1. What is it?? How can I build it? What can impede resilience? Poulsbo Middle School Building Resilience

2. What is it?  The ability to “bounce back” when life throws tough stuff at you. Resilience

3. What is it? The ability to weather the storm Resilience

4. What is it? Being able to see your capability to eventually OVERCOME problems or difficulties Resilience

5. How can I build it in ME??  Take care of yourself: Resilience

6. How can I build it in ME??  Take care of yourself: Resilience

7. How can I build it in ME??  Take care of yourself: Resilience

8. How can I build it in ME??  Lean on others Resilience

9. How can I build it in ME?? Recognize: Problems = part of life = inevitable Resilience

10. How can I build it in ME?? Consider: “problem” = opportunity to learn new skills that will prepare you for life. Resilience

11. How can I build it in ME?? Recognize your ability to overcome!! Resilience

12. How can I build it in ME ?? Find what you’re good at, and Resilience DO IT!

13. Experiencing success in things you enjoy will help you learn you can be successful in overcoming challenges Resilience

14. What can impede resilience? Resilience Negative self- talk Feeling hopeless instead of hopeful More than normal amounts of STRESS Many problems hitting at once Feeling alone, like I have no one to turn to Depression Feeling Overwhelmed

15. Relationships Individual  Depression, hopelessness anxiety  drugs and/or alcohol use Home School Family conflicts/fights Death/divorce Abuse Rejection Money problems School pressures Rejection Suspension Failing classes Break up of a friendship Bullying Feeling left-out of a friendship circle Things That Can Overwhelm Us

16. Anger, irritability, or withdrawal Generalized anxiety Changes in sleep or diet Lack of energy Lack of motivation Poor School Performance Difficulty concentrating Thoughts of suicide Signs and Symptoms of Depression

17. School or work effects -Missing class -Failing grades -Doing less work -Apathetic towards school Physical effects -Losing weight -Gaining weight -Engaging in self-harming behaviors -Disrupted sleep patterns -Low or no energy Emotional or personal effects -Friends annoyed you are always down -Loneliness -Loss of interest in activities -Feeling numb inside Possible Impacts of Depression

18.  Seeing temporary problems as permanent, insurmountable  Feeling hopeless, no way out  Thinking about ending your life  Attempting to take your life Seeing No Way Out

19. Ignoring or dismissing the issue: “Oh, let’s talk about something else.” “You’ll meet another girl and forget this one; you’re a great guy.” Acting shocked or embarrassed “You aren’t REALLY thinking of ending your life, are you?? Challenging or debating “So go ahead, see if things really DO get better.” “Don’t you know that it is wrong to take your own life?” What is NOT Helpful

20.  Look  What do you notice in your friend?  Teary  Sad expression  Withdrawn, not talking  Not acting like he/she normally does What IS Helpful: Look – Listen - Link

21.  Listen: What are you hearing???  Statements reflecting....  Sadness  Lack of hope  Overwhelmed: “Can’t take it anymore”  Not wanting to be around any longer  Wishing he/she were dead What IS Helpful: Look – Listen - Link

22. Link them to someone with the right resources to help--Do not leave him/her alone “You’re not alone. Let me help you.” “Let’s go talk to a counselor, I’ll go with you.” “We can get through this together. ” What IS Helpful: Look – Listen - Link

23.  What if they won’t come with me?  Remember: SOMETHING about them made you concerned  Realize: He/she may need help even though may not WANT help  Respond: Share concerns with an adult right away, TODAY!! What IS Helpful: Look – Listen - Link

24. Questions?????