1. Sexual Harassment & Assault … it’s illegal and there are laws to protect your rights!

2. What is sexual assault? FSexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to join in unwanted sexual contact or attentions. FIt only has to happen once. FSome examples are: FVoyeurism:watching sexual acts FExhibitionism: exposing yourself publicly FSexual Harassment FSexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to join in unwanted sexual contact or attentions. FIt only has to happen once. FSome examples are: FVoyeurism:watching sexual acts FExhibitionism: exposing yourself publicly FSexual Harassment

3. What is sexual harassment? FSexual harassment refers to any UNWANTED and REPEATED attention that is sexual in nature. FLegally it is “conduct that has the purpose or effect of substantially interfering with an individual’s work performance or creating an intimidating, hostile or offensive working or learning environment. FSexual harassment refers to any UNWANTED and REPEATED attention that is sexual in nature. FLegally it is “conduct that has the purpose or effect of substantially interfering with an individual’s work performance or creating an intimidating, hostile or offensive working or learning environment.

4. 4 Types of Sexual Harassment FVerbal FSexual jokes, rumors, name calling, threats, harassing phone calls, pressuring someone into sexual acts FNon-Verbal FDisplaying of sexual pictures/photos, obscene gestures, body language, whistling FWritten FSexual graffiti, notes, email, facebook FPhysical FForced sexual conduct-grabbing, pinching, fondling, cornering etc. FVerbal FSexual jokes, rumors, name calling, threats, harassing phone calls, pressuring someone into sexual acts FNon-Verbal FDisplaying of sexual pictures/photos, obscene gestures, body language, whistling FWritten FSexual graffiti, notes, email, facebook FPhysical FForced sexual conduct-grabbing, pinching, fondling, cornering etc.

5. Why do people do it? FPeer pressure FThey don’t know its inappropriate FThey think it’s funny FThey could have been a victim in the past (psychological issues) FControl FPeer pressure FThey don’t know its inappropriate FThey think it’s funny FThey could have been a victim in the past (psychological issues) FControl

6. What’s the big deal FSexual harassment isn’t just embarrassing; it can hurt students: FHealth FSelf esteem FGrades FDesire to go to work/school FDepression FPsychological/physical issues FExamples in the news.. FSexual harassment isn’t just embarrassing; it can hurt students: FHealth FSelf esteem FGrades FDesire to go to work/school FDepression FPsychological/physical issues FExamples in the news..

7. Who is at risk? FWhile anyone can be a victim of sexual assault, females between the ages of 15 and 24 are the highest risk of being assaulted by someone they know. F“SUBMISSION DOES NOT EQUAL CONSENT” FWhile anyone can be a victim of sexual assault, females between the ages of 15 and 24 are the highest risk of being assaulted by someone they know. F“SUBMISSION DOES NOT EQUAL CONSENT”

8. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO F…say no to sexual advances F…dress as you please F…be treated with respect at all times F…agree to have sex and change your mind at any time F…agree to sexual activity without agreeing to sex F…say no to sexual advances F…dress as you please F…be treated with respect at all times F…agree to have sex and change your mind at any time F…agree to sexual activity without agreeing to sex

9. Understanding Intimate Violence FWhether you are a survivor or know someone close to you who has been raped, all of us have been in contact with someone who has been sexually abused, even if they choose not to tell us about the crime. FThis is an alarming fact that we hope to lessen through preventative education. FWhether you are a survivor or know someone close to you who has been raped, all of us have been in contact with someone who has been sexually abused, even if they choose not to tell us about the crime. FThis is an alarming fact that we hope to lessen through preventative education.

10. Definitions FConsent: this means to agree or give permission. FThere are 3 times a person cannot consent even if they want to. They are: F1. Under the influence of alcohol or drugs F2. If you are under the age of 16 (age differs from state to state) F3. If you are developmentally delayed or unconscious FSexual Assault FOne can be legally charged with sexual assault in some degree (1-4) if there is non- consensual sexual contact of any sort FConsent: this means to agree or give permission. FThere are 3 times a person cannot consent even if they want to. They are: F1. Under the influence of alcohol or drugs F2. If you are under the age of 16 (age differs from state to state) F3. If you are developmentally delayed or unconscious FSexual Assault FOne can be legally charged with sexual assault in some degree (1-4) if there is non- consensual sexual contact of any sort

11. Definitions Continued.. FChild Sexual Assault (CSA): Is when a child under the age of 18 is forced, tricked or intimidated by an adult into any kind of sexual activity. FIncest: When the offender is a family member FRape: is any type of forced penetration. It is NOT a crime of passion; it is one of power and control that involves any kinds of force including, but not limited to threats and intimidation. FChild Sexual Assault (CSA): Is when a child under the age of 18 is forced, tricked or intimidated by an adult into any kind of sexual activity. FIncest: When the offender is a family member FRape: is any type of forced penetration. It is NOT a crime of passion; it is one of power and control that involves any kinds of force including, but not limited to threats and intimidation.

12. Definitions Continued.. FAcquaintance/Date Rape: is the most common type of rape. It is a social term that means forced sexual intercourse by someone the victim knows FLegal age of consent in CT is 16 FStatutory Rape: Is legally defined as sexual intercourse with someone below the legal age of consent even if: FConsent was given FThere was no resistance FIt was mutually participated FAcquaintance/Date Rape: is the most common type of rape. It is a social term that means forced sexual intercourse by someone the victim knows FLegal age of consent in CT is 16 FStatutory Rape: Is legally defined as sexual intercourse with someone below the legal age of consent even if: FConsent was given FThere was no resistance FIt was mutually participated

13. Date Rape FA person can be a victim of date rape if slipped certain drugs that are used to incapacitate a victim to a level where the perpetrator is able to assault him/her without resistance. FDate rape drugs are usually odorless, colorless, and tasteless. FThey generally last anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour FMany date rape drugs are homemade and sometimes administered in lethal dosages. FUsually they are slipped in to a drink. FA person can be a victim of date rape if slipped certain drugs that are used to incapacitate a victim to a level where the perpetrator is able to assault him/her without resistance. FDate rape drugs are usually odorless, colorless, and tasteless. FThey generally last anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour FMany date rape drugs are homemade and sometimes administered in lethal dosages. FUsually they are slipped in to a drink.

14. FThese drugs can make you become weak and confused--or may even make you pass out. FThis leaves unable to defend yourself against any unwanted sexual contact FThese drugs are used on both men and women FThe are also called “club drugs” because they tend to be used at dance clubs, concerts, raves, etc FThe 3 most popular date rape drugs being used are: FRohypnol FGHB- gamma hydroxybutyric FKetamine FThese drugs can make you become weak and confused--or may even make you pass out. FThis leaves unable to defend yourself against any unwanted sexual contact FThese drugs are used on both men and women FThe are also called “club drugs” because they tend to be used at dance clubs, concerts, raves, etc FThe 3 most popular date rape drugs being used are: FRohypnol FGHB- gamma hydroxybutyric FKetamine

15. Decrease your chances of becoming a victim of date rape drugs by: FIf you can’t pour your own drink, watch the person pouring it FDon’t accept open cans or drinks made previously FDon’t leave your drink unattended FUse the “buddy system” and stay with your friend if at a party or new location FIf you think your friend seems unusually intoxicated while drinking alcohol, get them to the hospital to be tested for date rape drugs. FIf you can’t pour your own drink, watch the person pouring it FDon’t accept open cans or drinks made previously FDon’t leave your drink unattended FUse the “buddy system” and stay with your friend if at a party or new location FIf you think your friend seems unusually intoxicated while drinking alcohol, get them to the hospital to be tested for date rape drugs.

16. Some Statistics F1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will be sexually assaulted before their 16th birthday FSexual offenders are not usually strangers; approximately 86% of victims know their offender F1/2 of victims are assaulted in their home or in the offender’s home FIn more than 1/4 of all cases, offenders repeat their behaviors F1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will be sexually assaulted before their 16th birthday FSexual offenders are not usually strangers; approximately 86% of victims know their offender F1/2 of victims are assaulted in their home or in the offender’s home FIn more than 1/4 of all cases, offenders repeat their behaviors

17. Without some type of help- counseling, psychotherapy etc,- a victim of sexual abuse tends to become a victim for life of emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, etc. FMyth: Only females can be raped FMyth: When someone says “no” they mean “yes” FFact: Any “no” whether it’s verbal or expressed through body language MUST be respected. If you are unsure just ask! FMyth: Victims who don’t physically resist rape secretly enjoy it FFact: During rape, most fear for their lives and make the best decisions they can in order to stay alive. FMyth: Only females can be raped FMyth: When someone says “no” they mean “yes” FFact: Any “no” whether it’s verbal or expressed through body language MUST be respected. If you are unsure just ask! FMyth: Victims who don’t physically resist rape secretly enjoy it FFact: During rape, most fear for their lives and make the best decisions they can in order to stay alive.

18. Speak Up F 41% of sexual assault victims don’t report the crime F60% of rape victims don’t report the crime. FOften survivors don’t speak out because embarrassment or they feel they will be blamed. FPeople SHOULD speak out because: FIt will begin the healing process FDeclares violent disrespect as unacceptable FDecreases offender’s chance of victimizing another person FDecrease feeling of isolation for all survivors FRaise awareness that sexual violence as all- too-common occurrence F 41% of sexual assault victims don’t report the crime F60% of rape victims don’t report the crime. FOften survivors don’t speak out because embarrassment or they feel they will be blamed. FPeople SHOULD speak out because: FIt will begin the healing process FDeclares violent disrespect as unacceptable FDecreases offender’s chance of victimizing another person FDecrease feeling of isolation for all survivors FRaise awareness that sexual violence as all- too-common occurrence

19. If you’ve been assaulted FTalk to someone you trust FRemember there is no right or wrong way to react, and you may be feeling anger, confusion, frustration and/or guilt. Talking to someone such as a friend, family member, teacher, or counselor can help. Talking through your feelings can make this difficult time in your life easier to handle. FReport the incident right away to the police. If at school go to an authority figure. FGet medical attention as soon as possible-- within 24 hours is best. FTalk to someone you trust FRemember there is no right or wrong way to react, and you may be feeling anger, confusion, frustration and/or guilt. Talking to someone such as a friend, family member, teacher, or counselor can help. Talking through your feelings can make this difficult time in your life easier to handle. FReport the incident right away to the police. If at school go to an authority figure. FGet medical attention as soon as possible-- within 24 hours is best.

20. Seek Medical Attention FIf you wish to have an evidence collection exam done, do not shower or change the clothes you are wearing after the assault. FHospital personnel can give you information and options for treatment for possible pregnancy and or STD’s. FNever forget IT WAS NEVER YOUR FAULT if you’re a victim FNo matter how much he/she drank, what he/she wore, or where he/she went FIf you wish to have an evidence collection exam done, do not shower or change the clothes you are wearing after the assault. FHospital personnel can give you information and options for treatment for possible pregnancy and or STD’s. FNever forget IT WAS NEVER YOUR FAULT if you’re a victim FNo matter how much he/she drank, what he/she wore, or where he/she went

21. Reduce my risk? FBe aware the more that you drink or take drugs, the less capable you are to judge possibly dangerous situations. FDo not take rides, leave parties, or go on dates alone with people you do not know. FIf you are with someone you do not know, let someone know where and with whom you are going; have them check on you periodically FBe aware of a person who insists the two of you should be alone and/or someone who pressures you to use drugs or alcohol. FBe aware the more that you drink or take drugs, the less capable you are to judge possibly dangerous situations. FDo not take rides, leave parties, or go on dates alone with people you do not know. FIf you are with someone you do not know, let someone know where and with whom you are going; have them check on you periodically FBe aware of a person who insists the two of you should be alone and/or someone who pressures you to use drugs or alcohol.