2. DOMESTIC ABUSE Signs, Prevention, Help & Communication Stephanie Nelson High School Students

3. WHAT IS ABUSE  Abuse can be emotional or physical, and can happen to anyone (4).  Abuse can include violence or intimidation etc. (4).

4. WHAT ABUSE LOOKS LIKE Video It gets a little shocking from here out!

5. WARNING SIGNS Controlling (3) Pressuring (3)

6. MORE WARNING SIGNS Do they get jealous?(5). Do they Isolate you ? (1) Do they exert Dominance over you? (1).

7. Emotional Abuse

8. PHYSICAL ABUSE

9. NOW EVALUATE YOURSELF?  Think about it, have you ever been in a potentially abusive relationship?  Or have you been the one who demonstrated one or two of those warning signs? Now Evaluate thyself!

10. PREVENTION  Ask yourself the following questions, are they trying to control me or isolate me? If yes, discontinue relationship or discuss first with partner.  If they have struck you, discontinue relationship!  Have they ever verbally hurt you unnecessarily? If yes, talk to your partner about it, if not discontinue relationship!

11. MORE PREVENTION TIPS  If you’re considering leaving your partner, find safe places to go (2).  Avoid cordless phones, corded phones are more private (2).  Be prepared to leave, promptly (2).

12. DO NOT ADD TO YOUR PROBLEM  Don’t blame yourself, it’s not your fault.(2)  Do not make excuses for your abuser! (2).  When help is offered to you, take it!  Only confide in those you trust.  Don’t be afraid to leave or discontinue the situation!

13. SUGGESTIONS  Look into how self protection classes like martial arts, that are local.  Look in counseling for you and your partner.

14.  Open communication  Respectful of one another  Takes each others feelings into account, when making decisions or when speaking to the other.  Lack of communication, often brought on by fear  Talking or treating the other in a disrespectful way.  Not taking each others feelings into account often hurting the others feelings! HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS Healthy Unhealthy

15. MORE ON HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS  You’ll like spending time with your partner vs. being on egg shells not enjoying your partner.  They will give you space when needed vs. Violating your space  Be able to hang out with friends together vs. your partner hating your friends & needing to hang out with them by yourself

16. THIS VS. THIS Hugs mostly Fighting mostly

17. COMMUNICATE PROPERLY  Speak calmly  Explain your issue  Do not name call  Do not throw old issues back in your partners face, that creates unnecessary turmoil

18. COMMUNICATION  Lastly hug it out, no one can stay mad after a hug

19. HELPFUL RESOURCES  A Place for Your Pets: so if you think they could be harmed when you leave, this is a place for them. A Place for Your Pets  A Safe Haven for Women & Children A Safe Haven for Women & Children

20. YOU CAN PREVENT THIS Now everyone can be protected when you leave your situation, just by knowing the resources provided

21. ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS?  What did I learn, that I didn’t already know?  What shocked you?  How did this presentation make you feel? We will discuss these questions in a few moments, so ponder your responses!

22. REFERENCES 1.Help Guide. Domestic Violence and Abuse, Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships. Retrieved from: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_ca uses_effects.htm http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_ca uses_effects.htm 2. Help Guide. Help for Abused and Battered Women, Protecting Yourself and Escaping from Domestic Violence. Retrieved from: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_pr evention.htm

23. REFERENCES 3. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (2011). Warning Signs and Red Flags Retrieved from: http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse- defined/http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse- defined/ 4. The National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2011). What Is Abuse. Retrieved from: http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/ 5. New Hope for Women (2012). Abuser Tricks Retrieved from: http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/abuser-tricks http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/abuser-tricks

24. REFERENCES Womensaid. “Brought to you by Women’s Aid”. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4RjsqPYaS0 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4RjsqPYaS0 Fanpop. “Jensen Ackles, doing eye of the tiger”. http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/27500000/Jensen- Ackles-Eye-Of-The-Tiger-jensen-ackles-27575874-1280-720.jpg (On slide 8).