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Parent / Child Relationship
Home Life Cafe Parent / Child Relationship
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Parent / Child Relationship
Family: Parent / Child Relationship Teaching our Children
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The Death of a Family
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The Death of a Family It works if we do it God’s way!
Being a good Husband, father, wife, and mother takes work! It’s up to parents to teach their children
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Parent / Child Relationship
Family: Parent / Child Relationship Teaching our Children
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4 Most common types of Parents
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Neglectful Low Love Low discipline Avoids their children
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Permissive High Love Low discipline Children Lead them
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Authoritarian Low Love High discipline Push their children
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Authoritative High Love High discipline Lead their children
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Neglectful Permissive Authoritarian Authoritative
Which type of parent are you? Which type of parent do you want your child to be?
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Psalm 127 Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat for he grants sleep to those he loves. Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him.
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Psalm 127 Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.
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Parent / Child Relationship
Family: Parent / Child Relationship Goals for our Children
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Goals direction Children adults.
the Goals direction Of their lives as You establish now for your Are the ones that will set the Children adults.
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God’s Word on Holiness... 1 Peter 1:15-16 Leviticus 19:2
But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.” I am the Lord your God; consecrate yourselves and be holy, because I am holy. ... Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy.
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Holiness DEFINE Regardless of the cost... THE WORD The WORD is the
How to develop In our children DEFINE Clearly It as the primary GOAL The WORD is the FINAL Authority Regardless of the cost... THE WORD
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DEFINE Evaluate Holiness Romans 16:19
How to develop In our children DEFINE Clearly It as the primary GOAL Evaluate Activities in light of the Ultimate goal (Holiness) Romans 16:19 “...I want you to be wise about what is good, and innocent about what is evil.”
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Holiness DEFINE Evaluate Promote
How to develop In our children DEFINE Clearly It as the primary ultimate GOAL Evaluate Activities in light of the Ultimate goal Promote New Heroes
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Promote Books Read Watch Listen
New Heroes Who we hang out with Books Read we Watch Listen Things we and to MP3 / Laptop
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Promote Just because you were brought up in church does
New Heroes Just because you were brought up in church does not mean you’re a Christian
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Promote New Heroes Heroes of the Faith Book Series!
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Promote New Heroes
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Holiness DEFINE Evaluate Promote
How to develop In our children DEFINE Clearly it as the primary ultimate GOAL Evaluate Activities in light of the Ultimate goal Promote New Heroes
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Promote Books Read Watch Listen
New Heroes Books Read we Who we hang out with Watch Listen Things we and to IPOD / Laptop
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Promote Just because you were brought up in church does
New Heroes Just because you were brought up in church does not mean you’re a Christian
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Promote New Heroes Heroes of the Faith Book Series!
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Promote New Heroes
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DEFINE Evaluate Promote Establish Fashion Show Dating
Holiness How to develop In our children DEFINE Clearly It as the primary ultimate GOAL Evaluate Activities in light of the Ultimate goal Promote New Heroes Establish A pattern of decision making in your home that includes seeking the will of God Fashion Show Now. Dating Later...
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Holiness DEFINE Evaluate Promote Establish Verbalize
How to develop In our children DEFINE Clearly It as the primary GOAL Evaluate Activities in light of the Ultimate goal Promote New Heroes Establish A pattern of decision making in your home that includes seeking the will of God Verbalize Often your desires for your children.
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Sleep-overs Holiness monitor Knowing the other family How to develop
In our children monitor closely Friendships. Sleep-overs Knowing the other family
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Holiness monitor AID Model
How to develop In our children monitor closely Friendships. AID Your children in seeking God daily. Family Devotions Personal devotions Model It in your own life
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Parent / Child Relationship
Family: Parent / Child Relationship 5 Ingredients For Effectively Raising your Children
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5 Ingredients For Effectively Raising your Children Instruction
Reinforcement Correction
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21 Rules of this House We obey God. We love, honor and pray for one another. We tell the truth. We consider one another's interests ahead of our own. We speak quietly and respectfully with one another.
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21 Rules of this House 6. We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds. 7. When someone needs correction, we correct him in love. 8. When someone is sorry, we forgive him. 9. When someone is sad, we comfort him.
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21 Rules of this House 10. When someone is happy, we rejoice with him.
11. When we have something nice to share, we share it. 12. When we have work to do, we do it without complaining. 13. We take good care of everything that God has given us.
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21 Rules of this House 14. We do not create unnecessary work for others. 15. When we open something, we close it. 16. When we take something out, we put it away. 17. When we turn something on, we turn it off.
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21 Rules of this House 18. When we make a mess, we clean it up.
19. When we do not know what to do, we ask. 20. When we go out, we act just as if we were in this house.
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21 Rules of this House 21. When we disobey or forget
any of the 21 Rules of This House, we accept the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
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5 Ingredients For Effectively Raising your Children Instruction
Reinforcement Correction Reassurance Restitution
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Parent / Child Relationship
Family: Parent / Child Relationship Biblical Discipline
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God’s Word Proverbs 13:24 Proverbs 19:18 On Discipline.
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death.
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God’s Word Proverbs 22:15 Proverbs 23:13 On Discipline.
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him. Proverbs 23:13 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.
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God’s Word Proverbs 29:15 Proverbs 29:17 On Discipline.
The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother. Proverbs 29:17 Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.
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When and How to Discipline.
80% of rod chastisement should be done in the first 5 years. Use the rod for rebellious acts and attitudes. Should be done in private. Any discipline needs to inflict pain but not injury. Be careful not to simply get the child upset at you.
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When and How to Discipline. Don’t discipline them... For childishness
For accidents For inability When you are angry When you are unsure of their guilt
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Purpose foolishness Proverbs wisdom Biblical Discipline
the Purpose foolishness And to impart For discipline as identified in is to remove Proverbs wisdom Biblical Discipline
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2 Primary Purposes of Discipline
to bring Christ conform to Christ 2 Primary Purposes of Discipline
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Time Consistency
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Actions to Avoid in Discipline. Avoid degrading statements.
Avoid unnecessary delay in discipline. Avoid anger in discipline. Avoid wounding the spirit of the child. Avoid improper discipline. Avoid leaving the discipline to only one parent. Avoid using spiritual focus as a form of discipline.
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Reasons for Ineffective
Discipline. Not like minded Inconsistent in administering discipline Lack of clear boundaries Not specific when correcting Hypocrisy of our example
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9 steps Of Discipline. 1. Send them to their room. Deal with them separately. 2. Cool off! Allow the Holy Spirit to work on their conscience. 3. Question them? “What did I see you do? Why was that wrong?” 4. Reinforce the biblical principle broken. What does God say? 5. Discipline until the will is won over.
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9 steps Of Discipline. Allow time for brokenness.
Stay with them; hold them. 7.Express and reaffirm your love! 8. Pray with them; have them ask for the Lord’s forgiveness. 9. Require restitution and asking forgiveness from the person they wronged.
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