1. Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From Venus Sue Bohlin Probe Ministries sue@probe.org

2. Supporting Children’s Gender Results in a healthy self-concept Important part of preventing homosexuality (gender identity confusion) It’s easier to raise a healthy child than repair an adult! Gender differences between boys and girls are designed by God

3. Not All Kids Are the Same Active, athletic Sensitive, creative Girly-girl Tomboy, jockette

4. BoysGirls Sense of self: achievement Have to have something to do Self-reliant Ask for help = weakness Sense of self: relationships Relationally- oriented Connected to others Ask for help = compliment

5. BoysGirls Competitive Cooperative

6. BoysGirls Analytical Intuitive

7. BoysGirls Linear: focus on one thing at a time Compartmentalized (like a chest of drawers) Multi-taskers: juggle many little things at once Connected (like a ball of yarn)

8. BoysGirls Action-oriented Hostility: physical Verbal Hostility: verbal

9. BoysGirls Need a goal Enjoy the process

10. BoysGirls Bond shoulder to shoulder Bond face to face

11. Girls Empathy nurturers: Relating to and understanding others’ feelings Compassion Softness Tenderness Comfort

12. Boys Aggression nurturers: Physically aggressive touch and words Challenging Competition “You’re OK, get up”

13. BoysGirls Show stress by increased aggressiveness Often need help putting words around their stressful feelings Show stress by increased passivity Handle stress better by verbalizing it

14. BoysGirls Primarily needs respect Trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement Needs to be needed. Primarily needs cherishing Tender care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, reassurance Needs to be protected.