2. Unit4 How to Make a Good Impression New Horizon College English Unit Four Section A 张庆云

3. Unit4 Talk about good qualities in communication. Make good impressions on others. Understand the importance of nonverbal communication. Develop a paragraph of listing examples Objectives

4. Unit4 I. Introduction II. Preview III. Theme-& task-based leading-in IV. Section A-Text Study V. Extensive assignments VI. Testing yourself VII. Optional tasks VIII. Content-revisiting I. Introduction II. Preview III. Theme-& task-based leading-in IV. Section A-Text Study V. Extensive assignments VI. Testing yourself VII. Optional tasks VIII. Content-revisiting Contents

5. Unit4 I. A brief introduction of the text  live in the society  communicate with all kinds of people  through many different ways  communicate with them directly  by talking with them face to face  communicate with them by phones, computers  focus on the interpersonal communication  learn some useful tactics or tricks  make a good impression

6. Unit4 I. Introduction II. Preview III. Theme-& task-based leading-in IV. Section A-Text Study V. Extensive assignments VI. Testing yourself VII. Optional tasks VIII. Content-revisiting I. Introduction II. Preview III. Theme-& task-based leading-in IV. Section A-Text Study V. Extensive assignments VI. Testing yourself VII. Optional tasks VIII. Content-revisiting II. Preview

7. Unit4 II. Preview Watch the video and discuss Watch the video and discuss 1. What is “ first impression ” ? 1. What is “ first impression ” ? 2. First impression process 2. First impression process 3. Getting familiar with Text A 3. Getting familiar with Text A Play

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9. II. Preview 1. First Impression Within the first seven seconds of a new encounter, you are evaluated … even if it is just a glance. People appraise your visual and behavioral appearance from head to toe. They observe your demeanor, mannerisms, and body language and even assess your grooming and accessories – watch, handbag, briefcase. Within only three seconds, you make an indelible impression. You may intrigue some and disenchant others.

10. Unit4 II. Preview 2. First impression process The first impression process occurs in every new situation. Within the first few seconds, people pass judgment on you – looking for common surface clues. Once the first impression is made, it is virtually irreversible. The process works like this: The process works like this:

11. Unit4 II. Preview The process works like this: If you appear to be of comparable business or social level, you are considered suitable for further interaction. If you appear to be of higher business or social status, you are admired and cultivated as a valuable contact. If you appear to be of lower business or social standing, you are tolerated but kept at arm's length. If you are in an interview situation, you can either appear to match the corporate culture or not, ultimately affecting the outcome.

12. Unit4 II. Preview 3. Getting familiar with Text A 3. Getting familiar with Text A Three suggestions on making a good impression on others:  Be yourself.  Use your eyes.  Lighten up. Summary

13. Unit4 II. Preview summary You can learn to make a positive and lasting first impression, modify it to suit any situation, and come out a winner. Doing so requires you to assess and identify your personality, physical appearance, lifestyle and goals. Those who do will have the advantage. Home

14. Unit4 III. Theme-based and task-based leading-in 1. Words concerning first impression 2. Tips for making good impression at interview 3. First impression vs. second impression 4. Discussion and Presentation

15. Unit4 1. Words concerning first impression Unspoken / non-verbal communication spoken / verbal communication consciously / unconsciously chain of reactions attitude; presentation; presenter; Effective communication; physical appearance; rate of speech; pitch and tone of voice; gestures; facial expressions; eye contact; positive; optimistic; confident; courage; courageous; relaxed; humorous; conversational skills

16. Unit4 2. Tips for making good impression at interview Firm handshake Smile Make eye contact Practice good posture (don’t be stiff) Be an active listener Clasp hands in lap (don’t fidget) Attitude Enthusiastic Confident (without being defensive) Outgoing A sense of humor Polite Humble Not too aggressive Be yourself

17. Unit4 3.First impression vs. second impression According to conventional wisdom, the first impression you make upon meeting a person sets the tone for the subsequent development of the relationship. A bad impression, therefore, constitutes an irrecoverable error. That being the case, you should always make it the highest priority to look your best in any situation in which you might meet people, and women in particular. Opposing views: Shallow, superficial people judge others by "first impressions". It is an indication of intellectual laziness (and possibly brain damage), of an unwillingness and possible inability to reason deeply, analyze, and make informed decisions. First impression

18. Unit4 3.First impression vs. second impression Second Impression Wisdom dictates holding back the most important parts of one's self at first contact, in favor of a gradual and orderly getting acquainted period. Getting to know someone, truly know them, is a slow and sometimes messy affair, full of risks and potential missteps, and only a fool would attempt to short-circuit the process by relying on a 'first impression'. There is much more to a person than can be taken in at a single glance, and, as is generally the case, "what you see is not what you get".

19. Unit4 4. Discussion and Presentation I think it is (not) proper to judge a person by first impressions What is your opinion? Home

20. Unit4 Structure of the text Structure of the text Questions to comprehension Words using Useful Expressions Sentence patterns Sentences structures Sentences structures Summary Writing analysis Section A-Text study Home

21. Unit4 Text Structure Research shows we make up our minds about people through unspoken communication within seven seconds of meeting people. Introduction (Paras.1~2) Development (Paras.3~14) Conclusion (Para.15) The secrets to make a good impression: 1) You are the message. 2) Be yourself. 3) Use your eyes. 4) Lighten up. You already have within you the power to make a good impression, because nobody can be you as well as you can. Text study

22. Unit4 Comprehension questions (1). How do you judge a person you meet for the first time? (2). Besides verbal communication do you know any ways of nonverbal communication? (3). In interpersonal communication do non-verbal factors affect the impression people make? (4). What is one way by which you can have a positive effect on other people? (5). How can you behave yourself to maintain the best state or to be the best person you can? Text study

23. Unit4 点击进入重点单词讲解 Words using 1. impression2. conscious 5. Focus 4. encounter 9. contact 7. consistent 6. absorb 8. depress 3. range

24. Unit4 1. impression --[u/c] the opinion or feeling you have about someone or something because of the way they seem Examples Arriving late won't create a very favorable impression. We were left with the impression that the contract was ours if we wanted it. I get the distinct impression that we're not wanted here. It was their first meeting and Richard was determined to make an impression. details

25. Unit4 2. conscious A. aware of something, noticing or realizing something B. awake, knowing what is going on around Examples Are you conscious of how people will regard such behavior? He was in a coma for days, but now he is conscious again. Conscious, unconscious, consciously, unconsciously, self-conscious, self-consciously details

26. Unit4 He is unconscious of any changes. The thief knocked him unconscious. He consciously turned down the radio. He unconsciously imitated his father. He is a boy with self-consciousness. More examples

27. Unit4 3. range occur between certain limits, vary or extend between specified limits Examples The frontier ranges from the northern hills to the southern coast. A wide range of colors and patterns are available... The tactics employed can range from overt bullying to subtle emotional blackmail. details

28. Unit4 4. Encounter n. a meeting with somebody that happens by chance or unexpectedly v. meet or find oneself faced by something or somebody unpleasant, dangerous or difficult. Examples an encounter with a stranger/ an old friend I encountered many difficulties when I first started this job. details

29. Unit4 5. focus concentrate one ’ s attention on something The spellings focuses, focusing, focused are also used. The plural of the noun can be either foci or focuses. Examples Please focus your minds on the following problems. If you focus on a particular topic or if your attention is focused on it, you concentrate on it and think about it, discuss it, or deal with it, rather than dealing with other topics. He is currently focusing on assessment and development... details

30. Unit4 6. Absorb v. hold the attention or interest of somebody fully Examples be absorbed in something He was absorbed in reading his book that he forgot the time. He was so absorbed in playing the piano that he didn ’ t notice that it rained outside. details

31. Unit4 7. Consistent adj.( of a person, his behavior, his views etc.) always keeping to the same pattern or style, unchanging. agreeing, in agreement Examples You ’ re not very consistent: first you condemn me, then you praise me. He was consistent in his attitude. consistent with something What you say now is not consistent with what you said last week. Consistently You should be consistently honest. details

32. Unit4 8. Depress v. make somebody sad and without enthusiasm. Examples Wet weather always depresses me. The bad news depressed him heavily. Depressed, depressing, depression details

33. Unit4 9. Contact a state in which two people or things touch each other, and a chemical reaction is occurring. communication with a person, official group, country etc. Examples She has lost contact with her son. Eye contact is an effective way when talking with others. details Text study

34. Unit4 Useful expressions make up one ’ s mind drive somebody crazy at one ’ s best lighten up take … seriously

35. Unit4 make up one ’ s mind decide to do something form one ’ s opinions about somebody Examples He hasn't made up his mind when to go yet. He has made up her mind to give up smoking. We made up our minds about him through talking with him. details

36. Unit4 drive somebody crazy & at one ’ s best make somebody feel very upset or annoyed. in one ’ s best state or form Examples His wife ’ s endless complaints almost drove him crazy. She wasn ’ t at her best in the last examination. details

37. Unit4 lighten up & take … seriously (an expression you say to tell somebody to stop being so serious or annoyed; be relaxed and happy treat a thing or person as important Examples His friends told him to lighten up after the accident. If you want to enjoy your life you should learn not to take everything too seriously. Don ’ t take it seriously. It ’ s nothing. details Text study

38. Unit4 Sentence patterns Research shows we make up our minds about people through unspoken communication with seven seconds of meeting them. (Para. 1) Consciously or unconsciously, we show our true feelings with our eyes, faces and attitudes, causing a chain of reactions, ranging from comfort to fear. (para.1) You are the message. (para.3) The secret has always been you are the message. (para.3) You were committed to what you were talking about and so absorbed in the moment you lost all self-consciousness.(para.5) Many how-to books advise you stride into a room and impress others with your qualities. (Para. 6)

39. Unit4 Research tells us that we usually form an opinion or get an impression of somebody within the first seven seconds after we meet him through nonverbal communication i.e. we don’t speak to him and just watch him. Aware or unaware, we express our feelings through our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes. When others notice our feelings they will have a sequence of various reactions from comfort to fear. Understanding the Sentences

40. Unit4 You are the message. (para.3) You yourself express your feeling through your eyes, face, body and attitudes. All these can form the impression about you to the others. The secret has always been you are the message.(para.3) The sentence means: The best way been you yourself give off the information about you to others. Here “ the secret” means the best way or the only way to be successful. Understanding the Sentences

41. 1. You were committed to what you were talking about and so absorbed in the moment, you lost all self-consciousness. ( L19 ) Because you paid so much attention to what you were talking about, you almost forget everything outside and you didn't feel shy any more. that 你对你所谈论的事情非常投入，当时完全沉 浸其中，以至于完全没有了羞怯的感觉。 Understanding the Sentences

42. Unit4 Many how-to books advise you stride into a room and impress others with your qualities. (Para. 6) The sentence means: Many books that offer advice on how to make a good impression tell you to walk into a room with quick long steps and make others feel admiration and respect for your good qualities. Here “ how-to books ” means the books that offer advice on how to do things well or achieve something. Understanding the Sentences Text study

43. Unit4 Sentence structures and grammar points (1) V-ing as the adverbial We show our true feelings with our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes, causing a chain of reactions. We show our true feelings with our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes. This causes a chain of reactions.

44. Unit4 More examples: Because she was alone at home she felt very boring. Being alone at home she felt very boring. They sang and danced noisily next door last night and it made me unable to fall asleep. They sang and danced noisily next door last night making me unable to fall asleep. When she arrived at the airport she found the plane had left. Arriving at he airport she found the plane had left. He held a big box in his hands and stood in front of the door silently. Holding a big box in his hands he stood in front of the door silently.

45. Unit4 (2) so … that … You were so absorbed in the moment that you lost your self-consciousness. Sentence structures and grammar points

46. Unit4 More examples: The car was so expensive that she couldn ’ t afford it. She was so excited that she couldn ’ t help crying. She was such a kind woman that everyone around her liked her very much. Compare: so that She got up very early this morning so that she could catch the first bus. She moved to the big city so that she would have more job opportunities.

47. Unit4 (3) If 引导的虚拟条件句：（与现在事 实不符） If I did agree, I certainly wouldn ’ t look at my feet or at the ceiling. More examples: If I were you, I wouldn ’ t do such a silly thing. If it was true, I would tell it to your parents. Sentence structures and grammar points Text study

48. Summary Now that we become aware of the importance of body language to our success in social contacts and we are also clear about its five major aspects through which our body language sends messages to others, it is quite necessary for us to better ourselves in the application of body language. Our positive appearance can be effected through the appropriate clothes we wear and the popular but well-dressed hairstyles we keep. The improvement of our posture should be focused on the way we stand, the way we approach others, and the way we display our abilities. Home Gestures are often overdone by presenters. If we find someone’s ideas and charm glow with the help of gestures, we should keep in mind where they come in; but on the other hand, when we find someone’s gestures add nothing but boredom to his speech, we should see to it that such a thing will not happen to ours. We should apply our skills of “eye contact and facial expressions” to where we show respect or liking for the views of others, and where we feel confidence in ourselves.

49. Unit4 Writing analysis A Paragraph of a Statement Supported by a List of Things Sample Others will want to be with you and help you if you use your good qualities. They include: physical appearance, energy, rate of speech, pitch and tone of voice, gestures, expressiveness of the eyes, and the ability to hold the interest of others. Others form an impression about you based on these.

50. Unit4 A Paragraph of a Statement Supported by a List of Things Your good qualities include: 1.physical appearance 2.energy 3.rate of speech 4.pitch and tone of voice 5.gestures 6.expressiveness of the eyes 7.ability to hold the interest of others

51. Unit4 Structured writing: Topic: How to make your public speaking successful? Directions: Practice writing a paragraph that starts with a general statement and goes on to list several examples to support it. Text study

52. Unit4 V. Extensive tasks - further discussion

53. Discussion topics (1). Do you care about other people’s impression on you? (2). Before you go out to school or work or somewhere else each time do you pay special attention to your appearance for example your clothes and your hairstyle etc? If you do, why? (3).Among your family members or your friends do you care about the impression that you make to them? (4). When you encounter a stranger or an important person, will you pay special attention to the impression that you will make to him? (5). On some special occasions like a job interview will you think about some ideas and try to produce a positive impression to your interviewers? If you do, how? Home

54. Unit4 VI. Testing yourself - questionnaire Contents- I. Introduction II. Preview III. Theme-based and task-based leading-in IV. Section A-Text V. Extensive assignments VI. Testing yourself VII. Optional tasks VIII. Content revisiting

55. Unit4 1. When I phone potential employers, I use a clear and confident voice and always first identify who I am and why I am calling. a. True b. False Item 1

56. Unit4 2. When greeting someone for the first time, a cupped handshake is a good way to show my sincerity and interest. a. True b. False Item 2

57. Unit4 3. When introducing myself in a job interview, I should avoid saying anything except my name until the other person responds. a. True b. False Item 3

58. Unit4 4. I always avoid asking questions at an interview because it is rude to interrupt the interviewer by asking questions. a. True b. False Item 4

59. Unit4 Doing exercises: Fill in the blank with the words given below. Chang the form if necessary.

60. Unit4 react range encounter present consistent impression encounter resent (1). The beautiful scenery of the countryside him deeply. (2). She didn ’ t show any to his rude words. (3). These gloves on sale are of different prices, from two dollars to five dollars. (4). She felt because she failed to pass the examinations. (5). I can ’ t go with you to the cinema today because I had to prepare my on sign language for tomorrow. (6). I had a brief with an angry client this morning. (7). She wasn ’ t of her mistakes at that time. (8). As a teacher, when we treat different students we should keep. Home

61. Unit4 VII. Optional tasks information check true or false Contents- information check true or false

62. Unit4 People communicate through many ways like___,______,______, newspapers, TV, broadcast, satellites, telephones etc. In modern times _______means have become more and more______. People have adopted some to communicate. All of us communicate with one another______, as well as with words. Nonverbal language involves_______, sign language and gestures. People communicate______, but sometimes they use nonverbal language in communication. Background check Talking, asking, gestures, communication, convenient, quick and safe means, nonverbally, body language, verbally

63. Unit4 True or False?  Follow all the advice in how-to books.  Change according to different situations.  Match tones of voice and gestures with words.  It’s true to the audience that “Seeing is believing”.  Keep eye contact while talking to others.  Take yourself too seriously.  Often say “I”. Home

64. Unit4 VIII. Content-revisiting Contents- Reviewing new words and useful expressions

65. Review: new words impress,depress,conscious,reaction, range,introduction,spouse,interview, encounter,Focus,presentation,physical, rate,tone,appearance,gesture,absorb, audience,contact,relax, lighten,humor, roar,brood,entertainment

66. Useful expressions A chain of reactions A job interview Take a good hard look at… Make a persuasive presentation The secret/trick Expression through eyes Form an impression Look right/straight at.. Keep an eye on Break eye contact Enter into a lion’s cage Entertainment industry Take themselves too seriously Lose al self –consciousness Power handshake Fix one’s eyes on … Follow advice Drive me crazy At your best Address the garden club Mixed message Believe what you see over what you hear Become angry over tiny problems Throw back one’s head No one can be you as well as you can Home

67. Unit4 Thank you Enjoy yourself 张庆云