1. DRAFT ONLY The Social Costs ofPornography Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D. University of Wisconsin April 2013

2. DRAFT ONLY Synthesis Paper The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family, and Community at http://marri.us/pornography

3. DRAFT ONLY Mind, Heart and Body

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7. Enjoyment of the Sexual

8. DRAFT ONLY Enjoyment of the Sexual

9. DRAFT ONLY Enjoyment of the Sexual

10. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995

11. DRAFT ONLY Age of First Intercourse Versus Number of Sexual Partners Source: NSFG 1995

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13. The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 8 12 18 19 25 31 34 39 43 52 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 0123456-1011-1516-2021+ NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME Percent who have abortions later

14. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 1.71% 16.29% 32.89% 40.02% 44.02% 42.66% 49.45% 49.99% 47.55% 55.21% 49.89% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% Virgin at Time of First Marriage Had Pre- Marital Sex with First Husband 123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15-44 with Children

15. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 7.09% 30.21% 36.48% 38.81% 44.16% 53.07% 48.13% 47.03% 50.30% 56.98% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 0123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15-44 with Children

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17. Society’s Foundational Relationship

18. DRAFT ONLY Belonging: Male + Female Family Child / Adult FatherMother Society At Large

19. DRAFT ONLY 5 Stages of Pornography Viewing Addiction Escalation Desensitization Acting Out

20. DRAFT ONLY Neuro-Substrates in the Brain (all learning)

21. DRAFT ONLY 1 st Stage: Viewing Males: 6 times more likely to view And to spend more time

22. DRAFT ONLY 2 nd Addiction Habituation Boredom Dissatisfaction

23. DRAFT ONLY 3 rd Escalation Intensity Diversity Now habituated to what before was abnormal

24. DRAFT ONLY 4 th Desensitization

25. DRAFT ONLY Desensitization Cont’d Repeating the cycle of –Viewing –Addiction –Escalation –Desensitization Leading gradually to a pan- sexuality

26. DRAFT ONLY 5 th Stage Acting Out Addictions to -- Cybersex Online Strip Bars Prostitution With others.. Pan Sexuality Perversions possible

27. DRAFT ONLY Individual Effects Depersonalization Objectification Mental Health Effects

28. DRAFT ONLY * 17 percent of women struggle with pornography addiction. * One in three visitors to pornography sites were women. * 30 percent of Internet pornography consumers are women. Women and Pornography

29. DRAFT ONLY Lust - Anger

30. DRAFT ONLY Woman as Depersonalized Object

31. DRAFT ONLY Degradation of Women

32. DRAFT ONLY Distortion of Reality

33. DRAFT ONLY Distortion of Reality

34. DRAFT ONLY Eros and Thanatos

35. DRAFT ONLY Effects on Marriage Meaning of the sexual –Faithful –Intimacy –Companionship / friendship –Happiness –Family Good of the child Happiness / Heaven

36. DRAFT ONLY Loss of interest (2/3) 2/3 of couples with a pornography addiction

37. DRAFT ONLY Infidelity

38. DRAFT ONLY Effects on Marriage Love spouse less Spouse is less attractive / inadequate 1/3 couples are sexually involved; 2/3 not Distress/ wounds / trauma of spouse/ Rx Users: importance of sexual relations without involvement See marriage as confining Fidelity not important Increased infidelity (68% of divorces involve ~) 3.7 times more use of prostitutes

39. DRAFT ONLY Cybersex and Marriage Online Infidelity (about 80% for both) Distress/ wounds of wives / husbands Seen by spouse as being unfaithful Leads to face to face (about 80% for both) Distaste for spouse 48% lose their spouse 58% considerable financial loss 1/3 lose their jobs

40. DRAFT ONLY Different Ratings of Infidelities Men for the physical sexual arousal Women for the relational engagement Men more upset by physical infidelity Women more upset by emotional infidelity

41. DRAFT ONLY Other Effects Depression / Loneliness 60 % of divorces Poverty Culture of rejection (Thanatos) Public good of children Marriage becomes meaningless

42. DRAFT ONLY Childhood Initiation

43. DRAFT ONLY Effects on Children Reality distortion of the sexual Discovery of parental stash Stress in the home Less face to face time with parents Separation, divorce, 60 % of divorces Rejection Culture of rejection Public good of children massively weakened

44. DRAFT ONLY Adolescent Initiation

45. DRAFT ONLY Effects on Adolescents Task of discovering sexuality is distorted Increased uncertainties about sexuality Lower self esteem Favorable attitudes towards pornography Increased levels of intercourse Increased non-romantic involvement Increased teen pregnancy (doubles with greater sexual content on TV viewing) HOOK UP CULTURE

46. DRAFT ONLY Effects on Women As users Isolation / Alienation / Marriage loss Cybersex exploitation Depression As victims Depression/ Trauma Loss marital intimacy Loss of marriage Divorce Poverty Effect on children affects mother

47. DRAFT ONLY Effects on Community 2007: 36% males and 25% of females not ashamed of viewing porn Increasingly see pornography as harmless Degradation of culture Degradation of women Sex trafficking Effect on Foundational Virtue of Chastity

48. DRAFT ONLY SEXUALLY ORIENTED BUSINESSES CRIME PROPERTY VALUES EROS + THANATOS

49. DRAFT ONLY Media Desensitization PG-13

50. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995

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52. Enjoyment of the Sexual

53. DRAFT ONLY 3.93 Million Children 3.17 Million Children 0.75 Million Children Unmarried Parents Same Parents If Married Source R Rector (Heritage Fdn) : Analysis of CPS 2001 Children in Poverty In Poverty Out of Poverty

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55. Retreat from Marriage: Black Men (25-54) by Education Level

56. DRAFT ONLY Free To Choose-- Not Free to Choose The Consequences

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59. What to Do?

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61. DRAFT ONLY What to Do?

62. DRAFT ONLY What to Do? Dr Kevin Majers

63. DRAFT ONLY What to do?

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65. DRAFT ONLY Research Synthesis “The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family and Community” http://marri.us/pornography

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