1. Peer Relationships
Chapter 8, Lessons 1-3

2. Peer Relationships Ch 8, Lesson 1
Different Types of Friendships and Being Safe
Casual, Close, Platonic, On-line

3. Friendships: Many types throughout life
Casual:
- Share similar interests
- No deep emotional bonds
Close:
- Strong emotional ties
- Support/encouragement; listens to concerns without judgment
- Talk about problems

4. Friendships: Many types throughout life
Platonic:
- Shared affection with opposite gender
- Not considered a couple
On-line:
- Communication through Internet
Positive vs. Negative
Rewarding to know people from all over the world (cultures/traditions)
Dangerous when others aren’t truthful

5. What should you do to be safe on Internet?
Don’t share personal information
Don’t share photos (facebook?)
Never arrange face/face meetings
Tell a trusted adult if… you become uncomfortable

6. Recognizing Problems in Friendships
Important to know how to recognize and resolve problems in friendships
Cliques – small circle of friends who exclude others as outsiders
Ways to avoid negative aspects of cliques...
Become active in several activities
Develop variety in friendships
Envy or jealousy – you have unique talents, don’t compare yourself; think positive (self-talk)

7. Student Activity: (5 minutes)
Read “When Friendships Change” on page 197 in Glencoe Health textbook – Health Skills Activity
With a classmate, role-play a scene to end this scenario using the instructions given in the ‘writing’ section OR
You may write or draw a cartoon ending the scene using the instructions given in the ‘writing’ section

8. Peer Pressure and Refusal Skills Ch 8, Lesson 2
People your age can influence how you think, feel, and act
Can be negative or positive…

9. Positive Peer Pressure:
Positive Friends…
Inspire you to try something new
Encourage you to participate in activities
Influence you in healthful ways…
Negative Peer Pressure:
Take part in negative behaviors
Accept beliefs with negative consequences
Cliques who are disrespectful to others
Bullying or acts of bullying

10. Harassment:
Persistently annoying others
Manipulation:
Indirect, dishonest way to control or influence other people
Examples (pg. 200, Figure 8.5): making threats, blackmail, mocking or teasing, ‘guilt trips’, bargaining, flattery, bribing

11. Resisting Negative Peer Pressure:
Practicing Refusal Skills (communication strategies) will help you deal with NPP
Assertive Refusal
1. state your position - reason
2. suggest alternatives - activities
3. stand your ground – body language, eye contact; walk away

12. Passive and Aggressive Responses
Passive = easier?
Viewed as pushover, not worthy of respect
Aggressive = get your way?
Viewed as forceful, pushy, or hostile
Being assertive shows you stand up for your rights, beliefs, and needs. It shows you respect yourself and those around you.

13. Practicing Abstinence Ch 8, Lesson 3

14. To protect your health and safety Age of people you date Where you go?
Setting Limits
To protect your health and safety
Age of people you date
Where you go?
How will you get there?
What will you do when you get there?

15. Abstinence
A deliberate decision to avoid high-risk behaviors
Intimacy – closeness between two people developed over time.
Infatuation – exaggerated feelings of passion
Self-control – a person’s ability to use responsibility to override emotions (control reaction)
set limits for expressing affection
communicate with partner
talk with trusted adult
low-pressure dating situations
date someone who respects/shares same values

16. What do you think? (class discussion)
Avoiding Risk Situations
What do you think? (class discussion)
Avoid places where alcohol and other drugs are present
Avoid being alone with a date at home or in an isolated place

17. Considering the Consequences
what do you think? (class discussion)
STIs/STDs
Unplanned pregnancy
Consent Law – NC consent law - age is 16

18. The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years
Effects on Mental/Emotional Health:
Aren’t committed as in marital relationship
Guilt feelings – truthful to parents about sexual activity? Would they approve?
Loss of self-respect going against values
Regret and anxiety in consequences

19. The facts… about sexual behavior in teen years
Effects on Social Health:
May lose opportunity for new friendships
May lose opportunity for new activities
Tension in family from disappointment/worry
Challenges in financial and emotional support
Teen parents put own education/career and dreams on hold to raise child

20. Know the facts before you react…
Is it normal to have sexual feelings?
Yes.
Can you control the reaction to these feelings?
Deliberate decision = planning and self-control
Re-commit to Abstinence – ALWAYS an option – never too late to decide/act on protecting your health and well-being!
Know the facts before you react…

21. Dating Decisions – personal values and priorities will influence your dating decisions
Are you ready to date? Other priorities? (goals, tasks, values, and activities you judge to be more important than others)
Set healthful dating expectations…
consideration and respect
communicate thoughts and feelings honestly
never feel pressured to do anything against you or your family’s values

22. Refusal Skills Suggestions to Say No to NPP
“Everybody does it”
No. Not everybody is doing it.
“I thought you were cool”
I am cool, and the answer is still no.
“No one will know”
I’ll know, and I’m the one who matters.
“If you loved me, you’d do it”
If you loved me, you’d respect my decision.

23. What is your website address?
Student Enrichment:
Design a website on abstinence for teens. You will draw this on paper. The site should be accurate, informative, and creative. It should also contain links to other reliable abstinence websites…
(link ideas: more information on refusal skills, decisions to date, peer pressure, considering consequences, sexual content on tv, benefits of abstinence…)
What is your website address?