2. For dads and moms, are you hesitant or are you intentional in disciplining your child/ren?
If we fail to discipline our child/ren, what do we rob from him/her/them?
For us children, what comes to mind when you hear the word ‘discipline’?

3. HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY
Session III
HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY
1. Purpose of Discipline
2. The Basis of Discipline
3. What to Discipline Our Child For
4. How to Spank Our Child
5. Training Teenagers
6. Training Young Ones

4. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
The Hebrew word for training is “chanak” which means ‘to wet the palate of the baby’. The idea is to create a desire to suck. Another usage of the word is to tame or redirect the will of the wild horse to submit to the master.

5. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE
Biblical training is not breaking the spirit of the child but molding the will of the child.
Biblical training stimulates a desire in our children to know God.
Biblical training teaches them to be obedient to authority, first to us as their parents, then to others in authority, and ultimately to God.

6. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE TRAINING. 1. Reinforce
Proverbs 22:6 – 6Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

7. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE OBEDIENCE. 2. Reinforce
Ephesians 6:1 – 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

8. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE RESPECT. 3. Reinforce
Ephesians 6:2 – 2 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise).

9. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE BLESSING. 4. Reinforce
Ephesians 6:3 – 3that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.

10. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE I. PURPOSE OF DISCIPLINE 1. Reinforce TRAINING.
2. Reinforce OBEDIENCE.
3. Reinforce RESPECT.
4. Reinforce BLESSING.

11. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE PARENT-CHILD
1. It is based on relationship.
Hebrews 12:7 – 7It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
Responsibility of parents is to
DISCIPLINE.

12. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE LOVE.
2. It is based on
Hebrews 12:6 – 6For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, And He scourges every son whom He receives.
Proverbs 13:24 – 24He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

13. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE ANARCHY. REBELLION.
Discipline without good relationship leads to frustration.
Love without discipline leads to
ANARCHY.
Discipline without love leads to
REBELLION.

14. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE DISCIPLINE
Love plus leads to
GODLY CHARACTER.
RIGHT
We earn the to discipline our children when they feel loved.
“EMOTIONAL
Love fills a person’s
TANK”.

15. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE GOOD.
3. It is for the child’s
GOOD.
Hebrews 12:10-11 – 10For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness. 11All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.

16. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. THE BASIS OF DISCIPLINE GOOD.
3. It is for the child’s
Proverbs 19:18 – 18Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death.
If we discipline, it should always be for the child’s ______ and never just to vent our _______ or for ________ reasons.
GOOD
ANGER
SELFISH

17. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE II. BASIS OF DISCIPLINE
1. It is based on PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP.
2. It is based on LOVE.
3. It is for the CHILD’S GOOD.

18. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD FOR?
Ephesians 6:1-3 – 1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.

19. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD FOR?
1. DISOBEDIENCE.
You cannot begin to train your children until they know how to This is foundational in training. Obedience to parents and obedience to God are closely linked.
OBEY

20. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD FOR?
2. DISRESPECT.
One of the of harmonious human relationships is the mutual of people for one another.
FOUNDATIONS
RESPECT

21. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD FOR?
3. DISHONESTY.
Character and integrity is built on
TRUTHFULNESS.

22. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE III. WHAT DO YOU DISCIPLINE CHILD FOR?
1. DISOBEDIENCE
2. DISRESPECT
3. DISHONESTY

23. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINE RULES. 1. Consistent, clear
Should be few.
Must explain rules – should be clear.
Must carry consequences.

24. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINE HUSBAND WIFE
2. Consistent and rules.
______ on the rules – “united we stand, divided we fall.”
_______ rules carefully.
Say “no” to __________ matters only.
AGREE
REVIEW
IMPORTANT

25. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINE APPLICATION
3. Consistent of rules.
One _________ obedience. No shouting.
Consequence should be __________ as possible.
_______ through with what you say.
COMMAND
IMMEDIATE
FOLLOW

26. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINE APPLICATION
3. Consistent of rules.
EMBARRASS
Don’t ___________ the child.
Rules should not be __________ or based on your ______.
ARBITRARY
MOOD

27. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE IV. HOW TO DISCIPLINE LOVE 4. Consistent in our .
Our love for our children must be ______________.
Let them know that you may not like their _________, but you will always _____ them.
Never say, “I will love you __…”
UNCONDITIONAL
BEHAVIOR
LOVE IF

28. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE V. HOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILD EXPLAIN
_______ to your children why they are being spanked.
Don’t spank in ______ – It is _______.
Don’t use your _____ – Use a belt or a switch.
Don’t ______ your child – But make it ____.
ANGER
SELFISH
HAND
INJURE
HURT

29. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE V. HOW TO SPANK YOUR CHILD PUBLIC
Don’t spank in ______ – Do it in _______.
Don’t spank _______________ – Do it in love.
___ them after spanking them – Tell them that you ____ them.
PRIVATE
UNCONTROLLABLY
HUG
LOVE

30. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VI. TRAINING TEENAGERS
Training and disciplining teenagers requires a different approach. We are preparing them to live independently of us as parents and live dependently on God in an ungodly world. We don’t want them just to outwardly comply with the values we teach them but to embrace and internalize these values.

31. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VI. TRAINING TEENAGERS AUTHORITATIVE
1. Be , not authoritarian.
Don’t be _____________.
Be REASONABLE. Listen to their _____.
Involve them in making ______.
CONTROLLING
IDEAS
RULES

32. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VI. TRAINING TEENAGERS NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES
2. Use for disobedience and irresponsibility.
Galatians 6:7 – 7Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.
NATURAL
Allow them to suffer the ________ consequences of disobedience.
Spank them for rebellion.

33. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VI. TRAINING TEENAGERS
3. Use rewards for obedience and responsible behavior.
Privileges.
Verbal
PRAISE

34. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VI. TRAINING TEENAGERS WAY
4. Treat them the you want them to treat you.
Matthew 7:12 – 12Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.
RESPECT
With ________. Beware of ______ or shouting.
With unconditional _____ and ____________.
ANGER
LOVE
ACCEPTANCE

35. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VI. TRAINING TEENAGERS MAJOR
4. Major on the – not everything has to be an
ISSUE
PERSON
5. Don’t attack the , deal with the
PROBLEM.
PASS AWAY.”
6. Remember “This too shall

36. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE
VII. TRAINING YOUNG ONES
EARLY
1. Begin

37. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VII. TRAINING YOUNG ONES
2. Two commands to teach your young children.
OBEY
WAIT

38. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VII. TRAINING YOUNG ONES DISTRACTION
3. Learn the technique of

39. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VII. TRAINING YOUNG ONES
4. Tips for training small children.
STIMULATING
a. Give them a environment.
EXERCISE
b. Let them
EXPLORE
c. Let them

40. BIBLICAL DISCIPLINE VII. TRAINING YOUNG ONES
4. Tips for training small children.
d. Train them to do things for
THEMSELVES.
e. Teach them to
SHARE
LAUGH
f with them.
12 commandments for parents (p. 25)

41. CONCLUSION HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY Session III
1. Purpose of Discipline
2. The Basis of Discipline
3. What to Discipline Our Child For
4. How to Spank Our Child
5. Training Teenagers
6. Training Young Ones

42. For those WHOM THE LORD loves He disciplines, And He scourges every son whom He receives. Hebrews 12:6
1. If you are God’s child, you will experience His discipline. If not, maybe your not His child.
2. If you love your child/ren, you will discipline him/her/them too.
3. If your parent disciplines you, it means he/she cares for you.