1. 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
Introduction lessons
All language in this PowerPoint taken directly from Sean Covey’s book.

2. What is a habit?
Habits: things we do repeatedly, but are hardly aware that we have them.
Some are good (exercise, planning ahead, showing respect).
Some are bad (negative thinking, blaming others).
Some don't matter (taking showers at night, eating yogurt with a fork, reading last chapter in a book)
They're on autopilot.

3. The 7 habits will help me how?
Get control of your life
Improve relationships with your friends/family
Make smarter decisions
Get along with your parents
Overcome addiction
Define your values and what matters most to you
Get more done in less time
Increase your self-confidence
Be happy
Find balance (school/work/friends/family/activities)
Read page 7 to students. The habits we practice make you effective. Contrast habits of highly defective teens.

4. What is a paradigm?
Paradigm: perception, the way you see something, your point of view
Can create limitations if they are way off the mark.
How do you view yourself?
How do you view others?
How do you "center" yourself - what is the driving force of my life?
Friends? Stuff? School? Parents? Sports/Hobbies? Self?
All can lead to lack of balance in your life and limit ability to work with others and be successful.

5. What is a principle?
principle: life centers that can be applied equally to everyone.
Examples: honesty, service, love, hard work, respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty, responsibility
What are their opposites? Imagine living a life based on their opposites.

6. Personal Bank Account You, your character, the private victory
This account is how you feel about yourself
Deposits
Withdrawals
Keep promises to yourself
Break personal promises
Do small acts of kindness
Keep to yourself
Be honest
Be dishonest
Tap into your talents
Neglect your talents
Renew yourself
Wear yourself out
Take care of yourself
Negative thinking/actions

7. Habit 1: Be Proactive I am the force.
Proactive people make choices based on values, think before they act
You cannot control everything that happens to you, you can control what you do about it.
Press “pause:” get control, think about your response, make smarter decisions!

8. Actions of Proactive People
Are not easily offended
Take responsibility for their choices
Think before they act
Bounce back when something bad happens
Always find a way to make it happen
Focus on the things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t.

9. Sound Proactive I’ll do it I can do better than that
Let’s look at all our options
I choose to
There’s “gotta” be a way
I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

10. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
“Control your own destiny or someone else will.” – Jack Welch
Develop a clear picture of where you want to go with your life.
Decide what your values are and set goals.

11. Without a vision of the end…
“Would you tell me please which way I ought to walk from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where-”said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way to walk,” said the Cat.
-From Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

12. You are on a mission
Mission statement – what is really important to you. As you go through life, you make decisions to carry out this larger vision.
Watch out for these roadblocks:
Negative labels
“It’s all over” syndrome
Wrong wall

13. Your mission and your goals
Mission = Goals =

14. Goal! Count the cost Write them down Do it! Use momentous moments
Avoid withdrawals to your PBA/consider benefits
Write them down
This forces you to be specific
Do it!
“Do or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda, the great Jedi Master
Use momentous moments
Setbacks, tragedies, new beginnings have power.
Rope up
Strength from others will lead you to greater success.

15. Focus on your mission Carpe Diem!
“Most of us will never do great things. But we can do small things in a great way.” – Mouritsen
Carpe Diem!

16. Habit 3: Put first things first
You have a lot to do and there isn’t enough time to do it!
Prioritize and manage your time
Overcome your fears and be strong during hard moments!

17. Will and Won’t Power
Will-power: the strength to say yes to your most important things
Won’t power: the strength to say no to less important things and to peer pressure

18. Life is like a suitcase…
The more organized you are, the more time you will have for family, friends, schoolwork, yourself, your hobbies.

19. Time Quadrants Urgent Not urgent Important The Procrastinator
Exam tomorrow
Friend injured
Late for work
Project due today
The Prioritizer
Planning, goal setting
Essay due in a week
Exercise
Relationships
Relaxation
Not important
The Yes – Man
Unimportant phone calls
Interruptions
Other people’s small problems
Peer pressure
The Slacker
Too much tv
Endless phone calls
Excessive computer time
Time wasters

20. The action plan
Use your planner (it won’t tie you down, it will free you up!)
Plan weekly (take 15 minutes to plan your week)
Identify the most important things you need to accomplish this week
Block out time for these things
Schedule everything else
Adapt daily

21. Comfort vs. Courage
In order to achieve first things first, you must overcome fear and peer pressure.
Comfort zone is risk free. No stretching needed. Filled with things you know.
Courage zone is filled with adventure, risk and challenge. The only place you will find opportunity and your full potential.
Winning means rising each time you fall.

22. Habits 1+2+3=Personal Victories
Habit one: you are the driver, not the passenger.
Habit two: since you are driving, decide where you want to go and draw a map to get there!
Habit three: Get there! Don’t let roadblocks take you off course!

23. Relationship Bank Account
The amount of trust and confidence you have in your relationships
You have accounts with everyone you meet
These accounts never close
RBA Deposits
RBA Withdrawals
Keep promises
Break promises
Do small acts of kindness
Keep to yourself
Be loyal
Gossip and break confidences
Listen
Don’t listen
Say you’re sorry
Be arrogant
Set clear expectations
Set false expectations

24. Habit 4: Think Win-Win I can win, and so can you.
There is plenty of success to go around.
You must accomplish private victory first.
Use competition as a benchmark to measure yourself against.
Compare yourself against your own potential.

25. And the winner is NOT…
Win-lose situation: you get your way, but someone else doesn’t.
Using other people for own selfish purposes
Getting ahead at the expense of another
Spreading rumors (putting someone else down puts you “up.”
Insisting on getting your way (no concern for others)
Being jealous/envious when good happens to others.

26. When you’re not the winner…
Lose-Win situation: take the blame/back down to avoid arguments, tension.
Set low expectations, compromising your standards again and again.
Giving into peer pressure.
Lose-Lose situation: if I am going down, you are going down, too.
If both people want to win at all costs, both are going to end up losing

27. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood.
Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears.
Can you hear what people are not saying?
Listen without judging and without giving advice. Try to see and feel the world from the speaker’s perspective.
Mirror the words of others to uncover the deeper issue

28. Is anyone listening? Poor listening styles to avoid – do you hear me?
Spacing out
Pretend listening
Selective listening
Word listening
Self-centered listening

29. Habit 6: Synergize
“Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.” – Helen Keller Synergy: achieved when 2 or more people work together to create a better solution than either could alone.
Synergy is:
Synergy is not:
Celebrating differences
Tolerating differences
Teamwork
Working independently
Open-mindedness
Thinking you are always right
Finding new/better ways
Compromise

30. Synergy is a process Define the problem or opportunity
Their way (Seek first to understand the ideas of others)
My way (Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas)
Brainstorm (create new options and ideas)
High Way (find the best solution)

31. Great teams are made up of great people…
Plodders
Followers
Innovators
Harmonizers
Show-offs

32. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
“The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining.” – President John F. Kennedy Keep your personal self sharp so you can better deal with life. Keep your “saw” sharp by building in time to keep your body, brain and emotions in shape.

33. Sharpening strategies
Brain
Body
Emotions
Read
Exercise
Volunteer
Write
Eat healthy
Laugh
Learn new skills
Sleep well
Friends/family
Relax