2. Objective: Students will identify the warning signs of dating violence and understand how they can protect themselves by taking notes and participating in a class discussion

3. Romantic Relationships  What does the word Monogamous mean? ◦ Partners are only intimate with each other  Three C’s in Relationships = ◦ Communication ◦ Commitment ◦ Compromise  (Review from Relationship Unit)  What is Love? ◦ Strong feelings of affection ◦ Action showing a commitment ◦ Expressions of ones inner most thoughts/feelings

4.  Statistics from the CDC: ◦ 1in 11 teens report being a victim of physical dating violence each year. ◦ 1 in 4 teens report verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual violence each year. ◦ 1 in 5 teen reports being a victim of emotional abuse. ◦ 1 in 5 high school girls has been physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.

5.  The physical, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse of one partner by the other in a current or former relationship WHO ARE THEY?

6.  POWER  CONTROL ◦ Is dating violence normal?

7.  Isolation  Emotional Abuse  Sexual Abuse  Threats  Bossy  Intimidation  Stalking

8.  Hurt you  Attempt to hurt you  Force you to have sex  Threaten you with weapons  Harass you on the telephone or email  Stalk you  Destroy your property

9. Could you identify a friend or family member was in a dating violence situation? Warning signs of dating violence:  Jealousy  Controlling Behavior  Quick Involvement  Unfair Expectations  Isolation  Blame others for problems  Overly Sensitive  Forced sex  Verbal Abuse  Rigid Sex Rules  History of Battering  Threats of Violence  Forced Used During Argument

10.  Weight change  Headache  Anxious  Nervous  Confused  Worthlessness  Suicide  Sad  Guilty  Shame  Mistrust  Depressed  Bruises  Terror

11.  LOVE  FEAR  DOUBT  EMBARRASSMENT  Brittany’s Story – ◦ http://www.oprah.com/media/20090312-tows-brittany- abuser http://www.oprah.com/media/20090312-tows-brittany- abuser

12.  Talk  Express concern and be supportive  Be non-judgmental  Support your friend’s strengths and weaknesses  Encourage friend to get help  Work on safety plan  Be there. Stay there

13.  Know the person before you say yes  Review warning signs  Did any good friends warn you about the person?  Are they afraid for your safety?

14.  Double date with trusted friends or group  Go to public places  Do not be pressured by your date  Have a cell phone  Know exit doors

15.  End relationship over the phone  Stay with the group of people wherever you go  Do not let abuser in home  Call police anytime

16.  What are your thoughts on MEN being victims of Dating/Domestic Violence?  What are some stereotypes about abuse related to gender?  http://www.batteredmen.com/dateviol.htm http://www.batteredmen.com/dateviol.htm

17. ◦ Charlie Sheen ◦ Singers:  Tina & Ike Turner  Dr. Dre  Big Pun  James Brown  Chris Brown  “Vanilla Ice”  Eminen  Bobby Brown ◦ Athletes:  OJ Simpson  Sugar Ray Leonard  Darryl Strawberry  Jason Kidd  John Daly  Dennis Rodman  Tanya Harding  Evel Knievel  Brett Myers (Phillies)  Moses Malone  Mike Tyson  Chad Johnson  Oscar Pistorius  Floyd Mayweather

18. http://www.dosomething.org/issues/dating-abuse