1. Keeping Our Children Safe In Cyberspace Michelle Cheasty, MEd, PhD (ABD) Supervisor of Instructional Technology and Information Systems Flemington- Raritan School District Flemington, NJ

2. What Do They Mean? WYCMLMIRL PA/ PAL/ POS/ P911 F2F WRNWTGP WWW Surf the Web Internet IM Screen Name ANA/ MIA Bashboard Netiquette Worm LOL Chat Room Social Networking CyberBully Firewall CyberSafety Avitar 121 E-Mail Spam Virus CyberStalker Trolling Blog Webcam Filter Spycam

3. I know A. None of these terms B. Less than 25% of these terms C. Between 25% and 50% of these terms D. Between 50% and 75% of these terms E. Between 75% and 100% of these terms

4. Cyber Statistics 61% of teens 13- 17 have a “presence” in cyberspace through social networking sites Presence includes pictures, sports shots, and other “identifying” information Using this information, person can “find” anyone

5. 42% of kids have been bullied while online. 1 in 4 have had it happen more than once. 35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once. 21% of kids have received mean or threatening e-mail or other messages. 58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out of 10 say it has happened more than once. 53% of kids admit having said something mean or hurtful to another person online. More than 1 in 3 have done it more than once. 58% have not told their parents or an adult about something mean or hurtful that happened to them online. Based on 2004 i-SAFE survey of 1,500 stuhttp://www.isafe.org/channels/sub.php?ch=op&sub_id=media_cyber_bullyingd ents grades 4-8

7. 71% of teens have received messages from people they don’t know 45% of teens have been asked for personal information 30% of teens have considered meeting someone they met online face- to- face- 14% actually have

8. Cyber Crimes

9. What Are Cyber Crimes? Crimes that take place online- instead of face- to- face Including, but not limited to- ◦ CyberBullying ◦ CyberStalking ◦ CyberThreatening ◦ Flamebaiting

10. Example A 13-year old girl named Megan Meier, who was just days shy of her 14th birthday, commits suicide by hanging herself in her bedroom closet. The reason? She was being bullied by a “hot” 16-year old male, who had initially captured her heart on MySpace by making her feel valued, but who then turned on her. He cyberbullied her with taunts and finally told her that she was a horrible person who deserved to have a horrible life. After Megan’s death, her grieving parents learn that the “hot” 16-year old male was in fact a fictitious character created by the parents of one of Megan’s girl friends — a girl she had become estranged from. http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/yulelog/2007/11/14/parents-in-myspace-disaster- follows/

11. Example 14 and 15 year old girls make a “study date” with a guy from Biology. The guy is not from their class, but a sexual predator. The person from Bio class had his picture taken by a neighbor. That neighbor created a Cyber account using the guy’s picture and personal information. Unknowingly, the girls went to the apartment thinking they were going to study. The girls are held “captive” until their escape two days later. One girl will spend the rest of her life hospitalized.

12. Example In St. Louis. A 13 year-old girl hung herself after a "boy" she was dating through Myspace insulted and harassed her (according to the story, the "boy" asked to be her Myspace friend, then they started talking online and eventually called each other boyfriend and girlfriend before he started saying that he had "heard that she wasn't very nice to her friends" and then began sending the girl increasingly cruel and harassing emails). Turns out that this "boy" was actually a neighboring couple who posed as a 14 year-old boy in order to deliberately lure this girl into talking to them, trying to see if she said anything bad about their daughter. http://blogs.orlandosentinel.com/features_popculture_blog/2007/1 1/girl-commits-su.html

13. Example 21-year-old woman, Nicole Williams, who has been accused of sending harassing text messages to a 16-year-old girl that she was jealous of (because of a boy, naturally). Williams also allegedly allowed her friends to use her phone to send messages and leave vulgar voicemails for the girl, some of which threatened rape. http://arstechnica.com/tech- policy/news/2008/12/cyberbullying-laws-picking-up-after- myspace-suicide-case.ars

14. Example In 2010, Rutgers freshman Tyler Clementi committed suicide after his roommate used a hidden computer webcam to broadcast an intimate encounter with another man in their dorm room. Prior to his death, Clementi posted his “good bye” on Facebook.

15. SO- WHAT CAN WE DO?

16. Quick Tips First, remember never to give out personal information such as your name, home address, school name, or telephone number in a chat room or on bulletin boards. Also, never send a picture of yourself to someone you chat with on the computer without your parent's permission. Never write to someone who has made you feel uncomfortable or scared.

17. Quick Tips Do not meet someone or have them visit you without the permission of your parents. Tell your parents right away if you read anything on the Internet that makes you feel uncomfortable. Remember that people online may not be who they say they are. Someone who says that "she" is a "12-year-old girl" could really be an older man. http://www.fbi.gov/kids/k5th/safety2.htm

18. For Elementary School Students Introduce students to chat rooms (i.e.- imbee.com, Destiny Quest) Teach students netiquette Role play Guest speakers Web resources

19. For Middle School Students Continue to discuss chat rooms Role play Set up class blogs and chats Discuss “escape” tools- such as ctrl+alt+del or shutting the computer down Let students know they can always talk to their parents, you, counselors, or other adults Continue to stress anonymity

20. For High School Students Continue to discuss chat rooms Role play Set up class blogs and chats Discuss “escape” tools- such as ctrl+alt+del or shutting the computer down Let students know they can always talk to their parents, you, counselors, or other adults Continue to stress anonymity Discuss current cases of cybercrimes (be sure to get parent permission- many of them are quite graphic) Invite the FBI and State Police in for presentations and conversations

21. For Teachers Remind teachers that if it is online, someone can and WILL find it Just because you deleted it doesn’t mean that someone else doesn’t have it posted Keep all social networking sites and information private Be aware of what others are posting about you There have been cases where teachers have been dismissed for conduct unbecoming of a public servant Teachers should model online behavior for their students Never provide personal information to anyone online When in doubt- ask. The only stupid question is the one not asked

22. What Can We Do At Home Tools to Give Our Parents

23. I would know what to do if a student reported a cyber crime YesNo

24. Tools for Parents Learn Internet acronyms that children use to keep parents from snooping (Examples: POS - parent over shoulder, POP - parent on prowl, CTN - can't talk now). Remind your child to stay anonymous. Don't share personal information online. Share and discuss news stories about cyberstalkers and online sexual predators. Visit social websites like myspace.com with your child. Discuss sites that may offer too much information, inappropriate photographs, or that might have other "red flags" associated with them. Install Internet filters, but don't assume that they will take the place of parental supervision.

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26. Questions?

27. Videos Not all these videos are appropriate for all age groups. Please preview before showing them to school children http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFF1UtPm5C4 http://www.netsmartz.org/RealLifeStories http://www.schooltube.com/video/97c0dcc2a1794518b475/Cyber-Safety http://www.wiredsafety.org/wiredlearning/videos/index.html http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLnqdiXoc8Y&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T38-9OCDrP4&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oui0IcNpvmQ&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlAgTAWGGi4&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MuaJcjxBK3U&feature=related

28. Additional Resources http://www.fbi.gov/about- us/investigate/cyber/cyber http://www.fbi.gov/about- us/investigate/cyber/cyber http://www.projectsafechildhood.gov/ http://www.isafe.org/ http://safety.lovetoknow.com/Cyber_Bullying_Stat istics http://safety.lovetoknow.com/Cyber_Bullying_Stat istics http://guest.portaportal.com/cybersafety

29. Additional Resources http://www.cybercrimelawyerblog.com/20 10/09/protecting_your_kids_online_se.ht ml http://www.cybercrimelawyerblog.com/20 10/09/protecting_your_kids_online_se.ht ml http://www.justice.gov/criminal/cybercrim e/cyberethics.htm http://www.justice.gov/criminal/cybercrim e/cyberethics.htm http://www.cyberbullying.us/

30. Contact Information Michelle Cheasty Supervisor of Instructional Technology and Information Systems Flemington Raritan Regional School District mcheasty@frsd.k12.nj.us