1. The Core Dynamics of Common Problems in PARENTING! Adriana Bacelis Presenter:

2. When Parenting doesn’t seem to be a gift but a struggle…

3. Notice what you are thinking… You will discover that there is a reason for your stress: Notice what you are thinking… You will discover that there is a reason for your stress: You get angry because ___________ You get angry because ___________ You worry about ____________ You worry about ____________ You feel guilty because ____________ You feel guilty because ____________ If you allow yourself, you will notice that it is not really about being a parent… and sometimes it is not about your kids at all. If you allow yourself, you will notice that it is not really about being a parent… and sometimes it is not about your kids at all.

4. What is it all about? It is about our background of unresoloved inner conflicts. It is about our background of unresoloved inner conflicts. An Inner Conflict occurs when we have a Natural Intention that becomes mixed with our Conditioned Responses. An Inner Conflict occurs when we have a Natural Intention that becomes mixed with our Conditioned Responses.

5. Natural Intention Is the expression of our essential nature, of our true self, of who we really are. Is the expression of our essential nature, of our true self, of who we really are.

6. Conditioned Responses Are the behaviors that are the expression of what we have learned through our experiences in life, they are pre-verbal and pre-cognitive. Are the behaviors that are the expression of what we have learned through our experiences in life, they are pre-verbal and pre-cognitive. They have become a part of who we “think” we are and how we perceive things. They have become a part of who we “think” we are and how we perceive things.

7. Identifications – sometimes getting the sense of who we are from what we think we are… and that becomes self defining. Identifications – sometimes getting the sense of who we are from what we think we are… and that becomes self defining. Unresolved Emotional Pain - It is held in the body because of incomplete experiences in the past Unresolved Emotional Pain - It is held in the body because of incomplete experiences in the past Conditioned Responses are barriers that come from two basic categories…

8. This is how it looks like… When a desire comes from a Natural Intention, it is valid from the origin… you don’t have to justify it or be right about it When a desire comes from a Natural Intention, it is valid from the origin… you don’t have to justify it or be right about it When a desire comes from a Conditioned Response, it needs to be validated or justified – We have the need to be on the “RIGHT” side of a conflict… There is where we find struggle When a desire comes from a Conditioned Response, it needs to be validated or justified – We have the need to be on the “RIGHT” side of a conflict… There is where we find struggle

9. Just a thought… “Children seem rebellious because they enjoy breaking arbitrary rules… “Children seem rebellious because they enjoy breaking arbitrary rules… This helps them reconnect with the truth that authentic power lies not in the rules but in themselves.” This helps them reconnect with the truth that authentic power lies not in the rules but in themselves.” From: The Daily Groove by Scott Noelle

10. For a Deeper Understanding When we are very little before we even acquire language, we make decisions about ourselves and about our experience of the world around us at the level of feeling… This is why we call it pre-verbal conditioning. When we are very little before we even acquire language, we make decisions about ourselves and about our experience of the world around us at the level of feeling… This is why we call it pre-verbal conditioning.

12. The Core Dynamics of Common Problems Trying to Force An Outcome Looking for Yourself Where You Are Not Resisting Feeling Things Fully Illusions Struggle Isolation Frustration Excluding Other Perspectives Manufacturing Interpretations Over-reacting To Circumstances Ignoring Your Intuition Being Judgmental Avoiding The Present Mistaking Need For Love Resisting Change Limiting Self Expression

13. The Core Dynamics of Common Problems Trying to Force An Outcome Looking for Yourself Where You Are Not Resisting Feeling Things Fully Illusions Struggle Isolation Frustration Excluding Other Perspectives Manufacturing Interpretations Over-reacting To Circumstances Ignoring Your Intuition Being Judgmental Avoiding The Present Mistaking Need For Love Resisting Change Limiting Self Expression Need validation Ignore our intuition and act from fear of the past or future… Need to control Afraid to correct them My story, My way They push my buttons Guilt PARENTING!PARENTING!

14. What Stresses me out list Impatience Impatience Crying and whining Crying and whining All kind of Worries All kind of Worries Getting in trouble Getting in trouble Low Performance in school Low Performance in school Negative Influences Negative Influences Sickness Sickness Sibling Rivalry Sibling Rivalry I feel I am invisible I feel I am invisible My kids seem to be deaf they don’t obey My kids seem to be deaf they don’t obey Dealing with boundaries Dealing with boundaries I can’t get them to go to bed My kid wants to skate without a helmet Free Time Management

15. Why does this work? The Program acts on both… Level of Understanding, not just with your intellect but to really be clear “under” where you are “standing” Level of Understanding, not just with your intellect but to really be clear “under” where you are “standing” Learn what is really causing the problem Learn what is really causing the problem Make a clear distinction between our Conditioned Responses and our Natural intentions Make a clear distinction between our Conditioned Responses and our Natural intentions

16. Dismantling the habits Dismantling the habits We are conditioned to think that habits are just there… and that it is very hard to end them or replace them… We are conditioned to think that habits are just there… and that it is very hard to end them or replace them… What if you could learn THE POWER OF HOW to dismantle them through great Techniques that will allow you to act from your “inner knowing” … What if you could learn THE POWER OF HOW to dismantle them through great Techniques that will allow you to act from your “inner knowing” … What if you could also be able to teach your kids how to solve the basis of their own anger, frustration and fear. What if you could also be able to teach your kids how to solve the basis of their own anger, frustration and fear.

17. PARENTING PROGRAM PART 1 Deep understanding of the Core Dynamics Model. Deep understanding of the Core Dynamics Model. Resolve The main conditioned responses that we come up with when raising our kids… Resolve The main conditioned responses that we come up with when raising our kids… “My Way”, “Frustration”, “Need external validation” “Ignoring my intuition”, “Control Freak”, “Overreaction-Guilt” All sorts of fears and identifications All sorts of fears and identifications Presentation and Practice of The Pure Awareness Techniques Presentation and Practice of The Pure Awareness Techniques Will be covered in 8 / 1 hr webinar once a week

18. PARENTING PROGRAM PART 2 PARENTODDS PARENTODDS Kids up to 6 years old PARENTKIDS PARENTKIDS Kids from 6 – 11 years old PARENTEENS PARENTEENS Kids from 12 – 16 years old The group will be divided according to kids ages Coaching Group Sessions Will be covered in 16 / 1hr webinar sessions, 1 session a week for four months

19. How much does the program cost? Part 1 $ 295.00 dls. Include: 8 - 1 hr. webinar sessions 8 - 1 hr. webinar sessions Part 2 $100.00 dls. a month For 4 months Include: 16 – 1 hr. group coaching sessions 16 – 1 hr. group coaching sessions

20. When does it start? Morning Sessions Monday, May 11 th Monday, May 11 th 11 am to 12 pm PT 11 am to 12 pm PT Evening Sessions Monday, May 11 th Monday, May 11 th 8 pm to 9 pm PT 8 pm to 9 pm PT

21. Thank you adriana@greatlifetechnologies.com