1. Rebecca Sposato MS, RN

2.  Most partner abuse starts as emotional abuse, may progress to physical or sexual abuse  Each year, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner related physical assaults and rapes. Men are the victims of about 2.9 million intimate partner related physical assaults.  Resulted in 2,340 deaths in 2007. Of these deaths, 70% were females and 30% were males  http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/consequences.html

3.  Risk factors for perpetration :  Being violent or aggressive in the past  Seeing or being a victim of violence as a child  Using drugs or alcohol, especially drinking heavily  Not having a job or other life events that cause stress  Personality or conduct disorder

4.  Length of time in each potion may vary, or couple may move back in forth between portions  Presence of ‘Honeymoon Phase’ does not indicate permanent improvement in relationship

5.  Physical injuries  Stunted personal growth  self-doubt, low self-esteem  Social isolation  Anxiety, depression,  self-injurious behaviors  somatic symptoms

6. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riwHaBHnTi0 The paradoxical response by abuse victims who support and comply with the abuser in order to survive and reduce the trouble The victim feels: - self is under serious threat -occasional ‘small acts of kindness’ -control and isolation -the inability to escape http://counsellingresource.com/lib/therapy/self-help/stockholm/3/

7.  Successfully leaving an abuser cannot be done spontaneously, it requires preparation  Each table has 5 minutes to compose a safety plan

8.  Prior to leaving, covertly:  document abuse- journal, doctor visit, photos, police report  Stash packed bag-phone, numbers, money, finances, personal items, meds, address book, keys, important papers, ID  Form a new email account, get a pre-paid cell phone  Arrange transportation and destination  Tell the children a code word for when to leave  http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/safety-planning/

9.  After the victim leaves:  Change previous contact information- email accounts, bank accounts, credit cards, post-office box  Vary daily routine, errands, commute  Obtain restraining order and keep copy in possession  Change locks, work location/hours

10.  Centers for disease control (2011). Retrieved fromwww.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intim atepartnerviolence/consequences.html  Counseling Resourse (2011) Retrieved from http://counsellingresource.com/lib/therapy/se lf-help/stockholm/3  The Hotline (2011). Retrieved from http://counsellingresource.com/lib/therapy/se lf-help/stockholm/3