1. Positive Guidance andDiscipline

2. Reasons for Misbehavior Stage of Growth: the child is behaving in a normal manner for the stage of growth he/she is in: power, attention, revenge Unfulfilled Needs: The child’s needs are not being met and she/he is acting out in order to try to get his/her needs met.

3. Reasons for Misbehavior Environment: The child is uncomfortable in or does not understand his/her environment. Doesn’t know Better: The child has not been taught the concept he/she is dealing with.

4. Positive Guidance Discipline: guidance which helps the child learn self-control Self-discipline: ability to direct one’s own behavior Children may rebel when parents punish rather than discipline Attention is a powerful “reinforcer” to guide children Example: is a very effective way to teach children desired behavior Consistency is the key to guidance Respond to aggressive behavior in non-aggressive ways Guidance also depends on Parenting Styles

5. Types of Guidance Techniques

6. 1. Natural and Logical Consequences Consequences Logical Consequences: Should be relevant to the misbehavior To make the punishment fit the crime. Example: if Sally spills the paint, she must clean up the mess that is made Natural Consequences: Occur without interference, child can see the result of their choices Short in duration, provide opportunities for children to learn from their behavior Cannot be used if the consequence will cause harm to self, others or property, or too far in the future! “Cause and effect”

7. 2. Positive Statements When guiding children, phrase all requests in a positive manner Example: say, “Let’s walk to the blocks,” rather than, “Don’t run to the blocks” Clearly states what is expected, then help them get started Talk to children at their eye level when giving directions

8. “Being Positive” Activity

9. 3. Redirection Getting a child to focus on something else. Children up to two years old can be easily distracted Example: If a child is angry at the blocks area, lead them to a different area of the room and introduce a different activity

10. 4. Reverse Attention Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive When a child’s behavior is inappropriate, focus on a child who is displaying the appropriate behavior and make a positive comment If the first child changes his behavior, he should be immediately reinforced with a positive statement. Example: Green journal sheets, preschoolers during group time

11. 5. Limited Choices Giving a child several options to choose from Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can really have what is chosen. Only give choices that are available. Example: “Do you want juice or water for a drink?” rather than, ‘What would you like to drink?”

12. 6. Time Out When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be sent to a predetermined place to distance herself from the problem and gain composure. Should be a last option, limited use. Use a place where there are no distractions or positive “reinforcers”

14. Journal What issues do parents face in today’s society?

15. Internet/computer – time Sexual Predators Economy Children and independency Money/Finance issues – cost of living Mall “Laws” Curfews Parents working – two jobs Single-Parents – making it all work Drug/Alcohol use – either parent or child Role Models – Jamie Lynn Spears Cell Phones Teen Pregnancy Academics with children – staying up with it Unemployment Rates increasing – losing jobs Kids clothing/makeup/tattoos/piercings – rebelling in gen. Kids and driving Obesity Suicide Teen dating

17. Parenting Styles

18. 1.Authoritarian 2.Permissive 3.Democratic/Authoritative 4. Rejecting/Neglecting

19. Authoritarian Low Love, High Limits Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute control. Misconduct is punished Affection and praise are rarely give Parents try to control children's’ behavior and attitudes They value unquestioned obedience Children are told what to do, how to do it, and where to do it, and when to do it.

20. Outcomes of Authoritarian Style Obedient Distrustful Discontent Withdrawn Unhappy Hostile Not High Achievers Often Rebel Children from authoritarian homes are so strictly controlled, either by punishment or guilt, that they are often prevented from making a conscious choice about particular behaviors because they are overly concerned about what their parents will do.

21. Permissive High Love, Low Limits Parents allow their children to do their own thing. Little respect for order and routine. Parents make few demands on children. Impatience is hidden. Discipline is lax Parents are resources rather than standard makers Rarely punish Non controlling, non-demanding Usually warm Children walk all over the parents

22. Outcome of Permissive Parenting Aggressive Least self— reliant Least self- controlled Least exploratory Most unhappy Children from permissive homes receive so little guidance that they often become uncertain and anxious about whether they are doing the right thing.

23. Democratic/Authoritative High Love, High Limits Middle ground between the two above Stress freedom along with rights of others and responsibilities of all Parents set limits and enforce rules Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and questions. Both loves and limits Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of their own decisions Exert firm control when necessary, but explain reasoning behind it. Respect children’s interest, opinions, unique personalities. Loving, consistent, demanding Combine control with encouragement Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.

24. Outcomes of Democratic Style Happy Mostly self-reliant Mostly self- controlled Content, friendly, generous Cooperative High-achiever’ Less likely to be seriously disruptive or delinquent Children whose parents expect them to perform well, to fulfill commitments, and to participate actively in family duties, as well as family fun, learn how to formulate goals. They also experience the satisfaction that comes from meeting responsibilities and achieving success.

25. Rejecting/Neglecting Low Love, Low Limits

26. Rejecting/neglecting parents are low in both responsiveness and demandingness. It is generally thought of as uncaring and inadequate to meet the needs of children. Sometimes, it is referred to as the "indifferent parenting style" due to its lack of emotional involvement and supervision of children.

28. Case Study Application In groups of three or four, develop a case study or story that fits each of the four parenting style. These stories should be 5-10 sentences. Include: background of family, story, and outcomes of children.

29. Example: The Brown family has two parents and three children. Mr. Brown works long days, and when he comes home, he takes his stress out on his family by yelling at his children. He often tells his children that they are lucky they have a roof over their heads. One time, his oldest son tried talking back, and ended up getting double duty in the kitchen that night. Later, when that son went to college, he rebelled and was such a slob! When his parents would visit, he would freak out and shove everything into the closet to make it look like he lived in a clean environment. WHAT PARENTING STYLE DID THIS FAMILY USE?

30. Authoritarian

31. When you are done, you will be passing your stories to other groups and have them indicate what parenting style is applied for each of your four stories.

32. Include: Brief introduction about the family Parents and how they act/react Outcomes of the children