2. Pornography and Your Teen The Toxic Mis-Education of Porn

3. What we will cover today 1.The sin of looking at pornographic material and progressive nature of this particular sin. 2. The power that God gives us to avoid or correct sinful behavior 3. And practical steps we should take to help our kids live in a culture that is saturated with sinful images

4. 1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

5. No generation in America before has had to face the temptations that our teens face sexually today!!!!!

6. After years working with men and women entrenched in pornography, Dr. Mary Anne Layden concluded, “Having spent so much time in unnatural sexual experiences with paper, celluloid and cyberspace, they seem to find it difficult to have an intimate relationship with a real human being.” Pornography, she says, “is toxic miseducation about sex and relationships,” training men and women to expect online “designer sex” in the real world.

7. Statistics 1.Porn Sites Get More Visitors Each Month Than Netflix, Amazon And Twitter Combined. [17] 2.30% of the Internet industry is pornography. [18] 3.Mobile porn sales is expected to reach $2.8 billion by 2015. [19] 4.54% of teens have visited a sexualy explicit web site. 5.52% of boys and 32% of girls first view pornography at age 12 or younger. 6.Of the 304 scenes analyzed, 88.2% contained physical aggression,while 48.7% of scenes contained verbal aggression, primarily name-calling. Perpetrators of aggression were usually male, whereas targets of aggression were overwhelmingly female.

8. Pornography: From the greek word Porneia Sexual immorality porneía: "to sell off") – properly, a selling off (surrendering) of sexual purity;promiscuity of any (every) type.

9. Sexual immorality: Any passive (Looking) or aggressive (participating) sexual act that deviates from God’s intention for a healthy intimate relationship between a married man and woman.

10. Read Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman (or a man) with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

11. Quote from Luke Gilkerson Covenant Eyes God wired the brain in such a way that it wants to remember where our natural drives are satisfied. If the body is thirsty, the brain’s job is to remember in vivid detail where water can be found. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter responsible for helping us remember where to satisfy our natural drives.

12. James 1:14 1414 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed.15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.15

13. 5 ways Porn Shapes Our Sexual Beliefs 1. Watching porn decreases our sexual satisfaction. It trains us to desire the variety and “designer sex” of porn more than the familiar sexuality of marriage.

14. 2. Watching porn disconnects us from real relationships. It trains us to detach emotional involvement from sexual experience.

15. 3. Watching porn lowers our view of women and men. It trains us to see women and men as sexual commodities, not people created in God’s image.

16. 4. Watching porn desensitizes us to cruelty. It numbs us to the seriousness of verbal and physical aggression.

17. 5. Watching porn makes us want to watch more porn. It taps into the neurocircuitry of our brains, making us desire the rush of sexual energy from porn again and again.

18. Three major points for today 1. Being Prepared (Knowing when and how to talk to your kids) 2. Casting vision not shame (God’s compelling vision) 3. Shepherding your child (Practical guidelines for the home)

19. 1. Being prepared (Before you talk about pornography) Hosea 4:6 My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. "Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.

20. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 66And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.7

21. Puberty: Girls: 10-14 Boys: 12-16 Introduction to God’s vision of healthy sexuality should begin at pre- pubescence. Boys: 11 to 12 Girls: 10-11

22. Two book recommendations before you talk to your pre-teens or teens 1.Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle. Stephen Arterburn 2.Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman’s Battle. Shannon Ethridge

23. 2. Casting vision not shame Proverbs 29:18 Where there is no prophetic vision the people cast off restraint, but blessed is he who keeps the law. “God’s vision for marriage is more compelling than satan’s vision of infidelity”

24. 3. Shepherding your child (Practical guidelines for the home)

25. Decide you will educate your child on this topic! (Educate yourself then prayerfully cast God’s prophetic vision for marriage)

26. Setting online standards in the home at an early age

27. Identify environmental factors (Bedrooms off limits)

28. Covenant eyes http://www.covenanteyes.com/home-2/

29. Don’t pull the plug!!!!

30. Courageous calm parenting (If you are starting a bit late in the game)