1. Gina Giardinieri – giardinierg1@mail.montclair.edugiardinierg1@mail.montclair.edu Pamela Flaherty – flahertyp2@mail.montclair.eduflahertyp2@mail.montclair.edu Taylor Harris – harrist7@mail.montclair.eduharrist7@mail.montclair.edu

2.  Focus of book: “He’s just not the right guy for you!” › Has had enough with “He’s just not that into you”  Classifies women and men into categories › Helps you identify what type of relationship you’ve had and what you’re looking for  Baking a cake is like building a relationship › All ingredients must go into the correct order  Most important ingredient = self confidence!

3.  Different strategies for women to build themselves › If women advance in their education or their career, their relationship will flourish due to their increase in self-confidence  According to the US Census (2000), people acquiring high school diplomas and bachelor’s degrees has risen steadily from 1940-2000. › Increase in education levels = increase self- confidence = successful relationship

6.  Data was collected through friends of Lo Bosworth  She used the relationships that she experienced and those of her friends.

7.  In the article Leap of Faith, Valerie Burton( 2007), communicates that it is very important to believe in oneself in order to be self confident.  You have to face your fears and go for anything that you want  “In fact, the more we want something, the more paralyzed we become”

8.  Example used in the article about a woman named Terri  Was married for fifteen years and lived in an abusive relationship  She could not find it in herself to leave her husband because that was not the “Christian” way  Got advice from many people About leaving her husband  One day her daughter told her, “ If you can’t be in a relationship that is spiritually, physically and emotionally healthy. You shouldn’t be in it”

9.  It is to self test your confidence level now  Some of the statements are: › Fear does not stop me from asking for what I want › I haven’t settled for less than what I really want in my life › Check off what you are  I love myself because……..  List what you love about yourself, this is a great way to build self confidence according to Lo.

10.  Study on reflective writing and the work- force.  Daniel - started out with great socio- economic deficit and low self-esteem  Cultivated a positive self-concept through journaling and reflecting on his experiences in his training program (Langer 2009).

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12.  Effective for both men and women  DO NOT FEAR YOUR OWN THOUGHTS! GET WRITING!  Proves to be affective and to enhance your work performance and self-esteem by recognizing your strengths and weaknesses alike (Langer 2009).  Writing = higher self-esteem = better job performance = healthy relationships !

13.  Is the book helpful? › Yes, in a basic way but no if you are seeking professional advice.  Is the author reputable? › Has a degree in Fashion Studies from UCLA but no background experience to give advice.  Are they really an expert? › Has been on reality television for a long time  http://thelodown.com/# http://thelodown.com/#

14.  Golden Rule = Believe in yourself › Different ways to do so  Get a large sample of people – not biased › Not using own experiences  Supported the data › Empowerment and advancement of women  Contributions/ Problems  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C8T g812H8UU

15.  In her book, The Lo Down author Lo Bosworth says states that there’s three types of goals. Which of the following is not one of them?  a. Immediate Goals  B. Long Term Goals  C. Daily Goals  D. Exploratory Goals › Answer: C – Daily Goals

16.  Which method(s) is a way to boost your self-esteem?  A  A. examining your strengths  B  B. examining your weaknesses  C  C. thinking you are absolutely perfect!  D  D. Both A and B › Answer: D – Both A and B

17.  [True] or [False] › Women are advancing in their schooling when it comes to receiving high school diplomas and college degrees since the 1940’s. › Answer: True

18.  Burton, V. (2007). TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH. Essence (Time Inc.), 37(10), 188-192. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.  Langer, A. M. (2009). Thoughtpiece: Measuring self-esteem through reflective writing: essential factors in workforce development for inner-city adults. Reflective Practice, 10(1), 45-48. doi:10.1080/14623940802652755  U.S. Census Bureau (2002). Population 25 years and over who have completed high school or college:1940-2000. http:// www.census.gov/prod/cen2000/doc/sf3.pdf www.census.gov/prod/cen2000/doc/sf3.pdf  U.S. Census Bureau (2002). Differences in educational attainment by sex and age: 2000. www.census.gov/prod/ cen2000/doc/sf3.pdfwww.census.gov/prod/