1. Career Training Concepts, Inc. www.careertrainingconcepts.com Published by H.E.A.R. H elping E veryone A chieve R espect Authored by: Dr. Susan Swearer, University of Nebraska Dr. Richard Weissbourd, Harvard Graduate School of Education Dr. Stephanie Jones, Harvard Graduate School of Education

2. Slide 2 – Appendix This slide is hidden in the slide show mode. CTC supports victims of abuse through Rivers of the World (ROW) and our Sewing School for Single Mothers in Tshikaji, Democratic Republic of the Congo. The publisher of H.E.A.R., Jimmy Shafe, also directs the Congo-Kasai Chapter of ROW. Having grown up in the Congo, he is well aware of the many challenges faced there on a daily basis. This school was created in an effort to give a second chance to young, single mothers who are victims of sexual assault. Through this program they have a better chance of providing for themselves and their children. www.row.org www.row.org

9. Building Respect and Ending Bullying and Cruelty in Your School

10. Presented by the Partnering to help make our schools safer, more productive places to learn

11. Character Attributes Before we try to think about building respect in your school, let’s define these attributes. Select one and write how you feel you live it. Slide 3 – Page 1

12. Character Attributes How important is it to treat others in a manner consistent with the character traits just discussed? Slide 4 – Page 1 Why or why aren’t these attributes important?

13. Core Values The attributes just discussed are the National Guard core values Loyalty – be faithful and responsible Duty – fulfill your commitments to the best of your ability Respect – treat others how you want to be treated Selfless Service – assist, protect, defend others Honor – act according to your highest principles Integrity – do the right thing, even when no one is looking Personal Courage – stand up for others Slide 5 – Page 2

14. On the other hand – What is Bullying? Bullying is defined as aggression or harassment that one or more people direct toward another person. Bullying is a relationship problem. Bullying is a relationship problem. It affects the victim, the bully, families, bystanders, and the larger community. Slide 6 – Page 3

15. Bullying can be: Saying or writing hurtful things in person, on cell phones, or online Physical attacks (hitting, pushing, kicking, etc.) Exclusion or threatening When one person or a group of people picks on another person or people over and over A behavior that can be connected to sexual harassment or discrimination Called something else, like hazing Slide 7 – Page 3

16. Writing Exercise Think of a time when you witnessed or experienced bullying or other forms of cruelty Think of a time when you witnessed or experienced bullying or other forms of cruelty (or a time when you were cruel to others). What happened? What did you do? What did others do? How did you feel? Slide 8 – Page 4

17. Why might people bully or be cruel to others? What do you think? Slide 9 – Page 4

18. Some reasons people bully: They are insecure They are seeking revenge They are modeling behaviors they’ve seen (at home, school, etc.) They want to belong or be popular They want attention They are seeking power Slide 10 – Page 4

19. Many types of people can be bullied or be the bully at different points in life Bullying and cruelty may look different at different ages Bullying and cruelty can be part of any relationship (romantic, friendship, classmates, etc.) Bullying can look different… Slide 11 – Page 5

20. Slide 12 – Page 5 Bullying can sound different…

21. Mike’s Story Slide 13 – Page 6 Underline examples of bullying

22. The consequences in Mike’s story? Slide 14 – Page 6

23. Michelle’s Story Slide 15 – Page 7 Underline examples of bullying

24. The consequences in Michelle’s story? Slide 16 – Page 7

25. ConsequencesConsequences Slide 17 – Page 8

26. ConsequencesConsequences Bystanders and Community Members Greater feelings of helplessness Decline in positive school and community culture and climate Slide 18 – Page 8

27. Is Bullying Just Normal Behavior? Common or frequent doesn’t mean normal Bullying doesn’t have to be just a part of life It hurts everyone involved – the victim, the bully, bystanders, the community Cruelty is absolutely not normal and needs to be stopped Slide 19 – Page 8

28. Cruelty in Relationships Do you feel it is okay: to pressure someone to have sex who is intoxicated or drugged? to pressure a boy/girl to have sex with you, even though you know that he or she really doesn’t want to? Even if he or she doesn’t say, “No!”? Slide 20 – Page 9

29. Cruelty in Relationships Slide 21 – Page 9

30. People different than you… Slide 22 – Page 9

31. What can you do about it? React in a safe way when you witness bullying or cruelty. Don’t join in when you see harassing behavior If you feel safe, tell the bully that this is not okay (ask a friend to stand with you) Report bullying and harassment to an adult Comfort the victim Don’t join in when you see harassing behavior If you feel safe, tell the bully that this is not okay (ask a friend to stand with you) Report bullying and harassment to an adult Comfort the victim Slide 23 – Page 10

32. What can you do? Become a leader and change expectations. If you realize you sometimes bully, change your behavior – stop Be a role model for others Be an “activist” and strengthen your school and community Work to improve how people treat each other Reach out – include those regularly excluded in social settings Slide 24 – Page 10

33. Make Bullying Uncool Would this make your school feel safer? Many people will change their bullying behavior if students AND teachers make it clear it is unacceptable. What can you do? (example: don’t spread gossip) How can you help make kind behavior cool? Slide 25 – Page 11

34. What could you have done in Mike’s and Michelle’s stories? Write your action and the associated value on page 11. Slide 26 – Page 11 What could you have done? Loyalty Duty Respect Selfless Service Honor Integrity Personal Courage

35. Slide 26 continued – Page 11 This slide is hidden in the slide show mode. The notes here are continuation of previous slide instructor notes.

36. Think Back What would you do differently? What would you say? You don’t need to write anything down, but think about the bullying incident you wrote about at the beginning, if you could go back in time… Slide 27 – Page 11

37. Next Steps? Slide 28 – Page 12

38. RememberRemember Slide 29 – Page 13 Safety first – protect yourself and then others!

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40. Presented by the Name of State

41. Slide 32 – Appendix This slide is hidden in the slide show mode. The information here is an appendix on studies on reporting of bullying.

42. Slide 33 – Appendix This slide is hidden in the slide show mode. The information here is an appendix on studies on reporting of bullying.