out what he/she can do about the bullying 5.Let the person know that he/she can come to you in the future 6.Help the person advocate 7.Check in Adapted from “the are word”, Dave Hingsburger

35. What Not To Do When Someone Tells You of Bullying Don’t say, “Just ignore it”.

36. Mark Dombeck, Ph.D., 2007 Undoing the Damage Help the person feel good about himself/herself Help the person to feel safe within his/her world Help the person to find his/her gifts and talents Help the person gain control over moods and feelings Support the person in accomplishing goals Start or join a support group Get help from a professional

37. The Power of Power There are three kinds of power in the world: – POWER OVER “I’m in charge - you’re not.” – POWER WITH “Let’s work together as equals.” – POWER WITHIN “I am a strong person inside!”

38. We’re a Lot Stronger When We Work and Learn Together!

39. October is Bullying Awareness Month

41. Special Thanks To… - 1 CTF Tigers Sertoma United Walk a Mile in Their Shoes: Bullying and the Child with Special Needs, A Report and Guide from AbilityPath.org PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center Dave Hingsberger

42. Special Thanks To… - 2 Det. Andrew Palese, Delaware State Police, School Resource Officer DeKalb County School System National Crime Prevention Council

43. The Alliance © 2012 To learn more about The Alliance, please visit www.selfadvocacyalliance.org.