1. Deborah Gilboa, MD www.AskDrG.com PARENTING SMART SCHOLARS Ask Doctor G AskDocG

2. If you could wave a magic wand... What do you want for your child’s future?

3. STATS US Census Bureau: 2010 adults age 25- 34 living at home ↑26% to 5.9mil >2/3 parents give their adult children $$$ support (doubled in 20 yrs) Sallie Mae study of undergrads: average credit card balance is $3,173

4. hap · pi · ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy INGREDIENTS: 1.Confidence 2.Competence 3.Relationships

5. WHAT ADULTS KNOW Teen years are for learning: Independence Competence How to build relationships Stepping in or asking too much inhibits this learning.

6. HELPING OUT Chores Babysitting Family care Transportation Emotional Support ____________

7. ROLES & PRIORITIES Student Family Member Athlete Youth leader Friend Artist Volunteer ____________ 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.

8. WHAT ADULTS NEED TO KNOW Adult involvement supports Safety Growth Learning Adult intervention harms Confidence Competence Relationships

9. ONE STEP BACK Skill building Time management Resource finding Life skills Relationship building Teachers, TA’s, coaches Roommates Friends, romance Problem-solving

10. 10 HOW DOES FAILURE HELP? Proves independence Leads to competence Builds relationship Teaches resilience.

11. FAILURE AT ITS FINEST - Let life teach the lesson - What can adults do instead? Praise the process. Play “What if?” What would you tell a friend? “I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”

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