2. Ten Habits Highly Healthy Homes of

3. Habit 7 Protect Your Marriage Protect Your Marriage Exodus 20:14

4. Do not commit adultery.

7. “Women’s magazines practically recommend adultery to their readers as a fun and healthy activity …” - Katie Roiphe, New York Times Magazine

8. “An affair can be a sexual recharging, an escape from a worn-out relation- ship, a way into something better.” - Elle Magazine

9. “[Women’s] marriages are improved by their affairs. Because they get their fill of rapture elsewhere...” - Harper’s Bazaar

10. The true power of mass media is the power to REDEFINE NORMAL M E D I A

11. The true power of mass media is the power to REDEFINE NORMAL M E D I A

12. Prime Time TV 65,000 sexual references every year 7 out of 8 involve extra- marital relations

13. adultery

17. English root ADULTERATE to contaminate or make impure

18. adultery Hebrew root LO NA ’ APH no apostatizing (to abandon one’s principles or promises)

19. Colossians 3:5 Don’t be controlled by your body. Kill every desire for the wrong kind of sex. Don’t be immoral or indecent or have evil thoughts …

20. Hebrews 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

21. ways to affair-proof your marriage ways to affair-proof your marriage 6 6

22. 1 1 make a commitment

23. Psalm 119:9 How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your word and following its rules.

24. Proverbs 5:15 Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone.

25. 2 2 magnify the consequences

26. 1.You do incredible damage to your spouse. Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery

27. 1 Corinthians 6:16 And don’t you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”

28. 1.You do incredible damage to your spouse. Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery 2.You do incredible damage to yourself.

29. Proverbs 6:32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul.

30. 1.You do incredible damage to your spouse. 2.You do incredible damage to yourself. 1.You do incredible damage to your spouse. 2.You do incredible damage to yourself. Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery 3.You do incredible damage to your children.

31. Exodus 34:7 Even so I do not leave sin unpunished, but I punish the children for the sins of their parents to the third and fourth generations.

32. 4.You do incredible damage to the church. Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery

33. 1 Corinthians 5:6 Don’t you realize that if even one person is allowed to go on sinning, soon all will be affected?

34. 4.You do incredible damage to the church. Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery 5.You do incredible damage to your witness.

35. 2 Samuel 12:14 But you have given the enemies of the Lord great opportunity to despise and blaspheme him …

36. 4.You do incredible damage to the church. 5.You do incredible damage to your witness. 4.You do incredible damage to the church. 5.You do incredible damage to your witness. Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery Six Good Reasons Not To Commit Adultery 6.You sin against the Lord.

37. Genesis 39:9 How could I ever do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.

38. 3 3 maximize your marriage

39. 1 Corinthians 7:3 A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, a wife should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other’s needs.

40. 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

41. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man

42. Sexual Fulfillment

43. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man Sexual Fulfillment Recreational Companionship

44. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man Sexual Fulfillment Recreational Companionship An Attractive Spouse

45. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man Sexual Fulfillment Recreational Companionship An Attractive Spouse Domestic Support

46. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man Sexual Fulfillment Recreational Companionship An Attractive Spouse Domestic Support Admiration

47. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman Sexual Fulfillment Recreational Companionship An Attractive Spouse Domestic Support Admiration

48. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman Sexual FulfillmentAffection Recreational Companionship An Attractive Spouse Domestic Support Admiration

49. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman Sexual FulfillmentAffection Recreational Companionship Conversation An Attractive Spouse Domestic Support Admiration

50. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman Sexual FulfillmentAffection Recreational Companionship Conversation An Attractive SpouseHonesty And Openness Domestic Support Admiration

51. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman Sexual FulfillmentAffection Recreational Companionship Conversation An Attractive SpouseHonesty And Openness Domestic SupportFinancial Support Admiration

52. 5 Basic Needs Of A Man 5 Basic Needs Of A Woman Sexual FulfillmentAffection Recreational Companionship Conversation An Attractive SpouseHonesty And Openness Domestic SupportFinancial Support AdmirationFamily Commitment

53. A person’s five basic emotional needs are so demanding that, if any of them go unmet at home, that spouse becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair.

54. That tragic result is almost certain if someone outside the marriage begins to fulfill the need that is not being met within the marriage.

55. SEX VS. AFFECTION SEX VS. AFFECTION

56. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 2 But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

57. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 3 The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband.

58. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife.

59. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 5 So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time,

60. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.

61. Due to sexual immorality, each person should MARRY Married partners are to fulfill their SEXUAL DUTIES God commands you to stop depriving each other of SEX Due to sexual immorality, each person should MARRY Married partners are to fulfill their SEXUAL DUTIES God commands you to stop depriving each other of SEX God’s primary provision for SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS

62. Affection is the environment, sex is the event.

63. It’s real easy to leave your spouse. It’s not easy to leave your best friend. ~ Mary Alda It’s real easy to leave your spouse. It’s not easy to leave your best friend. ~ Mary Alda

64. 1 Corinthians 7:3 The husband must give his wife what she has the right to expect, and so too the wife to the husband.

65. 4 4 manage your mind

66. 1.Accepting sinful thoughts in your mind 2.Emotional non-physical involvement 3.Physical involvement 4.Rationalizing the affair 1.Accepting sinful thoughts in your mind 2.Emotional non-physical involvement 3.Physical involvement 4.Rationalizing the affair Four Steps To An Affair

67. James 1:14-15 Temptation is the pull of a person’s own evil thoughts and wishes. These evil thoughts lead to evil actions and afterwards to death.

68. Romans 16:19 I want you to be wise about what is good and innocent in what is evil.

69. 5 5 maintain proper relationships

70. 1.Don’t listen to someone else’s marriage problems. 2.Don’t go fishing for compliments. 3.Beware of a sense of “electricity.” 4.Avoid a prolonged stare or a lingering touch. 1.Don’t listen to someone else’s marriage problems. 2.Don’t go fishing for compliments. 3.Beware of a sense of “electricity.” 4.Avoid a prolonged stare or a lingering touch. Proper Relationships

71. Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity …

72. 6 6 minimize the opportunity

73. 1 Corinthians 10:12 So be careful! If you are thinking, “Oh, I would never behave like that” – let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin.

74. 1 Corinthians 15:33 Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.”

75. Malachi 2:15 Guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with your wife.

76. The Pathway Back To PURITY The Pathway Back To PURITY

77. 1 1 acknowledge the sin

78. 2 2 end the relationship immediately

79. 3 3 avoid all contact with that person

80. John 8:11 Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

81. Habit 7: Protect Your Marriage Habit 7: Protect Your Marriage