1. Teens and Siblings

2. Siblings Brother and sisters in a family.
Can be the best of friends or the worst of enemies.
Why would this be true? Give some examples.

3. Sibling Rivalry Competition between brothers and sisters.
Usually created by jealous feelings as they compete for their parents’ love and attention, or other things.

4. Supportive Sibling Behavior
Any action that helps or encourages a sibling.
Can take place in the home or outside the home.
Give some examples.

5. Birth Order
The role a child plays in the home is greatly influenced by his/her birth order.
This role can also be transferred to school and peer groups.
What birth order are you? See which category best fits you.

6. Birth Order Quiz Category A
Manipulative
Charming
Usually gets his/her way
Blames others for things that happen witty
A show-off
Loves people
Good salesperson
Draws favorable attention

7. Birth Order Quiz Category B
Perfectionist
Reliable
Makes lists
Conscientious
Well-organized
Serious
Critical
Does well in school
Usually neat and tidy

8. Birth Order Quiz Category C
Acts as a go-between in family conflicts
Has the fewest pictures in the family photo album
Avoids conflict
Has many friends
Extremely loyal to peer group (gets mad if parents criticize friends)
Seems to do things differently than the rest of the family
Independent

9. Birth Order Quiz Results
Every word in these descriptions may not be exactly as you are, but you are to choose the one that fits the best.
Category A: Youngest
Category B: Oldest
Category C: Middle

10. Birth Order Characteristics First Born or Only Child
Guinea pigs
Perfectionists
Reliable
Conscientious
List makers
Well-organized
Critical
Scholarly
Loyal
Serious
Goal-oriented
People pleasers
Conservative
Supporters of law and order
Believers in authority and ritual
Legalistic
Self-reliant

11. Birth Order Characteristics Middle Born
Independent
Loyal to peer group
Many friends
Usually leave home first
Find companionship outside the home
Feels left out of their own family
Run with the pack
Avoid conflict
Least number of pictures in family albums
Prone to embarrassment, but won’t admit it
Secretive
Last to see professional help

12. Birth Order Characteristics Last Born
Manipulative
Charming
Blame others
Shows off
People persons
Good salespersons
Precocious
Engaging
Messy class clowns
Love limelight
Personable manipulators
Affectionate
Absentminded
Carefree
Not taken seriously

13. Your Teacher’s Birth Order
Now that you have a little background on birth order characteristics, what birth order do you think your teacher is?
How about these teachers?
Mrs. Smith
Mr. Blackham
Mr. Zobell
Ms. Mitchell

14. Making Your Birth Order Work for You
The following slides have some suggestions for making your birth order work in your best interest.
People who are wise learn to make their birth order work for them and to their advantage.

15. Tips for the Oldest Child
Don’t overextend yourself
Learn to say no—you can’t do everything
Don’t expect so much from yourself. You don’t have to be perfect.
Don’t be afraid of being a detail person.
Take problem solving step-by-step

16. Tips for the Oldest Child
Don’t let others pressure you into making decisions. Take your time.
Try to develop a sense of humor and laugh at your mistakes.
Never apologize for being conscientious or over organized.

17. Tips for the Middle Child
Use your people skills to see both sides of issues and deal with life as it really is.
If you are a free spirit, fight to keep your unique qualities.
Middle children grow up thinking that no one ever listened to them and they never had a chance to express their ideas. Share your ideas!

18. Tips for the Middle Child
Enjoy your many friends, but don’t spread yourself too thin.
Don’t compare yourself to others—just be you!
Don’t think only firstborns are leaders; you understand, negotiate, and compromise. Try being a leader!

19. Tips for the Youngest Child
Accept responsibility for yourself!
Many lastborns are messy; learn to pick up after yourself.
Choose jobs where you interact with people because you will do well!
Be less self-centered and offer to help others.

20. Tips for the Youngest Child
Don’t blame others if you’re the one who really caused the situation.
Your gift of humor will be an asset; use it correctly. Don’t be a carrot seeker.
Give others a chance to share the limelight. Concentrate on asking others about them!
Lastborns tend to be the most compatible.

21. Sibling Research Project
We are going to conduct a sibling research project on our class.
Fill out the sibling rivalry research questionnaire.
Now we are going to tally the results.

22. Tally our Results Split into 4 groups Group one: Group two:
Examine results from questions 1-5
Group two:
Examine results from questions 6-10
Group three:
Examine results from questions 11-15
Group four:
Examine results from questions 16-19

23. Analyze our Results
Have each group report their findings to the teacher. The teacher will then tally all of the information onto one sheet of paper.
Homework Assignment: Take home a copy of the sibling rivalry student survey results sheet and answer the questions on the sibling rivalry student reaction form. This will be due next class period.

24. Summary
Living with siblings is not always easy, but your siblings will always be part of your life and they can be good friends.
It is in the best interest of the family to understand sibling interaction and sibling dynamics in order to contribute to good relationships.