1. Four Pillars for Building Oneness in Marriage Robert W. Kellemen, Ph.D. www.rpmministries.org

2. Four Pillars for Building Oneness in Marriage

3. The Big Idea  The first duty of a true leader is to define reality.  The first duty of a pastoral marriage counselor is to define marital reality.

4. Laying the Christ-Centered Foundation  Self-centered goals.  …meant to represent the Trinity.  …meant to represent Christ and the Church.  …to become more Christ-like.

5. Laying the Christ-Centered Foundation  Self-sufficient means.

6. Laying the Christ-Centered Foundation  Problems in our home begin with problems in our heart.  Problems in our heart require Spirit- dependence, not self-dependence.

7. Christ-Centered Marital Foundation  Glorifying God  Guilty before God  Grace from God  Growth through God’s Spirit

8. Four Pillars: Leaving  What leaving is.  Why leaving is vital…  Now…Practical Implications

9. Four Pillars: Cleaving  What cleaving is.  Why cleaving is vital…  Now…Practical Implications

10. Four Pillars: Weaving  What weaving is.  Why weaving is vital…  Now…Practical Implications

11. Four Pillars: Receiving  What receiving is.  Why receiving is vital…  Now…Practical Implications

12. Taking It Home with Us

13. Four Pillars for Building Oneness in Marriage Robert W. Kellemen, Ph.D. www.rpmministries.org