1. Dealing with Anger

2. Anger  Everyone deals with anger at some point  It is important that when you experience anger, it is dealt with in a health way

3. Hostility- Negative Effects  Definition: The intentional use of unfriendly or nasty behavior  Can affect not only others but can also affect your own health  Those who are constantly hostile are 4-7 times more likely to develop heart disease  Silent “seethers” are more like to die early then those who are even openly hostile

4. Dealing with Emotions  Look below surface of problem  See if the problem will matter tomorrow, next week or next year  Do not take action with strong emotion until you have had time to think about it  Remember, feelings are feelings; not facts  Strong feelings can be used as a sign. Think about those feelings

5. Continued…  Use positive feelings to inspire you. Use upset feelings to motivate you  Remember your not alone, everyone has strong feelings  If the feeling doesn’t go away, seek help from a parent, a trusted person, or a professional

6. Unhealthy solutions  Temper tantrum  General hostility towards others  Let it build up and lash out on others  Using Defense Mechanisms

7. Defense Mechanisms  Repression  Suppression  Rationalization  Regression  Denial  Compensation  Projection  Idealization

8. Managing Anger  Re-channel your anger  Get away by yourself, or even cry. Anger is often mistaken for sadness  Talk to a close friend about the problem  Write down what you are feeling and why. You don’t need to show anyone.  Count to 10 and try to relax

9. Anger  Clear the air of anger in a healthy way. Do not bring anger around with you.  There are many things that affect anger including environment. Understand that not everyone deals with anger the same way.  Everyone can learn healthy ways to express your feelings and deal with anger.