1. Friendship, Intimacy, and Singlehood Chapter 9

2. Chapter Overview Critical Thinking Introductory “Quiz”
Thought for the Week
YJU
What is Love?
A Series of Film Clips Depicting “Love”
Consider the Following

3. After reading the chapter, write a question about love.
I. Critical Thinking
After reading the chapter, write a question about love.
(2 pt. possible)
Due Next Class Period

4. II. Introductory “Quiz”

5. 1. The best sign of true love is that the person spends a great deal of time thinking of his or her beloved.
False

6. 2. Family and friends can know who is a better match for a person.
True

7. 3. Arranged marriages are a good idea.
Define “good idea.”

8. 4. Falling in love and staying in love are natural.
False

9. 5. When you’re really in love, you’ll know it.
False

10. 6. It is easier to fall in love than to stay in love.
True

11. 7. Being a loving person is the best way to be loved.
True

12. 8. True love means that you have no other interests outside the relationship.
False

13. 9. Older people make poor newly-weds because they can’t change.
False

14. 10. When people marry, they always get more intimate.
False

15. III. Thought for the Week:
True love is not so much a matter of romance as it is a matter of anxious concern for the well-being of one’s companion.

16. IV. YJU
Love is a choice.

17. V. What is Love? Class Project: Define Love Davis and Todd:
The Fabric of Friendship and
The Tapestry of Love
Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

18. Passion Cluster Caring Cluster Fascination Sexual Desire Exclusiveness
Champion/Advocate
Giving the Utmost
Love
Friendship
Enjoyment
Mutual assistance
Respect
Spontaneity
Acceptance
Trust
Understanding
Confiding

19. V. What is Love? Class Project: Define Love Davis and Todd:
The Fabric of Friendship and
The Tapestry of Love
Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

20. A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory
Diagram
What is Commitment?
Class Discussion
A Quotation

21. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory of Love

22. Commitment: a promise of time and energy
Commitment: a promise of time and energy. Commitment in strong families means that the family as a whole is committed to seeing that each member reaches his or her potential. It does not mean that the individuals suffer so that others in the family can grow.
G. H. Hinkley, 1984

23. VI. A Series of Film Clips Depicting “Love”
Place graphic of CD here.

24. VI. Consider the Following:
“Here is a secret that should not be kept; love is time.” (Dr. Allen Button)
B. In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling.
Steven R. Covey
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People