1. Exodus 20 Living The Good Life: Loving Others (Part 1)

2. The Ten Commandments Starting point = “I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you!” Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others

3. The Ten Commandments Starting point = “I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you!” Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live

4. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Vince Havner: Nobody ever broke the law of God. You break yourself against the law of God. You might as well attack Gibraltar with a popgun as to go up against the law of God in your own little weak self.

5. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Vince Havner: You can’t do it. You can’t jump over a skyscraper. You don’t break the law of gravity. You can break your neck—but break the law of gravity?” —When God Breaks Through: Sermons on Revival, p. 42

6. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days.

7. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities.

8. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the starboard bow.” “Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out.

9. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship.

10. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you change course 20 degrees.”

11. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: Back came the reply, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.” The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.”

12. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: “I am a seaman second class” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”

13. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Stephen Covey: By that time, the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.” Back came the reply,

14. The Ten Commandments Starting point = I am Yahweh, who rescued you and loves you! Commandments 1-4 = Love God Commandments 5-10 = Love others Most are principles stated negatively Intended to show people how they are supposed to live Show us how far short we fall too Stephen Covey: By that time, the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.” Back came the reply, “I’m a lighthouse.” We changed course. –Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, p. 33

15. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder.

16. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder.

17. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Because humans are made in God’s image Different than taking someone’s life Easy to see how this is antithetical to love Gen 9:6 Whoever sheds man’s blood, by man his blood shall be shed, for in the image of God He made man.

18. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Our society is riddled with violence

19. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Our society is riddled with violence James 4 1 What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?

20. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Our society is riddled with violence But murder starts in the heart James 4 2 You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel.

21. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Our society is riddled with violence But murder starts in the heart Matthew 5:21-22 Jesus: “You have heard that the ancients were told, ‘You shall not commit murder’…

22. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Our society is riddled with violence But murder starts in the heart Matthew 5:21-22 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court;

23. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Our society is riddled with violence But murder starts in the heart Matthew 5:21-22 and whoever says to his brother, ‘You good-for- nothing,’ shall be guilty before the supreme court;

24. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Matthew 5:21-22 and whoever says, ‘You fool,’ shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.” Our society is riddled with violence But murder starts in the heart Hatred and bitterness = violence in thoughts or words Before God you are just as guilty!

25. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Matthew 5:21-22 and whoever says, ‘You fool,’ shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.” Not enough to cease from injuring or harming those around us Also need to do everything in our power to aid their lives! Includes forgiveness too

26. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder.

27. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder.

28. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Repeated by Paul (Eph 6) And Jesus too

29. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Mark 7 9 And he continued, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! 10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and mother,’… Repeated by Paul (Eph 6) And Jesus too

30. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Mark 7 11 But you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is Corban (that is, devoted to God)— 12 then you no longer let them do anything for their father or mother.” Repeated by Paul (Eph 6) And Jesus too

31. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. What it’s not: Obeying our parents instead of God Becoming best friends and spending lots of time together Trusting them Ignoring or denying the past, or flattery What does it mean to honor my parents?

32. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Smalley and Trent: In Hebrew, the word for “honor” is kabed. This word literally means, “to be heavy, weighty, to honor.” … What does it mean to honor my parents?

33. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Smalley and Trent: However, we can learn even more about what it means to honor someone by looking at its opposite in the Scriptures. … [T]he literal meaning of the word curse, (qalal) was “to make light, of little weight, dishonor.” What does it mean to honor my parents?

34. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Smalley and Trent: If we go back to our example above, if we dishonor a person we would say, “Their words carry little weight.” The contrast is striking! —The Blessing, p. 212 What does it mean to honor my parents?

35. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Dennis Rainey: Honor = choosing to place great value on your relationship with them; taking the initiative to improve your relationship; obeying them until you establish yourself as an adult; What does it mean to honor my parents?

36. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Dennis Rainey: recognizing what they’ve done right in your life; recognizing the sacrifices they have made for you; praising them for the legacy they are passing on to you; What does it mean to honor my parents?

37. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Dennis Rainey: seeing them through the eyes of Christ, with understanding and compassion; forgiving them as Christ has forgiven you. —The Tribute, p. 55 What does it mean to honor my parents?

38. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Barriers to honoring: “But my parents were really terrible” “We’re just not that kind of family” “But I’m doing a lot of ministry” “They won’t talk to me” “It’s too late” What does it mean to honor my parents?

39. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Because God tells us this is the right way Because many of us are in a transition phase Why would I want to learn how to honor my parents?

40. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Because God tells us this is the right way Because many of us are in a transition phase Why would I want to learn how to honor my parents? Mark Twain: When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around.

41. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Because God tells us this is the right way Because many of us are in a transition phase Why would I want to learn how to honor my parents? Mark Twain: But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.

42. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Because God tells us this is the right way Because many of us are in a transition phase Because this may be a more central issue than you realize Why would I want to learn how to honor my parents?

43. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. John 1:12 – But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God. Practical Steps: 1. Become God’s child

44. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: Honoring your parents is an attitude accompanied by actions that say to your parents: You are worthy. You have value. You are the person God sovereignly placed in my life. Practical Steps: 2. Forgive your parents

45. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: You may have failed me, hurt me, and disappointed me at times, but I am taking off my judicial robe and releasing you from the courtroom of my mind. Practical Steps: 2. Forgive your parents

46. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: I choose to look at you with compassion – as people with needs, concerns, and scars of your own. —The Tribute, p. 55 Practical Steps: 2. Forgive your parents

47. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: Perhaps the greatest honor we can do our parents is to let them down off the pedestal of our imaginations, where we are inclined either to idolize them or to flog them as gods who failed, and to accept them as people – Practical Steps: 2. Forgive your parents

48. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: people who need forgiveness as well as respect, who need honest relationships with their children perhaps more than with anyone else. —The Tribute, p. 130 Practical Steps: 2. Forgive your parents

49. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: “When you look at your father, what do you see? A successful businessman who spent too little time with you and your siblings? Practical Steps: 3. Learn to appreciate them

50. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: Or a lonely, insecure man who had so many holes in his life created by his parents that the only way he knew to cope was by working harder and longer hours? Practical Steps: 3. Learn to appreciate them

51. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: Do you see him as a man who never said, “I love you” – or as an eight-year old boy, continually being criticized by his father… take a fresh look at your parents. A long careful gaze. Now what do you see? Practical Steps: 3. Learn to appreciate them

52. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Rainey: Sometimes it’s easy to forget that within an elderly parent beats the heart of a small child, a teenager, a parent, and a frightened and helpless human being who desperately needs love and care.” —The Tribute, p. 131 Practical Steps: 3. Learn to appreciate them

53. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Important Realizations: That you aren’t the center of the universe The power you have to affect your parents This is your chance to break the cycle That they may not respond the way you expect Practical Steps: 4. Honor and love them

54. Exodus 20 12 Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land Yahweh your God is giving you. 13 You must not murder. Ideas: Write a letter (or two?) Calling my parents each week Taking an interest in their lives Trying to serve when you’re with them Learning their love languages Be creative Practical Steps: 4. Honor and love them

55. Conclusions This is a powerful vision for how God intended us to live It also exposes your need for forgiveness Will you turn to God and experience His freedom?

56. Questions? Comments? Experiences? Exodus 20