1. Bully-Proofing Your Building with BIST

2. Today’s Objectives Define Bullying Define Participants: Bully, By-Stander, Victim How To Respond Create a system for reporting Create lessons to teach students/parents about bullying Zero Tolerance

3. Myth or Fact Quiz Number 1-10 “T” for True “F” for False

4. Bully Statistics Bullying affects approximately 5.7 million youth in the U.S. British Study found that children exposed to chronic or severe bullying and harassment make them twice as likely to have delusions, hallucinations or other psychotic symptoms as pre-teens as those who have not been bullied. -Archives of General Psychiatry In a national survey of students in grades 6-10, 13% reported bullying others, 11% reported being the target of bullies, and another 6% said that they bullied others and were bullied themselves - National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center

5. Definition A person who repeatedly inflicts physical, verbal, non- verbal and/or emotional abuse on another person. This behavior represents an imbalance of power.

6. 4 Components of Bullying Intentional Harmful Repetitive Imbalance of Power

7. People involved Victim Bully Bystander Identified how? Emotions experienced?

8. BULLY Leader Popular Manipulative/dominates Persuasive Craves attention Blames others Intends to harm

9. BY-STANDER  Follower  Caught in the middle  Passive  Fearful  Difficulty saying “NO”  Supporter of bully, cheers bully on  Isolates the victim/sets victim up to fail

10. VICTIM Follower Low self-esteem Passive Fearful, afraid of retaliation Easy target, won’t stand up for self Seen as week by peers Insecure Shameful

11. Behaviors typically witnessed Verbal Physical Non-verbal Cyber Sexual

12. Potential Short Term Effects of Bullying Low self esteem Crying Anxious Unable to concentrate Loss of friends Physical complaints Fear of going to school Angry; Stops talking about school Suffers from sadness/depression

13. Potential Long Term Effects of BULLYING Loss of interests Decrease in academic performance Truancy issues Suffer from panic attacks/anxiety Fearful of people Isolate self or withdraw Practice self-mutilation Substance abuse Overprotective of children when older Difficulty trusting others

14. SYSTEM TO REPORT BULLYING Our School Does Not Tolerate Bullying!!! Who should the student report to? What information needs to be included in the report? How soon should the report be made? What should the student do after making the report? How will adults follow up after the report is made?

15. When Bullying is Reported It is very difficult for a student to share that they are being hurt. As the adults, we need to recognize the courage it takes to report and address the situation with care.

16. Remain calm and empathic Find a safe area to discuss the report. Discuss the situation with one person at a time. Do not lose your temper. Do not make accusations Students need to perceive that the adults are going to remain calm and supportive. It is essential that the student see adults as nurturing, helpful and caring

17. Listen and Validate the report Adult statements “I bet that was hard to tell me.” “That must feel bad.” “It takes a lot of courage to let me know.” “I’m sure it is difficult to come to me.” Allow the student to share his/her story and let him/her know you trust the information being shared.

18. Let the victim know that you will address the situation. Adult statements: “Can you trust me to take are of this?” “I want you to know I believe you and will address it.” When assuring the victim, be aware that investigating what happened can take a tremendous amount of time. Be careful not to make a promise you can’t keep.

19. Do not be dismissive or doubtful. Adult statements that may be hurtful: “Stay away from her.” “Are you telling me the truth?” “What did you do first?” “Are you sure it happened that way?” “Why do you keep hanging out with that person?” Many students do not report bullying for fear that nothing will be done, adults will not believe them and/or the problem will only get worse.

20. Identification Create a list of kids who have had 3 or more incidences of hurtful behavior Where did the issues occur? What needs to be put into place to help the student be successful?

21. Common Area Structure Arrival Hallways Cafeteria Dismissal Teach greetings How do we intervene?(speaking to our intentions)

22. School-based Strategies Develop a no tolerance policy to hurtful behavior (It’s never okay to be hurtful / It’s never okay to be disruptive) Identify areas of concern and provide adult supervision Educate students regarding bullying behavior Educate students regarding communication Discuss and practice kindness Provide the opportunity for students to practice contribution to others Teach and provide students the opportunity to have a variety of friends

23. Community-building Answer these questions: What makes a strong community? Currently, where are we in terms of being a strong community? Write down three ways to build a strong community

24. Building Community through Class Meetings KINDNESS 1.How can we be kind at school? 2.What is the impact on our classroom when kids are kind? 3.What do we say when someone is kind? 4.Compliments MANAGING IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURT 1. How do you typically respond when hurt? 2. If you are hurt, what will you say or do to keep from making the situation worse? 3. What will you do if hurtful behavior continues? 4. Compliments

25. Class Meeting Topics WHAT TO DO IF YOU WITNESS BULLYING? 1.What can you do if you see someone being bullied? 2.What words can you use? 3.Who can you tell? 4.How can you support the victim? 5.Compliments BUILDING COMMUNITY 1. What is a community? 2. Do we have a responsibility to each other? 3. How will we be responsible to one another? 4. Compliments

26. Resources BIST Bully-Proofing Your Building Class Bully-Proofing Your Building With BIST Manual (bist.org) Olweus (olweus.org) National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center (safeyouth.org) Substance Abuse & Mental Health Svs. (samhsa.gov)

27. Personal Goal I will intervene early by…

28. Contact Us Behavior Intervention Support Team/ Ozanam BIST Developed by Nancy Osterhaus 816.508.3652, BIST Office www.bist.org