1. A Webcast presented by: St. John’s Seminary & The Office of Vicar for Clergy [Archdiocese of Los Angeles]

2. Compete Avoid Compromise Accommodate Satisfy Own Interests Satisfy Other’s Interests Divine Collaboration

3. Align with God’s Will

4. Increase security and love.

5. Reduce fear. Be Not Afraid

6. God Brother [ Trinity ] 15

7. ... love of neighbor is a path that leads to the encounter with God and... closing our eyes to our neighbor also blinds us to God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI

8. Brother Mediator Reconciliation

9. We can not love the God we can not see unless we love the God we see within ourselves and in others. – St. Bonaventure

10. Sin separates us from God; reconciliation heals the break. Reconciliation - A User’s Manual

11. God Brother [ Trinity ] 15 Christ the Mediator Priest as mediator

12. If I have no contact whatsoever with God in my life, then I cannot see in the other anything more than the other, and I am incapable of seeing in him the image of God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI

13. See the Divine in the Other

14. God Brother [ Trinity ] 15

15. Assess Be, Do, Have

16. What do you want to Be that has been opposed?

17. What do you want to Do that has been opposed?

18. What do you want to Have that has been opposed?

19. Assess Be, Do, Have

20. Power Prestige Possessions Pride Power Prestige Possessions Pride

21. IMPASSEIMPASSE

22. Barriers to Convening

23. ExpectationsExpectations

24. Need to Be Right Being Made Wrong

25. Emotions Color the Story & Perceptions

26. Destructive Emotions

27. Faulty Perceptions

28. The situation was perceived inaccurately Prejudice or bias clouded perception False attributions skewed perception Perception Errors

29. The other party’s “inner story” is assumed Emotional attachments color perception Senses were impaired

30. WallsWalls

31. Desire for Revenge \

32. NarcissismNarcissism

33. Spiritual Direction

34. FALSE SELF vs. Divine Self

35. Two False Selves Fight

36. Settlement Criteria

37. SatisfactionSatisfaction Substantive ProceduralPsychological

38. Opposition to Will of God Problem of Evil