1. Emotional Empowerment Presentation A 3 Step Approach For Regaining Control Over Emotional States Click The Arrows On The Top Right To Go To Next Slides www.thelifefacilitator.com

2. Discover In This Presentation … What is an emotion? Why emotions can be so hard to control The Thought-Emotion-Behaviour Cycle How to break this cycle What you can experience when you release a strong emotion. The role emotions play in addictions and habits www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

3. Negative Emotional States Some examples of negative emotions: Anger Anxiety Sadness Grief Shame Guilt Etc www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

4. Do Any Of These Sound Familiar? Overwhelming sense of fear or anxiety? Quick temper and verbally abusive to others? Feeling sad or down a lot? Frustrated and procrastinating over and over again and lacking the motivation to get things done? Get overwhelmed to the point of frustration or tears? Getting over an ex partner or unhealthy relationship with someone? Overcoming the loss of someone or something (relationship or financial) Overwhelming sense of guilt or shame over something? www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

5. What is an Addiction/Habit? An addiction is a behaviour or a dependence on a chemical substance that is used to calm an ongoing, intense emotional state. It is an action taken in reaction to an emotional response after an internal or external stimulus. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

6. Some Habits That Form as a Result of Emotions Smoking Alcohol Coffee / Caffeine Emotional Eating / Comfort Eating Nail Biting Hair Pulling Gaming A Poor Relationship or Ex Partner Etc www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

7. When Emotions Take Hold It can be debilitating! Run your life instead of you being in control of it. Take away your freedom of choice and peace of mind People begin to avoid you and your social life is affected Leads to relationship problems & breakdowns Prevents you from developing your true potential and living a fulfilling life! www.thelifefacilitator.com ©2013

8. Why Emotions Can Run Our Lives Ever tried to control an intense feeling, emotion or improve your mood? We look for ways to distract ourselves by doing certain behaviours or use substances to soothe our emotions. The MOST addictive chemicals are … … EMOTIONS! EVERYTHING we do is to achieve an emotional state! www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

9. Why Emotions & Habits Can Be Hard To Control 95% of our actions are run by unconscious programing. We are only 5% in control consciously. The primary goal of the unconscious mind is survival. The unconscious plays out “patterns” that we learnt at a time that was keeping us safe at some level. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

10. Why Emotions & Habits Can Be Hard To Control (cont…) This is why we can be addicted to things that we know are not good for us on a conscious level. The emotional mind is stronger than the logic mind. The unconscious remembers EVERYTHING, even if you cannot consciously remember. It does this by linking it to emotion. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

11. The Mind / Body Cycle Thoughts in the mind continue to run the emotion in the body Emotions in the body continue to run thoughts in the mind MindBody www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

12. The Emotional Behaviour Cycle 2. Thought / Belief3. Emotion4. Behaviour / Action1. Trigger www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

13. How a Thought Becomes a Belief We have around 10,000 thoughts a day on average A belief is a thought that we accept as true. When a thought has an emotional charge attached to it, it becomes a belief. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

14. What is An Emotion? Our thoughts set off a chemical reaction in our brain which produces the emotions we feel running through our bodies. The word E-motion comes from Energy In Motion. The Law of The Conservation of Energy (from physics) tells us that, “Energy cannot be created or destroyed … it can only change form.” Quantum physics tells us that EVERYTHING is energy when it is broken down to it’s smallest possible components. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

15. Behaviour or Action A behaviour is an action or reaction to the emotional response from a thought or belief. It can be using a chemical to soothe or calm the emotion … OR It can be a behaviour that get’s acted out (such as an angry outburst, chewing nails, shopping spree, eating without being hungry, etc) www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

16. The Emotional Behaviour Cycle 2. Thought / Belief3. Emotion4. Behaviour / Action1. Trigger www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

17. Ways To Control Emotions & Overcome Habits Use WILLPOWER! You only get a limited amount of willpower per day. It takes about 30 days of consistant effort to use willpower to change a habit. Willpower is about changing the behaviour, NOT the driving emotion! The underlying emotion will remain and the behaviour will either return, or become another unresourceful behaviour! The behaviour could become resourceful, but again, the strong emotion is still there looking to be resolved. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

18. There Is An Easier & Better Way! Most programs are based on changing the BEHAVIOUR and don’t address the underlying driving emotion. It is very hard to move forward in life when you have a strong emotion holding you back and keeping you stuck. Your head gets “foggy” and it drains you of valuable energy So … what can we do about this ??? RELEASE the Driving Emotion! www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

19. Release The Driving Emotion Releasing the Driving Emotion can result in … Behaviour being easier to change A sense of physical release in the body More energy in the body More clarity in the mind Possibility that other old emotions become unstuck and other behaviours become easier to change. Possibility that pains reduce and other conditions improve or disappear. Life just gets easier and better www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

20. My View On What Emotions Are About An emotion (or a feeling) is a resistance to what is. It is an unrealistic expectation on someone or something to be what it’s not. It’s a natural feedback system that’s alerting us that we are trying to control someone or something. This can be run unconsciously from patterns we have developed in our past. In our mind, we are stuck in our past or projecting our future and continuously living it out instead of living in the present moment. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

21. My View About Emotions (cont...) Emotions or feelings are looking to get your attention! A feeling is a “part” of us. It is a feedback system to tell us that something is not right and to pay attention. It is a “part of us” looking to become part of a whole with us again. You fix a flat tyre on a car to make it “whole” again. www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

22. Questions Wouldn’t it be good to release a driving emotion all together? Doesn’t it make more sense to release a stuck emotion before looking to change a behaviour? What would it be like to shatter those limiting beliefs that are holding you back, and also change those old patterns that are no longer serving you? How would life be different for you if you were in control of your emotions and had the power to change the behaviours that are running your life? www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

23. Emotional Empowerment Program A 3 Step Program for Overcoming Emotional States Comprises of the 3 R’s: 1. Recognise – the pattern and the underlying emotion 2. Release – the driving emotion 3. Replace – with a more resourceful behaviour www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

24. Emotional Empowerment Program Consists of: One on One sessions of about 1.5 to 2 hours. (Number of sessions varies as everyone is different). Sessions done in person, over the phone or on skype. Email support www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

25. Testimonial 1 “ I first came to Michael for help with addiction. In one session, I felt that he had instilled permanent change in me. I regained my power and my self- control, and it was an amazing feeling. I decided to have a second follow up session, just to make sure I had cemented it as a permanent change. Now, I feel free, uplifted, and I really do feel in control. I haven’t relapsed, and I don’t plan on it. I am more in touch with myself, my emotions, and my body than I ever have been, and it feels fantastic. “ www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

26. Testimonial 2 “ To release so many things (anger, pain, hurt, depression) that have been stuck inside me. In fact, it is such a relief that much of my ‘stuckness’ is now gone. I feel so much different in the way that I see things and I accept things differently now. Perhaps it’s too early to tell but I can feel the difference in my heart now. It’s so much lighter than before yesterday. “ www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

27. Testimonial 3 “ I felt, I was stuck in my career and my efforts at work were not valued by my superiors. I was confused about my job, whether to stick with the job or quit and start all over again. Michael used a unique way of probing my thought process to find out my actual problem. I have an overwhelming sense of peace and calm and a solid feeling of knowing where I am. “ www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

28. Testimonial 4 “ You created a space for me that allowed me to truly explore and delve into the parts of me that I have been spending 20 years trying to ignore. You managed to do this in an hour and a half! I now know what to do when I have a lump in my throat or a knot in my stomach… and I cannot thank you enough. ” www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

29. Testimonial 5 “ Without Michael there to guide me through my fears and anxieties which were causing physical symptoms, I would not be where I am today – full of hope, confident and gratitude for his motivating and insightful sessions. So many changes have taken place already within me and in my life. My husband has noticed and appreciated, an amazing difference in my happiness and the considerable reduction in anxiety episodes. It is a true feeling of calm and clarity with my thoughts and actions. “ www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

30. More Testimonials & Free Gift See these testimonials in full and even more testimonials at… www.thelifefacilitator.com/testimonials You can also download my Free Ebook: “Transformational Success Secrets” www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

31. Questions, Bookings & Contact Information To book your Free Introductory Session and any other questions, contact me now at: EMAIL: michael@thelifefacilitator.com Or via my website: www.thelifefacilitator.com www.thelifefacilitator.com © 2013

32. Thank You For Watching Michael Sfirse – The Life Facilitator Email: michael@thelifefacilitator.com Website: www.thelifefacilitator.com Facebook:www.facebook.com/thelifefacilitator.