2. Communicating Effectively A Guide to Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 11

3. Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Today’s Presentation: Presented by: Barika Bridges Erika Everett William Pokorny Raque’l Smith Lindsay West Today’s Target Audience is Young Men Ages 18-25

4. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Listening vs. Hearing Listening: Clarifying what the person is saying and asking how he/she feels. Ask questions to understand more fully what is being said. Hearing: The average listener correctly understands and properly retains only 30% of what he or she hears.

5. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West The Role of Communication Communication is: An essential component of any relationship Vital for relationship maintenance A Difficult skill to master Can lead to conflict Can also lead to stronger relationships

6. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Men and Communication Most men lack adequate communication skills Exposed at an early age to society’s masculine image Encourages men to “hide” emotions Unable to “open up,” due to the risk of corrupting the “macho” image

7. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Men and Communication Such an ego results in: Lacking the skills necessary to communicate effectively Lacking the skills necessary to successfully understand non-verbal messages Lacking the skills necessary to successfully interpret non-verbal messages

8. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Men and Communication Is employed by sending messages that are interpreted correctly, and correctly interpreting messages that you receive

9. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West How To Effectively Communicate Maintain Realistic Expectations Try not to project a tough/superior image Avoid Prejudice

10. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West What Not To Do…

11. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West What Not To Do….. Communicative barriers you might encounter: Antagonistic messages Jumping to conclusions Not paying attention i.e. thinking to yourself while someone is talking

12. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Group Activity #1

13. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Love Belongingness Safety Security Value Recognition

14. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West “Agree to Disagree” It is sometimes difficult to reach agreement during a conversation Give your partner time to speak Use “I” messages Negative consequences: Blame Take it personally Stick to the subject Keep a friendly tone

15. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Group Activity #2

16. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Verbal Messages Face-to-Face interactions Telephone calls E-mail Letters Poetry Cards Etc.

17. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Non-Verbal Messages Gestures: Shaking your head Shrugging your shoulders Turning your back Sucking your teeth

18. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Non-Verbal Messages Facial expressions: Disappointment Surprised Raised eyebrows Confusion

19. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Non-Verbal Messages Behaviors Isolation Negligence Denial

20. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Group Activity #3

21. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Suitable Situations Effective communication can be applied: On deciding where to go on a date On getting to know your partners likes and dislikes On allowing your partner to maintain friendships with people of the opposite sex

22. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Suitable Situations Effective communication can be applied: To talk to express what you expect of your partner and vice versa When discussing sexual history and beliefs of contraceptives

23. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Group Activity #4

24. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West Discussion…. Any Questions?