1. Unlike other traits, it’s not an action or attitude. It’s a process. What is it? What is the result? How do I communicate it? How do I cultivate it?

2. A process of the way we view someone or something that has happened WRONGDOING REACTION OR RESULT DECISION TO FORGIVE FORGIVENESS REVISITED AGAIN What is it? What is the result? How do I communicate it ? How do I cultivate it?

3. What if I refuse to forgive? Remain tied to past hurts Frequent feelings of anger or hostility Chronic depression or emotional pain Unable to change or move on What if I choose to forgive? Freedom from resentment and anger Reduced depression, anxiety, pain Improved relationships Psychological well-being __ What is it? What is the result? How do I communicate it ? How do I cultivate it?

4. Do I wait for him to ask for forgiveness? Do I have to say the words “I forgive you”? Indirect – an internal decision to let it go and move on in the relationship Direct – verbal and/or nonverbal statement of forgiveness, a deliberate act of generosity toward the wrongdoer Conditional – a mutual agreement to move on if and only if the wrongdoer meets your demands What is it? What is the result? How do I communicate it ? How do I cultivate it?

5. How did these people forgive? The Amish community The Rwandan woman whose family was murdered Deborah, whose husband cheated on her What is it? What is the result? How do I communicate it ? How do I cultivate it?

6. When do you forgive? How do you forgive? What do you say? What do you do? How do you act? What is it? What is the result? How do I communicate it ? How do I cultivate it?

7. We are all capable of offending others. We are all capable of granting forgiveness. * Acknowledge the common humanity in all of us that leads us to act selfishly or make mistakes