1. Personal Development
Objective 1

2. Understanding Yourself
Chapter 1

3. The Journey Ahead
Have you ever wondered what life will be like as an adult?
What attitudes, qualities, and skills will you need for life?
How do you obtain the skills needed for adulthood?

4. Personality Characteristics that make you different from someone else
Can personalities change?
Where do we get our personality from?
What might cause a personality to change?

5. Origins of Personalities
Heredity and Environment
Heredity is a combination of traits inherited from our parents (genetic make-up)
Environment is the conditions that surround a person (family, friends, circumstances)

6. Self-Concept How you define what you are
Important in adolescence to develop a positive self-concept
How you see yourself is how others are going to perceive you
Your self-concept also helps to develop your self-esteem or value you place on yourself
Self-esteem is important because it has a strong influence on your behavior and your well-being

7. Your Potential Capability of becoming more than you are right now
Only you can determine your potential
If you were to look back at your life from this very moment, do you have any regrets? Mistakes?
Reaching your potential is a life long process
What can side track teens from reaching their potential?

8. Personal Development You work toward your potential
The more you learn, the more you are able to learn, the closer you are to reaching your potential

9. Character People who possess moral strength and integrity
People with character…
Understand differences between right and wrong
Do what is right
Accept universal values
Demonstrate responsible behavior

10. Values Beliefs, feelings, and ideas about what is important
Your values are reflected in your actions and the decisions you make
Universal values include: respect, tolerance, compassion, fairness, trust, honesty, and responsibility
Learned directly (being told) and indirectly (observation)

11. Cont. Learn first values from family
Influences on values come from religious backgrounds, cultural backgrounds, media (advertising), and society (laws)

12. Choosing values: Choose positive values Listen to your conscience
Turn to your family
Gain knowledge
Evaluate the source
Talking to others

13. Personal Responsibility
Responsible means you are reliable and accountable
Accountable means you are willing to accept the consequences of his or her actions and words
Maturity means you act with responsible, adult-like behavior and attitudes

14. Recognizing Character
Values and responsibility produce people with character

15. Growth and Development

16. Changes
In order to make the transition from adolescence into adulthood, a person must go through changes
Everyone changes during adolescence
Physically
Emotionally
Socially
Intellectually
Morally

17. Physical Growth Change in body stature
Influenced by heredity and health habits
The way you eat, exercise, and care for your body will influence your physical growth
Hormones also affect physical growth

18. Emotional Growth Development of a range of feelings
Hormones affect emotional growth
Mood swings are very common
Most teens are very sensitive about their emotions

19. Intellectual Growth
Developing the ability to reason and form complex thought patterns
Influenced by your heredity, environment, and desire to learn

20. Social Growth Developing the ability to get along with other people
Learn skills in early childhood
Relationships change
Learn to interact with adults

21. Needs and Wants Needs are the basic items that are required for living
Wants are those things people desire, but don’t need
Sometimes you have to learn to live without the things you want and focus on your needs

22. Goals and Resources

23. Goals
Goals are a conscience aim that requires planning and effort to achieve
Everyone sets goals, though different from each other, they all set them for the same reason
Goals provide direction and give a person focus

24. Types of Goals Short-term: something you want to accomplish soon
Long-term: something you plan to accomplish sometime farther in the future or after you finish high school
Fixed goals: one that can only be met at a certain time
Flexible goals: one that has no definite time limit

25. Identifying Goals Goals can shape what you are as well as what you do
Use your values to set goals
Set priorities
Be realistic

26. Setting Goals Analyze the goal Put goals in writing Be specific
Make a commitment
Consider your resources
Question: How is learning to prioritize goals a way to take responsibility for your life?

27. Examining Resources Human resources: your skills and other people
Material resources: money, tools, equipment
Community resources: community facilities like the YMCA or schools
Question: What kinds of resources are available if you don’t have much money?

28. Showing Determination
Shows when people actively identify and seek resources that will help them meet their goals
By wisely seeking and using resources, you can accomplish what you want

29. Making Responsible Decisions

30. Decisions Facing challenges Decision making involves risks
Easier to let someone else make the decision and get in trouble for that decision if it is wrong
Confident people are admired for their decision making abilities and looked at as leaders

31. Types of Decisions All types of decisions
Decisions are being made all day long
Some are routine, other are major decisions

32. Impact of decisions Effects on you Think broader, long range
Some change your life instantly, others will affect you in the long term

33. Cont. Effects on others Your decisions have impact on others
Thinking about the impact of your decisions will help you make better ones
May cause you to stop and reconsider before you act
When you care for others, you will make decisions carefully

34. Seeking Help
Ask opinions of others
Make the decisions yourself

35. Decision-Making Process
Procedure you can follow when you have to choose among different options
Steps:
1. State the decision
2. List the options
3. Weigh the pros and cons
4. Consider your values
5. Make a decision and act on it
6. Evaluate the decision and take responsibility for it

36. Cont. ?? What do you think about this statement??
It is unfair for society to deny teens certain actions such as driving a car and voting.

37. Avoiding Troublemakers
Procrastination – thinking too long and losing opportunities
Impulsiveness – deciding too quickly, with out thinking things through
Avoidance – fear of making wrong decision, no decision at all
Deferring – letting others make the decision
Blaming – when negative results occur, blame others

38. Your approach to decisions
How you handle decisions is up to you!!

39. Making Changes and Meeting Challenges

40. Taking Action Not happy with your life, take action
Do something about it, don’t complain

41. Barriers to change
Not easy to change
People fear change

42. Tools for change Competence
Having qualities and skills needed to perform a task or participate fully in an activity
Who and what can help develop your conscience

43. Cont. Confidence Believing in yourself and your abilities
Signs of confidence: willingness to try new things, optimism, assertiveness
Build confidence through skills and knowledge
Success builds confidence

44. Cont. Qualities of confidence:
Self-assurance : stand up for yourself and what you believe in
Self-control: use reason to tell people what to do and when to do it
Willingness to take reasonable risks to achieve goals: don’t take risks that don’t make sense
Healthy self-concept and high self-esteem: are not perfect people, don’t dwell on weaknesses

45. ?? Which comes first, competence or confidence??

46. Making Changes Set goals Attaining goals in confidence boosting
Make sure goals are obtainable

47. Cont. Make an action plan Put plan to work
A program of behavior for achieving a particular goal
Put plan to work
Monitor your progress
Provide positive reinforcement
Evaluate results and decide how to revise for the future

48. Cont. Right perspective Overlooking obstacles Mutual support
Some things can be changed and some cannot
Overlooking obstacles
Obstacles are a part of life
Person’s attitude toward barriers can mean the difference between giving up and achieving success
Mutual support
Others want to see you succeed

49. Interpersonal Skills: Effective Communication & Conflict Resolution
Chapter 3

51. What are interpersonal skills?
Skills needed to get along with others
Communication skills, conflict resolution skills, and planning skills

52. Communication Skills
Terms to know: active listening, body language, communication, eye contact, feedback, “I” statements, nonverbal, verbal
Communication: sending and receiving of messages between people
Ways of communicating:
1. “I” messages
2. Verbal
3. Nonverbal

53. “I” MESSAGING

54. “I” statements Three parts to an “I” statement
“I feel…”
“when you…”
“because…”
Using “I” statements in an argument helps to avoid raising negative feelings
Not attacking the other person

55. Verbal Words are used Tone of voice, how you say words
Knowing how you sound ensures you are sending the right messages you intend to send
Knowing when and where to communicate can make communicating more positive
Make sure the person is willing and able to listen
Avoid times when emotions can interfere
Make sure other person is not distracted

57. Nonverbal Without words or body language
Affects not only how others see you, but also how they react to your verbal message
Eye contact is very important with nonverbal communication

58. Active Listening
Concentrating on what is said so that you understand and remember the message
Helps:
Relationships grow
Grow as a person
Know more about the world
Boosts self-esteem

59. How to listen better Concentrate Listen with a purpose
Keep an open mind
Be positive
Make eye contact
Control your emotions
Don’t interrupt

60. Feedback
Listener lets the speaker know that he or she is trying to understand the message being delivered
Ways to give feedback:
Interject a comment when the speaker pauses
Summarize what the other is saying
Express interest by asking questions
Show empathy when others are upset
Example: “that’s so unfair” or “you must have been hurt”

61. Body Language Activity

62. Conflict Resolution
Chapter 3-3

64. Conflict Resolution
Terms to know: conflict, mediation, negotiation, peer mediation, scapegoating, compromise
Conflict is a struggle between people who disagree
Not unusual to have conflicts

65. Why conflicts occur Situational causes Personality differences
Power struggles

66. Negative Results Negative emotions arise People can become ill
People say things they don’t mean
Relationships suffer
Violence can occur

67. Resolving conflicts Conflict resolution process:
1. Identify the problem
2. Identify possible outcomes
3. Evaluate each suggested solution
4. Pick the best solution
5. See if the solution is working
6. If necessary, agree to disagree

68. Skillful resolution Use words, not fists Take charge of the situation
Take turns talking
Control your voice
Show respect
Speak the truth
Control your language
Use effective body language
Value your safety

69. Avoiding conflicts See the positive side in situations
Change the subject
Defuse the situation with confidence
Don’t be easily irritated
??When should you ignore a conflict??

70. Mediation Unbiased third party that helps in settling conflicts
Used when two people can not settle a conflict on their own
Peer mediation (process in which specially trained students help other students resolve conflicts peacefully) are used in schools