1. Tonight Deepen our convictions and fear about the serious consequences of impurity Get us used to basing our beliefs on what scripture teaches Give practical direction for us to be living by the Spirit whom God has caused to live in us

2. Aflac Questions of the Week 1.After marriage, masturbation typically (a) is less of a problem. (b) stays about the same. (c) is more of a problem. 2.Fantasizing about sex (a) is harmless, if you are single. (b) is fine, if you are thinking only about your spouse. (c) can be useful, if it helps you perform better with your spouse. (d) is always harmful. 3.The best way to overcome temptation is (a) to pray constantly about it. (b) to focus on personal holiness. (c) to confess when you give in to the temptation. (d) to let someone know that you are being tempted. 4.What is the opposite of homosexuality?

3. Aflac Questions of the Week 5.“Living by the Spirit” is best described by (a) exercising self-control to overcome sin. (b) praying to God for the gifts of the Spirit. (c) studying God’s word so you can focus on what the Spirit wants. (d) having accountability to help you overcome sin. 6.Guarding your heart is important because (a) it is important to follow what your heart tells you. (b) you’ve got to protect yourself from hurts from other people. (c) true happiness comes from obedience to your heart. (d) your heart tends to determine the direction of your life. 7.What does “walk in the light” mean in 1 John 1:7 ? (a) You confess your sins to relieve your guilt. (b) You confess your sins and find help in God’s word to change. (c) You continue to remember that God’s grace cleanses all sin. 8.What does the Bible say is the best way to overcome evil?

4. Overcoming Impurity Be honest with yourself and others. Don’t downplay the sin. (What does “I’m struggling with impurity” mean?) Start being accountable with your DP/PP/DG Helpful formula: – Evaluate. Know your weaknesses and triggers – Regulate. Know what to avoid, what to do – Amputate. Drastic action when regulation is failing The church needs to be a “safe place.” We help one another to overcome. Shaming a brother is destructive. Encourage, plead, share victories.

5. Review: God’s Plan for Sex in Marriage Incentive to Accept and Value Differences Very Powerful Bonding Mechanism in Marriage Incentive to Love, Be Considerate, Resolve God’s Perfect Gift of Sexuality Attraction to Opposite Sex Sexual Design

6. Review: Satan’s Perversion Process Perversion: Twisting something good into something bad. Lusting Pornography Impurity in Dating Fornication Fantasizing Masturbation Inappropriate Chat Adultery Homosexuality Evil Desire Sin Death Dragged, Enticed many more... TV, Movies Internet Porn Peer Pressure “Experts” Saying It’s All Fine

7. The Point of the Video God’s perfect plan is for sex in the context of marriage: one man focusing on one woman Giving in to sin now will rob you of marital blessings. Giving in to sin now will set up powerful patterns that will cause you to struggle the rest of your life.

8. Marriage Key: Exclusivity

9. Answer to Question 1 After marriage, masturbation typically (a) is less of a problem. (b) stays about the same. (c) is more of a problem. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more. Ephesians 4:19

10. Answer to Question 2 Fantasizing about sex (a) is harmless, if you are single. (b) is fine, if you are thinking only about your spouse. (c) can be useful, if it helps you perform better with your spouse. (d) is always harmful. I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10

11. Answer to Question 3 The best way to overcome temptation is (a) to pray constantly about it. (b) to focus on personal holiness. (c) to confess when you give in to the temptation. (d) to let someone know that you are being tempted. God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness.... without holiness no one will see the Lord. Hebrews 12:10,14 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. James 5:16

12. Answer to Question 4 What is the opposite of homosexuality? Holiness! (also the opposite of immorality, etc.) But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life. Romans 6:22

13. Answer to Question 5 “Living by the Spirit” is best described by (a) exercising self-control to overcome sin. (b) praying to God for the gifts of the Spirit. (c) studying God’s word so you can focus on what the Spirit wants. (d) having accountability to help you to overcome sin. Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace. Romans 8:5

14. Answer to Question 6 Guarding your heart is important because (a) it is important to follow what your heart tells you. (b) you’ve got to protect yourself from hurts from other people. (c) true happiness comes from obedience to your heart. (d) your heart tends to determine the direction of your life. The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? Jeremiah 17:9 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23 NLT

15. Answer to Question 7 What does “walk in the light” mean in 1 John 1:7 ? (a) You confess your sins to relieve your guilt. (b) You confess your sins and find help in God’s word to change. (c) You continue to remember that God’s grace cleanses all sin. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. 1 John 1:7-10

16. Answer to Question 8 What does the Bible say is the best way to overcome evil? Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:20-21 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Ephesians 6:13

17. Healthy Dating for Singles Having Great (Pure) Dates in the Church – Having a lot of fun – Taking the pressure off – Making your date feel honored and special – Learning more about women – Getting to know what you might want in a wife – The wisdom of pacing the relationship – Avoiding sending wrong signals – Having a good time without going broke... and MUCH MORE!

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