1. RESOURCES FOR TEENS Fiction Books: Speak By Laurie Hulse Anderson Freak By Marcella Pixley Burger Wuss By M. T. Anderson Star Girl By Jerry Spinelli Blackwater By Eve Bunting Double Dutch By Sharon M. Draper Poison Ivy By Amy Goldman Coss The Secret Language of Girls By Frances O’Roark Dowell Non-Fiction Books and Real-Life Stories: Why is Everybody always Picking on Us? Dr. Terrence Walsh-Doyle Bullying: How to Deal With Taunting, Teasing and Tormenting Kathleen Winkler Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls Rachel Simmons Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman’s Inspirational Story Jodee Blanco Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity and Jealousy Rachel Simmons Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks: A Real Girl’s Guide to Getting Through The Day with Smarts and Style Erika V. Shearin Karres RESOURCES FOR TEENS Fiction Books: Speak By Laurie Hulse Anderson Freak By Marcella Pixley Burger Wuss By M. T. Anderson Star Girl By Jerry Spinelli Blackwater By Eve Bunting Double Dutch By Sharon M. Draper Poison Ivy By Amy Goldman Coss The Secret Language of Girls By Frances O’Roark Dowell Non-Fiction Books and Real-Life Stories: Why is Everybody always Picking on Us? Dr. Terrence Walsh-Doyle Bullying: How to Deal With Taunting, Teasing and Tormenting Kathleen Winkler Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls Rachel Simmons Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman’s Inspirational Story Jodee Blanco Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity and Jealousy Rachel Simmons Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks: A Real Girl’s Guide to Getting Through The Day with Smarts and Style Erika V. Shearin Karres

2. OTHER RESOURCES: ON THE INTERNET: clubophelia.com girlsinc.org www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/ problems/bullies.html www.teenlineonline.org/ www.ncpc.org/topics/by-audience/teens/ protect-yourself/cyberbullying/ At MEARS MIDDLE SCHOOL: Your teachers Your counselor The Girls’ Circle / Mrs. Keller Your librarian Your school nurse Five Ways to Stop the Madness if You are Bullied: 1. Ignore it and walk away. Hold in your anger and fear, because that is just what the bully wants to see. Keep your feelings in your heart until you can safely express them. 2. Talk about it. Find a safe person to talk to, a teacher, your counselor, your parent, or a relative. Or, write down what happened in a journal as a means of safely expressing your reaction and feelings. 3. Find your true friends. Learn who you can count on and who will not join in with mean and hurtful words or gossip. 4. Practice confidence. Know that if you seem afraid or unhappy, the bully will try to hurt your feelings again. 5. Cyberspace. If you get a mean or hurtful email, IM, phone call, or text message, do NOT answer the message. Save the message and tell a safe person about it, your parent or a teacher, for example. OTHER RESOURCES: ON THE INTERNET: clubophelia.com girlsinc.org www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/ problems/bullies.html www.teenlineonline.org/ www.ncpc.org/topics/by-audience/teens/ protect-yourself/cyberbullying/ At MEARS MIDDLE SCHOOL: Your teachers Your counselor The Girls’ Circle / Mrs. Keller Your librarian Your school nurse Five Ways to Stop the Madness if You are Bullied: 1. Ignore it and walk away. Hold in your anger and fear, because that is just what the bully wants to see. Keep your feelings in your heart until you can safely express them. 2. Talk about it. Find a safe person to talk to, a teacher, your counselor, your parent, or a relative. Or, write down what happened in a journal as a means of safely expressing your reaction and feelings. 3. Find your true friends. Learn who you can count on and who will not join in with mean and hurtful words or gossip. 4. Practice confidence. Know that if you seem afraid or unhappy, the bully will try to hurt your feelings again. 5. Cyberspace. If you get a mean or hurtful email, IM, phone call, or text message, do NOT answer the message. Save the message and tell a safe person about it, your parent or a teacher, for example.

3. Books: And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment and Emotional Violence By James Garbarino & Ellen deLara Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and Other Realities of Adolescence By Rosalind Wiseman Cliques, Eight Steps to Help your Child Survive the Social Jungle By Charlene Giannetti and Margaret Sagarese Surviving Ophelia: Mothers Share Their Wisdom In Navigating the Tumultuous Teenage Years By Cheryl Dellasega Girls Will be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters By JoAnn Deak Websites: Girls Bullying Girls: Info for Parents http://www.teachersandfamilies.com/ open/ parent/ra2.cfm In The Know Zone: Relational Aggression http://intheknowzone.com/ relational_aggression/ The Ophelia Project http://www.opheliaproject.org/main/ra_faq.htm Mean Girls: the Reality of Relational Aggression http://www.spsk12.net/Relational%20 Aggression.htm Parenting about Bullying http://kidshealth.org/Search01.jsp GIRLS BULLYING GIRLS: RESOURCES for PARENTS Books: And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment and Emotional Violence By James Garbarino & Ellen deLara Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and Other Realities of Adolescence By Rosalind Wiseman Cliques, Eight Steps to Help your Child Survive the Social Jungle By Charlene Giannetti and Margaret Sagarese Surviving Ophelia: Mothers Share Their Wisdom In Navigating the Tumultuous Teenage Years By Cheryl Dellasega Girls Will be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters By JoAnn Deak Websites: Girls Bullying Girls: Info for Parents http://www.teachersandfamilies.com/open/ parent/ra2.cfm In The Know Zone: Relational Aggression http://intheknowzone.com/relational_aggression/ The Ophelia Project http://www.opheliaproject.org/main/ra_faq.htm Mean Girls: the Reality of Relational Aggression http://www.spsk12.net/Relational%20Aggression.htm Parenting about Bullying http://kidshealth.org/Search01.jsp GIRLS BULLYING GIRLS: RESOURCES for PARENTS

4. Girls Bullying Girls: Five Ways to Help Your Daughter Cope 1. Support and help her form social groups and interests outside of school, based upon common interests. 2. Talk to her about bullying before it happens. Ask your daughter if she has seen or heard girls being mean. Let her know that she can always come to you if she has a problem. Discuss what she might do if she were bullied. 3. Listen when your daughter comes to you with a bullying problem. 4. If she can not work out the problem, seek help from her school. The school administrators, teachers and counselors are there to help. 5. Keep a watch on cyberspace. Emails, cell phone calls and text messages can be used to bully others. Girls Bullying Girls: Five Ways to Help Your Daughter Cope 1. Support and help her form social groups and interests outside of school, based upon common interests. 2. Talk to her about bullying before it happens. Ask your daughter if she has seen or heard girls being mean. Let her know that she can always come to you if she has a problem. Discuss what she might do if she were bullied. 3. Listen when your daughter comes to you with a bullying problem. 4. If she can not work out the problem, seek help from her school. The school administrators, teachers and counselors are there to help. 5. Keep a watch on cyberspace. Emails, cell phone calls and text messages can be used to bully others. Resources at Mears Your Child’s Teachers Your Child’s Counselor 742-6404 The School Librarian 742-6430 Your School Nurse 742-6401 Resources at Mears Your Child’s Teachers Your Child’s Counselor 742-6404 The School Librarian 742-6430 Your School Nurse 742-6401

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