1. 尋找你的最愛 In search of your love 三藩市神的教會 Daniel Mui 2012-02-17

2. Hollywood marriage

3. Hollywood divorce

5. Though the divorce rate is extremely high, people still long for a perfect marriage!

6. 1.Find the attractive person 2.Fall in love with him/her 3.Have casual sex but century wedding 4.If marriage does not work out, repeat number 1 - 3 Hollywood marriage formula

7. Biblical marriage 1.Put God first, it’s not about me! 2.We love because God first loves us. Love one another as the Lord loves us! 3.Grow in love! 4.If marriage does not work out, repeat number 1 - 3

8. Say Yes to the Dress Dresses sold on the show range from $1,300 to $40,000

9. We go to school 18 years to prepare ourselves for career but we are not equipped for the marriage! Wedding is for a day but marriage is for life! General couples spend more time in wedding planning than knowing each other in depth!

10. What do you look for? What does God think that you need? What is embedded in our hearts? Can true love be real? What to look for? A lover? A life time companion? What traits should we look for? What person should we become as for a perfect mate? What are the hints from the Bible?

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12. What are you looking for? Pretty Nice Sexy Kind Charming Supportive Cooking Knowledgeable Financial independent Humor Charity Compatibility Handsome Gentle Care Educated Rich $$$ Considerate Ambitious Career House Christian Godly

13. Myths breaker! Hunting for Mr Right / Miss Right Find the right person and then he/she will satisfy your physical needs, emotional need, spiritual need, financial need. Destiny?! “Falling in love” chemistry Our relationship / what I do is personal, no harm to others. We are unique and shall be different! Things will improve after marriage

14. How to develop a healthy relationship? 1.Put God first, it’s not about me! – Man will change but God never! 2.We love because God first loves us. Love one another as the Lord loves us! – Only after we have the unconditional love in our hearts, we shall be able to love unconditionally 3.Grow in love! – Learn from the successful couples/teachers – Peel group support (MSG) – Grow: look for advance in relationship!

15. 15 Relationship Mid-life crisis Hobbies Church & God Emotion Value-added Learning Achieve Success Peace Joy Sunday School Draw Near To God Vacation Visit friends Visit families/relatives Investment Billings Subscriptions Communication Sex life Dating Finance planning Aging parents EGR people Health Exercise Excitement Spouse Children Parenting Children's academic Children's diet Children's discipline Children's characters College planning House chores Buying home Maintenance Missionary trip Volunteer works Bible Study

16. Grow in love! Heal the wounds from childhood Attitude/value toward money, career, relationship, family, God. Learning, openness, wrong doing Communication (both rationale and emotional)!

17. 5 Love Languages – Dr Gary Chapman

18. In search of your love – Find Mr Right / Miss Right – Fall in love – Marry and have a happy life forever! (until conflict happens) Be the love – Put God first – Experience God’s love – Grow in love! Understand yourself and your companion Heal the wounds and leave the sin in the past Learning Communication Meaningful marriage