1. Tuesday October 30, 2001 You Will Need Your Textbook For Class Today

4. Parenting Skills Chapter 6 Student Text Pages 100 to 114

5. Objectives u Explain how parents and caregivers can benefit from information about growth and development, human needs, and parenting skills.

6. Objectives u Compare the three different types of parenting styles

7. Objectives u Describe certain characteristics of a successful parent.

8. Objectives u Discuss poor parenting practices and their effect on children.

9. Vocabulary u physiological u self-actualization u psychological u parenting style u authoritarian u democratic u permissive u indulgence

10. physiological u refers to the functioning of the body

11. self-actualization u achievement of one’s full potential

12. psychological u refers to a person’s mental and emotional states

13. parenting style u The particular way that a parent consistently behaves toward children.

14. authoritarian u Parenting style in which parents are generally strict in rearing their children

15. democratic u Parenting style in which parents consider both the child’s needs and their own point of view when making decisions.

16. permissive u Parenting style in which parents generally permit a wide range of behavior.

17. indulgence u The practice of giving children more of everything, such as attention, toys, or food, whether they want it or not.

18. Volunteer to Read Opening Scenario Page 101

20. Parenting Skills u How did Holly and Roger ensure their children safety?

21. Parenting Skills u How did they convey attention and love?

22. Parenting Skills u Why is this important for children?

23. What Do Parents & Caregivers Need to Know? u Most people learn about parenting from their own parents.

24. What Do Parents & Caregivers Need to Know?

26. The Process of Growth & Development Student Text Page 102

27. Growth & Development  Learn all you can about how children grow and develop.

28. Growth & Development  Parents who know development follows a pattern can predict child’s needs and behaviors.

29. Basic Human Needs

30.  persona l care

31. Basic Human Needs  nurturin g and guidance

33. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs Student Text Page 103

36. First Level  Physiological Needs  food and water  sleep  shelter

37. Second Level  Safety Needs  safe from physical harm  sense of security  protection from danger

38. Third Level  Social Needs  belong to family or group  love and be loved  interact with others

39. Fourth Level  Esteem Needs  self-esteem  respect & admiration  see self as worthwhile

40. Fifth Level  Self-actualization Needs  reaching your full potential  becoming all that one is capable of becoming

41. Check Work Sheet Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

42. Needs & Behavior Student Text Page 105

43. What is the relationship between needs and behavior?

44. Which of our needs are more important? physical or emotional

45. Needs & Parenting Skills Student Text Page 105

46. Needs & Parenting Skills

48. Sources of Parenting Information Student Text Page 106

49. Sources of Parenting Information u Most people learn parenting techniques from their parents & other caregivers.

50. Sources of Parenting Information Most parenting information is “caught” & not “taught”

51. Sources of Parenting Information

54. u Take a parenting course or class.

55. Sources of Parenting Information u Read books & magazine articles about children & parenting

56. Sources of Parenting Information u Talk to relatives & friends about their parenting experiences in caring for children

57. Sources of Parenting Information u Observe parents & other caregivers with children

58. Sources of Parenting Information u Gain experience in caring for or working with children

59. Parenting Styles Student Text Page 106

60. Parenting Style the particular way that a parent consistently behaves toward children

61. Parenting Styles u Expectations one has of children u manner in which one treats them u type of rules established for children u the method by which the rules are made and reinforced

62. For Example... u Some parents are strict and others are casual in the way they guide and direct their child’s behavior.

63. For Example... u Some are overly harsh, while others rarely correct their children.

64. For Example... u Some let their children do things for themselves, while others do too much for them.

65. For Example... u Some parents model desirable behavior and expect their children to imitate them.

66. For Example... u Other parents threaten their children with punishment if they misbehave.

67. For Example... u Many parents are consistent and do exactly what they verbally state.

68. For Example... u Others seldom follow through on their promises or threats.

69. Comparing Parenting Styles Page 107

70. Three Basic Parenting Styles... u Authoritarian u Democratic u Permissive

71. Authoritarian u Strict in rearing practices u parents decide rules, inform child of rules, and enforce rules u parent’s behavior is predictable u parents show little or no flexibility u parents see themselves as the authority figure in the family

72. Democratic Parents consider both the child’s needs and their own point of view when making decisions.

73. Democratic u Parents & children work together to set rules. u Children are expected to conform to rules. u Has logical consequences.

74. Democratic u Patterns or behavior are predictable most of the time. u Parents usually respond in similar ways to similar situations.

75. Democratic u Principles of guidance & discipline are generally discussed by parents & children u Both parents & children can suggest changes needed due to changing circumstances.

76. Democratic u Parents see themselves as leaders in helping their children learn to share in the responsibilities for the well- being of the family members.

77. Democratic u Parents view their children as important people who have contributions to make to the family.

78. Permissive Permit a wide range of behavior

79. Permissive u Parents set few rules and allow the children much freedom and self- expression.

80. Permissive u Patterns of parent behavior are somewhat difficult to predict.

81. Permissive u Parents may respond indifferent ways to similar situations, depending on the circumstances and the child involved.

82. Permissive u Parents may change their guidance to meet individual situations.

83. Permissive u Parents expect their children to make many choices and face the consequences of their decision.

84. Changing Parenting Styles Student Text Page 108

85. Changing Parenting Styles u Parents may: –change parenting style with different children –remain consistent in parenting style until they experience a crisis or a great amount of stress

86. Predicting Parenting Styles Student Text Page 109

87. Cultural Background u Common expectations and parenting practices within culture

88. Child-Rearing Goals u Parents have various goals for their children. u Personal behaviors to career achievements.

89. Personality Patterns u Parenting style is influenced by personality patterns u heredity, personal experiences and interactions

90. Role Models u Learned behavior from parents and other caregivers. u In marriage, two different styles of role models are utilized u may cause conflicts

91. Environment u Location of home: urban vs rural

92. Environment u weather, time of day, season of year, affect child’s feelings and behavior

93. Characteristics of Successful Parents Student Text Page 110

94. Adaptability

95. Sense of humor

96. Maturity

97. Positive Self- Concept

98. Emotional Health

99. Patience

100. Integrity

101. Team Effort

102. Undesirable Parenting Practices Student Text Page 112

103. Undesirable Parenting Practices... u Unrealistic expectations u Indulgence u Submissiveness u Overprotection

104. Undesirable Parenting Practices... u Belittling u Neglect u Rejection

105. How Will You Rate As A Parent ???

106. How Will You Rate ??? u Do you feel good about yourself??? u You like who you are and what you are like

107. How Will You Rate ??? Do you believe you will make a good parent?

108. How Will You Rate ??? u You have the knowledge you need to become a parent u Understand how a child develops and your role as a parent

109. How Will You Rate ??? Do you see yourself as a caring person?

110. How Will You Rate ??? Do you value children and a family life style?

111. How Will You Rate ??? Do you like the idea of becoming a parent or of being a parent?

113. “There are only two lasting bequests parents can give their children … One is roots; The other is wings.”

114. Be sure to read Chapter 6 in preparation for a test over this chapter on following class session