1. PERFECT TIES Family is the FIRST school of formation each of us goes through, whether we like it or not.

2. The school where we learn how to  behave  love  get angry and  how to communicate.

3. Our family is our social laboratory where all our emotions are displayed.

4. A GENOGRAM is a format for drawing a family tree that records information about family members and their relationships over at least 3 generations.

5. A GENOGRAM is an instrument to know more about the family through  The use of a diagram  Showing the different feelings of the members of the family and how they are related

6. What things in the FAMILY are looked into:  Action: ways of facing or avoiding experiences  Emotional: unresolved grief, experiences that brought great pain  Beliefs: rules in the family, rituals, family secrets, etc.

7. What need to be discovered:  Personal issues  Systems of relationship

8. PERSONAL ISSUES a. “Wounds”/delicate pasts/aspect of personhood 1. weakness 2. failures 3. experiences that brought great pain 4. unresolved issues: grief, loss, acceptance, identity 5. lack of knowledge: relationships, child- rearing, vulnerability/openness

9. b. Issues that are reasons non-acceptance or denial 1. denial and wrong opinions 2. unresolved conflicts –loss, anger, resentment

10. c. Strengths learned 1. feelings 2. understanding 3. ways of facing or avoiding situations 4. facing crisis situations 5. ability to solve problems

11. Systems of relationships a. being near or far intimacy or distance family togetherness or separation b. hierarchy of power dominance or subservience traditional or acceptance of modernity

12. c. repeated ways of acting/relating triangulating ways of acting from negative feelings: anger, sadness, rebellion, avoidance of responsibility, using forbidden drugs, drunkenness, gambling, illness due to emotional reasons, lack of discipline in studies.

13. d. Family beliefs 1. rules 2. rituals and traditions 3. fantasy: anito/alamat a. what are they? Why do they stay? b. What is right and what is wrong? 4. issues of faith and religious beliefs 5. how we live our faith in God: belief of the role of God in our life, way of looking at suffering, etc.

14. DIAGRAMS USED IN MAKING A GENOGRAM

15. displays family information graphically providing a quick gestalt of complex family patterns and a rich source of hypotheses how a problem maybe connected to the family context

16. A GENOGRAM helps us see:  Structural  Relational and  Functional information about a family – viewed horizontally and vertically

17. A GENOGRAM helps us scan the current family context to see the connectednes of the immediate players in the family drama of each other, as well as the broader system, and to evaluate the family’s strengths and vulnerabilities in relation to the over-all situation.