1. Marriage and Intimate Relationships - Chapter 6 Marriage is defined as,“a socially legitimate sexual union, begun with a public announcement and with some idea of permanence, and assumed with a more or less explicit contract” Functionalists describe marriage as a ‘social institution that meets human basic needs’ (the functional requisites of reproduction, socialization of children and division of labour are achieved ) Since married people serve useful purposes for society when married, Functionalists believe people are happiest when married. Marriage is defined as,“a socially legitimate sexual union, begun with a public announcement and with some idea of permanence, and assumed with a more or less explicit contract” Functionalists describe marriage as a ‘social institution that meets human basic needs’ (the functional requisites of reproduction, socialization of children and division of labour are achieved ) Since married people serve useful purposes for society when married, Functionalists believe people are happiest when married.

2. »Marriage offers friendship and companionship and improves one’s standard of living. It gives one a sense of purpose and fulfills a cultural expectation. For these reasons The Social Exchange Theory believes being married is better than being single. »It is evident that in the 21st cent. Many people are not marrying, yet the form conjugal (sexual) relationships. The first conjugal relationship for 52% of Canadian women under 30 is to live “common-law”/“cohabit”- they live as husband and wife without marrying. »This is contrary to God’s choice for us, and it’s not surprising that common-law relationships do not have the same success rate as marriage (1 in 8 common-law relationships will last a lifetime). “Trying on marriage”, however seems to be increasingly popular (perhaps due to the increasing divorce rate - marriage is at an all time low). »Marriage offers friendship and companionship and improves one’s standard of living. It gives one a sense of purpose and fulfills a cultural expectation. For these reasons The Social Exchange Theory believes being married is better than being single. »It is evident that in the 21st cent. Many people are not marrying, yet the form conjugal (sexual) relationships. The first conjugal relationship for 52% of Canadian women under 30 is to live “common-law”/“cohabit”- they live as husband and wife without marrying. »This is contrary to God’s choice for us, and it’s not surprising that common-law relationships do not have the same success rate as marriage (1 in 8 common-law relationships will last a lifetime). “Trying on marriage”, however seems to be increasingly popular (perhaps due to the increasing divorce rate - marriage is at an all time low).

3. Marriage In History »For most of history love was seldom a consideration in the decision to marry - it was an economic decision, that women had little say in. betrothal »Hebrew families over 4000 years ago began with a betrothal (promise to marry) and it was arranged by the parents. bride price »The bride price was paid by the groom’s family to the bride’s family. dowry dower rights »The bride’s family gave her a dowry (money, property) and she also gained dower rights (property from her husband for her support) patrilocal »Early Roman marriages were patrilineal, patriarchal, and patrilocal (located near the husband’s family) »For most of history love was seldom a consideration in the decision to marry - it was an economic decision, that women had little say in. betrothal »Hebrew families over 4000 years ago began with a betrothal (promise to marry) and it was arranged by the parents. bride price »The bride price was paid by the groom’s family to the bride’s family. dowry dower rights »The bride’s family gave her a dowry (money, property) and she also gained dower rights (property from her husband for her support) patrilocal »Early Roman marriages were patrilineal, patriarchal, and patrilocal (located near the husband’s family)

4. »Early Christian marriage followed the early Roman model banns »In the middle ages, the Catholic church made marriage a sacrament and it was a public event. The reading of the banns (a public announcement read by the priest 3 weeks prior to the ceremony with a question of any objections) is still in place today. matrilocal »Canadian Aboriginal marriages were arranged and matrilineal and matrilocal were women’s roles highly valued »European women were in short supply (even will the “Filles de Roi” or daughters of the King), so the men turned to the Aboriginal women for a marriage a la facon du pays (a temporary marriage arrangement). »Early Christian marriage followed the early Roman model banns »In the middle ages, the Catholic church made marriage a sacrament and it was a public event. The reading of the banns (a public announcement read by the priest 3 weeks prior to the ceremony with a question of any objections) is still in place today. matrilocal »Canadian Aboriginal marriages were arranged and matrilineal and matrilocal were women’s roles highly valued »European women were in short supply (even will the “Filles de Roi” or daughters of the King), so the men turned to the Aboriginal women for a marriage a la facon du pays (a temporary marriage arrangement).

5. illegal in Ontario until 1930 and in Quebec until 1968 »Divorce was rare in the 19th cent. It was illegal in Ontario until 1930 and in Quebec until 1968. Divorce laws were enacted by the Federal gov’t in 1968, and prior to that divorces were granted for a few reasons (proof of adultery - most common) »In Canada the romantic dream is still that individuals will fall in love and marry »Symbolic Interactionism explain that if others see you as a husband or wife, you take on that role »Men and women are socialized to have children instrumental role expressive role »Functionalists describe men as having an instrumental role of providing (income) whereas women have more of an emotional expressive role (nuturance/support of husband and children) »Egalitarian relationships »Egalitarian relationships (where roles are shared) are more common today since dual-income marriages are becoming the norm illegal in Ontario until 1930 and in Quebec until 1968 »Divorce was rare in the 19th cent. It was illegal in Ontario until 1930 and in Quebec until 1968. Divorce laws were enacted by the Federal gov’t in 1968, and prior to that divorces were granted for a few reasons (proof of adultery - most common) »In Canada the romantic dream is still that individuals will fall in love and marry »Symbolic Interactionism explain that if others see you as a husband or wife, you take on that role »Men and women are socialized to have children instrumental role expressive role »Functionalists describe men as having an instrumental role of providing (income) whereas women have more of an emotional expressive role (nuturance/support of husband and children) »Egalitarian relationships »Egalitarian relationships (where roles are shared) are more common today since dual-income marriages are becoming the norm