1. Social and Emotional Needs of the Gifted “Intelligence is not a privilege, it’s a gift and it must be used for the betterment of mankind.” Dr. Octavia (Spiderman Character) Nancy L. Carey, M.S., M.A. Murrieta Valley Unified School District 05/09

2. Bright kids are not better, yet they are different; and because they are, they face different issues. Different

3. Emotional Intensity Giftedness has an emotional as well as intellectual component. Intellectual complexity goes hand in hand with emotional depth.Giftedness has an emotional as well as intellectual component. Intellectual complexity goes hand in hand with emotional depth. Thinking is more complex; emotions have more depth.Thinking is more complex; emotions have more depth. Emotional intensity is a differentEmotional intensity is a different way of experiencing the world. It is also the motivation for achievement.

4. Brain Research Link between emotions and intellect has profound effect on gifted people.Link between emotions and intellect has profound effect on gifted people. An intrinsic part of being gifted; provides the drive that gifted people have for personal growth and achievement.An intrinsic part of being gifted; provides the drive that gifted people have for personal growth and achievement. Emotions are tied to neurons inEmotions are tied to neurons in the brain via chemicals that attach the brain via chemicals that attach to neurons. to neurons. Gifted people may be more emotionally aware.Gifted people may be more emotionally aware.

5. Expression of Emotions Extremes of emotion, positive & negative Bodily symptoms-headache, nausea, tense stomach, blushing. Inhibition-shyness; fears and anxieties Emotional ties and attachments to others, empathy, concern for others, sensitivity in relationships, attachment to animals, difficulty in adjusting to new environments. Critical self evaluation, feelings of inadequacy & inferiority

6. Six Categories of Gifted and Talented Students Type I: The Successful Type II: The Challenging Type III: The Underground Type IV: The Dropouts Type V: The Double-Labeled Type VI: The Autonomous Learner

7. Type I: The Successful 90% identified GATE students 90% identified GATE students “Learned” the system “Learned” the system Score high on achievement tests, but just going through the motions. Do just enough to get by. Score high on achievement tests, but just going through the motions. Do just enough to get by. Few behavior problems, most believe they will “make it on their own”. Few behavior problems, most believe they will “make it on their own”. Often fail to learn needed skills Often fail to learn needed skills and attitudes for autonomy and attitudes for autonomy (dependent on adults for reinf.). (dependent on adults for reinf.). Lose creativity and autonomy Lose creativity and autonomy Fresh Prince: cousin - Carlton Fresh Prince: cousin - Carlton

8. Type II: The Challenging Unidentified GATE.Unidentified GATE. Highly creative, obstinate, sarcastic, question authority of teacher.Highly creative, obstinate, sarcastic, question authority of teacher. Interactions at school and home involve conflictInteractions at school and home involve conflict FRUSTRATED because school has not validated their gifts and abilities.FRUSTRATED because school has not validated their gifts and abilities. Struggling self esteem, negative self conceptsStruggling self esteem, negative self concepts “At risk” of dropping out,“At risk” of dropping out, drug addiction, delinquent behavior. drug addiction, delinquent behavior. May/may not feel included in social groupMay/may not feel included in social group Fresh Prince (WILL SMITH)Fresh Prince (WILL SMITH)

9. Type III: The Underground Want to hide their giftedness Want to hide their giftedness Generally middle school girls whose belonging needs rise dramatically Generally middle school girls whose belonging needs rise dramatically Deny their talent in order to belong with a non-gifted peer group. Deny their talent in order to belong with a non-gifted peer group. Feel insecure and anxious Feel insecure and anxious They benefit from being accepted as they are at the time. They benefit from being accepted as they are at the time. Alternatives should be explored to meet academic needs without abandoning all advanced classes. Alternatives should be explored to meet academic needs without abandoning all advanced classes. Movie: MEAN GIRLS – MAIN CHARACTER: Cady (Lyndsay LohanMovie: MEAN GIRLS – MAIN CHARACTER: Cady (Lyndsay Lohan

10. Type IV: The Dropouts Usually high school students, but can be elementary student who has “dropped out” emotionally, mentally, physically (attendance).Usually high school students, but can be elementary student who has “dropped out” emotionally, mentally, physically (attendance). ANGRY (w/adults and themselves)ANGRY (w/adults and themselves) Low self esteem, bitter, resentfulLow self esteem, bitter, resentful Often were identified as GATE late (H.S.) & feel rejected by a system that has not met their needs for many years.Often were identified as GATE late (H.S.) & feel rejected by a system that has not met their needs for many years. Act depressed, withdrawn, defensiveAct depressed, withdrawn, defensive Fail to receive support and affirmation for their talents (which lie outside the realm of regular school curriculum).Fail to receive support and affirmation for their talents (which lie outside the realm of regular school curriculum). School seems irrelevant and hostile to themSchool seems irrelevant and hostile to them Accomodations: 1. Require a close working relationshipAccomodations: 1. Require a close working relationship with an adult they can trust. with an adult they can trust. 2. Family & individual counseling is beneficial. Examples: Cher, Sean Connery, Ray Charles Examples: Cher, Sean Connery, Ray Charles Robert Dinero Robert Dinero

11. Type V: The Double-Labeled Gifted children who are also physically or emotionally handicapped (or have learning disabilities). (GATE/ADD)Gifted children who are also physically or emotionally handicapped (or have learning disabilities). (GATE/ADD) Not your typical GATE student. Sloppy handwriting, disruptive behaviors, don’t complete work.Not your typical GATE student. Sloppy handwriting, disruptive behaviors, don’t complete work. Feel discouraged, frustrated, rejected, helpless, isolated.Feel discouraged, frustrated, rejected, helpless, isolated. Deny having difficulty, claim to be “bored”Deny having difficulty, claim to be “bored” Use humor to demean, are impatient & critical.Use humor to demean, are impatient & critical. Unhappy about performance, intellectualize to cope with feelings of inadequacy.Unhappy about performance, intellectualize to cope with feelings of inadequacy. Often unidentified GATE, ignored,Often unidentified GATE, ignored, schools focus on weaknesses rather schools focus on weaknesses rather than nurture strengths. than nurture strengths. Walt Disney, Beethoven, Albert EinsteinWalt Disney, Beethoven, Albert Einstein

12. Type VI: The Autonomous Learner Rarely evident at young ages.Rarely evident at young ages. Work effectively in school system, but use the system to create opportunities for themselves.Work effectively in school system, but use the system to create opportunities for themselves. Strong, positive self concepts because needs are being met.Strong, positive self concepts because needs are being met. Independent, self-directed, successfulIndependent, self-directed, successful Accept themselves, take risksAccept themselves, take risks Respected by adults and peers, oftenRespected by adults and peers, often serve in leadership capacityserve in leadership capacity Strong sense personal power, change makers.Strong sense personal power, change makers.

13. Stages of Friendship Stage 1: Play Partner- someone to play with, borrow things from Stage 2: People to Chat to- someone to share interests, have conversations. Stage 3: Help & Encouragement- someone who will offer help (still one-sided view). Stage 4: Intimacy/empathy- recognition that comfort and support flows both ways, giving AND receiving are important, emotional sharing begins. Stage 5: Sure Shelter- “A faithful friend is a sure shelter; whoever finds one has found a rare treasure” Ecclesiastes 6:14. A deep and lasting relationship of trust, fidelity, unconditional acceptance.

14. Gifted- Choice of Friends Gifted children are further along hierarchy of friendship than age-peers of average ability (by 2 to 6 years!). Their conception of friendship is much higher than average children.Gifted children are further along hierarchy of friendship than age-peers of average ability (by 2 to 6 years!). Their conception of friendship is much higher than average children. They seek to meet needs of intellect AND intimacy in friendship.They seek to meet needs of intellect AND intimacy in friendship. Gifted children seek the “sure shelter” friendships as young as 6 or 7 years.Gifted children seek the “sure shelter” friendships as young as 6 or 7 years. In elementary years, gifted children will have difficulty finding satisfying friendships. They need help from adults establishing these relationships.In elementary years, gifted children will have difficulty finding satisfying friendships. They need help from adults establishing these relationships.

15. Promoting positive social development Have need to interact w/mental peers, companions with similar interests, abilities.Have need to interact w/mental peers, companions with similar interests, abilities. Need help to find these friends, risk being labeled strange by classmates (results in social alienation).Need help to find these friends, risk being labeled strange by classmates (results in social alienation). Happier, well adjusted when relating to other gifted children.Happier, well adjusted when relating to other gifted children. Also need interaction of peers of similar developmental stages. (team sports, extra-curricular clubs, church).Also need interaction of peers of similar developmental stages. (team sports, extra-curricular clubs, church). With support of gifted peers, they can join in other groups without fear of rejection.With support of gifted peers, they can join in other groups without fear of rejection.

16. Social Development Gifted students enrolled in special programs experience enhanced self esteem.Gifted students enrolled in special programs experience enhanced self esteem. Provide social interactions w/true peers.Provide social interactions w/true peers. Suggest summer programs to parents (especially at elementary level) to help establish solid base of self esteem in early childhood.Suggest summer programs to parents (especially at elementary level) to help establish solid base of self esteem in early childhood. Self knowledge increases ability to relate effectively with others.Self knowledge increases ability to relate effectively with others.

17. Needs of Gifted in Friendships When gifted children are asked what they most desire, the answer is often ‘a friend’. (Silverman) Social isolation experienced by gifted children is most pronounced between ages 4 and 9 (elementary years).Social isolation experienced by gifted children is most pronounced between ages 4 and 9 (elementary years). Throughout elementary school most gifted children will have difficulty making friends with others who have similar expectations of friendship.Throughout elementary school most gifted children will have difficulty making friends with others who have similar expectations of friendship. Placement with peers of intellectual and emotionalPlacement with peers of intellectual and emotional maturity is critical!* maturity is critical!* In absence of this*, loneliness and social isolationIn absence of this*, loneliness and social isolation is likely, resulting in lower academic performance. is likely, resulting in lower academic performance.

18. Affective Domain When school focuses solely on cognitive domain, excluding the affective and physical domains, gifted child feels “out of sync” with peers.When school focuses solely on cognitive domain, excluding the affective and physical domains, gifted child feels “out of sync” with peers. This unbalanced development leads to perfectionism, self-criticism, poor self-concept, depression, eating disorders, and antisocial behavior.This unbalanced development leads to perfectionism, self-criticism, poor self-concept, depression, eating disorders, and antisocial behavior. When gifted students are permitted to work and play with intellectual peers, loneliness and social isolation disappears, resulting in academic and personal success.When gifted students are permitted to work and play with intellectual peers, loneliness and social isolation disappears, resulting in academic and personal success.

19. AT RISK? Research suggests that 15 percent of incarcerated youth tested in top 3 % on standardized intelligence scales.Research suggests that 15 percent of incarcerated youth tested in top 3 % on standardized intelligence scales. Some estimate that as many as 25% are gifted.Some estimate that as many as 25% are gifted. Recent shootings around the country committed by kids who have been described as very bright.Recent shootings around the country committed by kids who have been described as very bright.

20. Recommendations In responding to the emotional intensity that gifted children display, they need to be told that intense feelings are NORMAL for gifted children.In responding to the emotional intensity that gifted children display, they need to be told that intense feelings are NORMAL for gifted children. Teachers: must not tolerate other children ridiculing the gifted child for reacting strongly to an apparently trivial incident.Teachers: must not tolerate other children ridiculing the gifted child for reacting strongly to an apparently trivial incident. It doesn’t help to say, “You’re too sensitive” or “It’ll be okay”.It doesn’t help to say, “You’re too sensitive” or “It’ll be okay”. We need to accept their emotions and helpWe need to accept their emotions and help them to feel understood and supported. them to feel understood and supported.

21. Perfectionism Studies of gifted students show that the levels of perfectionism in gifted students are the SAME as for the regular population.Studies of gifted students show that the levels of perfectionism in gifted students are the SAME as for the regular population. The only difference in perfectionism was demonstrated by students whose parents pressured them to succeed.The only difference in perfectionism was demonstrated by students whose parents pressured them to succeed.

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