1. Conflict and Coaching Presented by Denise Reens Written by Joanne Alexopoulos and Susan Tinnish

2.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. About Conflict…. Normal Unavoidable Occurs naturally Behavior causes conflict, not personalities

3.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario I Brittany & Sarah

4.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Roots of Conflict Values Agendas and Priorities Work Styles Personalities Miscommunication

5.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario II Carolyn & Ann

6.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Personality Types Silent Monopolizer Intimidator Nice Guy Unhappy Camper

7.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario III The Chapter Executive Council

8.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Conflict Indicators Verbal and Nonverbal Body Language Facial Expression Open disagreements Strong Public Statements Lack of Respect

9.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario IV Campus Committee

10.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Ugly Conflict Disagreements escalate Language or behavior creates conflict Rarely about issues Creates negative emotions Divides teams

11.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Productive Conflict Acknowledges diverse views Healthy exchange of ideas Dialog leads to solutions Promotes personal growth Solves problems effectively

12.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Avoid Both parties lose Withdraw or side step issues Interferes with problem solving Use only as short term strategy Conflict Styles

13.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Accommodate I lose – you win Personal needs are set aside Use when relationship is important or the conflict is not important Shows cooperation Conflict Styles

14.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Conflict Styles I win – you lose Outcome should be more important than the relationship Used when an immediate decision is required The end should justify the means Compete

15.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Collaborate Both parties win Requires a trusting relationship Open & honest communication Relationship is unaffected or improved Conflict Styles

16.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario V Alpha Phi vs. Student Union

17.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Resolving Conflict Raise the issue Discover underlying interests Invent options for mutual gain Develop agreements

18.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario VI The New Chapter Adviser

19.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Effective Listening Developed skill Takes time and practice Is an active, not passive activity

20.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Active Listening Maintain eye contact Ask open ended questions Watch body language/vocal tone Restate

21.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Diffusing Anger Deal with issues immediately Listen to the other person Use active listening skills Remain calm Focus on the problem Separate feelings from issues

22.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Scenario VII Jean & Patricia

23.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Stimulate Productive Conflict Develop action plan Understand conflict styles Identify the problem

24.  2003 Alpha Phi International Fraternity, Inc. Problem Solving Steps Identify problem Brainstorm solutions Evaluate options Chose a solution Take action

25. About Denise Reens … Denise is Director of Training and Development at the Alpha Phi Executive Office (EO.) Denise is a former teacher and entrepreneur and served in a variety of volunteer roles before coming a full-time staff member. Epsilon Delta/ Northern Illinois University

26. About Joanne Alexopoulos … Joanne’s experience and interests are highly diverse. She has designed and delivered professional skill and team development workshops, for young people and adults, for over 10 years. As an Alpha Phi volunteer, Joanne has served as an advisory board member and regional team member. In her professional life, Joanne develops programs and partnerships for girls and women for the Girl Guides of Canada national office and works part-time helping her clients reach their fitness and weight loss goals as a personal fitness expert. Xi/University of Toronto

27. About Susan Tinnish … Susan, is a Principal Partner at SEAL Inc., a consulting firm. She contributed program content and role-play scenarios for Conflict and Coaching. Sue has worked on the Central Midwest Regional team and is a founder and past president of the Northwest Suburban Alumnae Group in the Chicagoland area. Beta/Northwestern University

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