1. Five Positions of Control
Diane Gossen

2. Five Positions of Control
Punisher
Guilter
Buddy
Monitor
Manager

3. Punisher

4. Guilter

5. Buddy

6. Monitor

7. Manager

8. WHO WOULD SAY….?
Work with a partner or in a small group. Think about who would say the following questions and statements.
PUNISHER
GUILTER
BUDDY
MONITOR
MANAGER
Did you break your promise? Shame on you.
You will never be a success in life.
Come on. Please do it.
You’ll have a pizza party if you fill the jar.
Why didn’t you finish it? It makes me sad.
You’re so stupid.
How can you make this right with her?
You’ll get free time if you are done first.
What does it say about you if you fix it?
I thought you were my friend.

9. ACADEMY AWARDS
1. Choose a scenario to act out from home, school, coaching, etc. (2 or 3 sentences). This is not a three act play. Have fun - you have 10 minutes.
2. Play it five different ways: punisher, guilter, buddy, monitor, manager.
3. Watch for contamination of the words of one position and the tone or position of another (eg. asking “What do we believe” in a harsh voice).
4. Academy Awards: Mix up the positions and act each out for another group to see if they can guess it.

10. Five Positions of Control
PUNISHER
GUILTER
BUDDY
MONITOR
MANAGER
Teacher
Does
Yells and
Points
Preaches and “
Shoulds”
Makes
excuses for
them
Counts and
Measures
Asks
questions
Says
If you don’t do
it I’ll...
You should
have known
better
Do it for me
What’s the
rule?
What do we
believe?
Legacy
Rebel
Blame
Hide
Deny
Lie
Dependency
Conformity
Strengthen
Student
I don’t care
I’m sorry
I thought
you were
my friend
How high, how
far?
What can
I do to fix
it?
Outcome
Repeat offense
Low self-
esteem
Weakness
Consequence
oriented
Self
restitution
Avoid Pain
Reward from Others
Respecting
E X T R I N S I C M O T I V A T I O N
INTRINSIC
MOTIVATION