1. Surviving and Thriving in a Competitive World
Brig Rashid Qayyum
Consultant Psychiatrist
HoD Dept of Mental Health
CMH Peshawar
Mullah naseerud din, stress on joining cadet college, Cultural shock, linguistic barriers, adjustment issues, yahaan pehli raat sub kay sar mein dard hota hay, peer pressures, Boys boys happy news ……left to go home.

2. Barriers in Success External Barriers Internal Barriers
Language & Cultural Barrier
Peer Pressures
Distractions
Expectations of Parent/Teachers
Financial Problems
Difficulties in educational Learning
Load shedding
Internal Barriers
Home sickness
Adjustment Issues
Anxiety/Depression
Poor Health
Lack of confidence
Poor study Habits
Procrastination/ inability to decide

3. Set Your Goals What do you want to be? What do you want to do?
What do you want to have?

4. Strengthen your Goals Decide
exactly what you want in each area of your life.
Write
it down, clearly and in detail.
Study and review
your goals everyday to be sure that they are still your most important goals.

5. What is Stress? The human reaction to events in our environment.
There are two kinds of stress;
Eustress; the motivational stress that helps us to study for exams, to prepare for coming challenges.
Distress; this is a higher level of stress to which your mind and body starts to respond negatively, like difficult work environment etc.

7. Identification of Stress
Behavioral Symptoms
Emotional Symptoms
Physical Symptoms

8. Management of Stress Emotion focused Coping Problem Focused Coping
Preventing Unnecessary Stress

10. Enhance your Reading Skills
PQRST
Preview
Question
Read
Summarize
Test

11. The Time Management Matrix
Urgent
Not Urgent
Important
Projects with Deadlines
Reaching Exam Centre
Crises intervention
Planning & Preparing for the Exams
Not Important
Attending concerts
SMS, Attending to the call of others.
Activities such as video games , Voice Chat,

12. Emotional Intelligence
Ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others
Emotional Intelligence accounts for more success and Happiness in life than Intellectual Intelligence.
Empathy , an essential component of Win Win Situation.
Learn to say NO
Man is a social animal.

13. Communication Skills Verbal V/S Non verbal Speaking Listening Writing
Reading

14. Mindfulness
A state of active, open attention on the present, observing your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad.
A tool for good physical and Psychological wellbeing

15. Stress Management cont…
Look after your Health
Make good friends
Develop hobbies
Take timeout for YOUR OWN SELF
Reflection
Follow the Principles of Ethics
Strengthening link with Almighty Allah
Success is not key to happiness but happiness is key to success.

16. THE GUEST HOUSE
By Jalaal ud Din Rumi

17. MAY ALLAH GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

18. Thank you

19. Aim & Objectives of Life
Education (Key to Success)
Profession
Games and Hobbies
Family
Person as a whole

20. The Time Management Matrix

21. THE GUEST HOUSE
This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice. meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes. because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
-- Jelaluddin Rumi,     translation by Coleman Barks

22. Planning n then executing with Perseveration
Clarity of goals
Planning n then executing with Perseveration
Cognitive v/s emotional intelligence
Interpersonal relationship, Man is a social animal. Win win skill, (learn empathy)
Reflection
Mindfulness
What sort of person you want to be
Peer pressures. Long burmudas. Abba ki nikar pehan ayey ho. Apnay abba ki pehney hay tumharay abba ki to nahin.

23. Education, key to success
Survival Skills
Critical Thinking
Adaptability skills. Peer pressures, drugs, values, ethics.
Communication skills; listening, speaking, writing & reading
Self Assessment
Optimism

24. Stress management skills
Problem focused v/s emotion focused coping
Time management
Look after your health, (physical,psychological,social & Spiritual)
Ethics, Principles, Norms, responsibilities as parent, teacher, student, human being
Faith