1. 1 Disciplining Students in the Teen Challenge Program By Dave Batty iteenchallenge.org T504.03

2. T504.032 Lesson 1 Discipline in your life iteenchallenge.org 2/2013

3. 3 Key Truth: Your present view of discipline has been greatly influenced by your past experiences. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

4. 4 Key Verse : Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

5. 5 Discipline in your life (Early childhood years 1-12) Were you raised and disciplined by Christian parents? YesNo iteenchallenge.org T504.03

6. 6 Question 2 What was your home setting during your first twelve years? I was raised by both my biological father and mother. I was raised by both my biological father and mother. I was raised in a home with a step parent. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

7. 7 Question 2 What was your home setting during your first twelve years? I was raised in a single parent home. I was raised by someone other than my biological parents. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

8. 8 Question 4 Rate how often you were disciplined. Rarely Very often iteenchallenge.org T504.03

9. Question 5 How often were the persons angry at the time they were disciplining you? Rarely Very often 9 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

10. 10 How you handle discipline will quickly show the depth of character in your life. It will also expose your weaknesses. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

11. 11 What do you know about the person you are disciplining? Illustration Checkers vs. Chess How are they different? iteenchallenge.org T504.03

12. 12 Lesson 2 Principles of Discipline iteenchallenge.org T504.03

13. Key Truth: Understanding God's view of discipline will help me live a godly lifestyle 13 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

14. 14 Key Verse: Hebrews 12:11 NIV No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

15. What are some Biblical reasons for having discipline? 15 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

16. 16 A. The need for discipline Proverbs 22:6 Proverbs 22:6 Hebrews 12:11 Hebrews 12:11 2 Timothy 3:16 2 Timothy 3:16 Romans 2:5-8 Romans 2:5-8 Genesis 2:15-17, 3:1-24 Genesis 2:15-17, 3:1-24 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

17. 17 A. The need for discipline The simple reason why discipline is needed—people have disobeyed That’s a negative reason. The simple reason why discipline is needed—people have disobeyed That’s a negative reason. Positive reason—People need to learn to obey. This leads to the best life. Positive reason—People need to learn to obey. This leads to the best life. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

18. 18 B. Three levels of obedience 1. Obey because you were told to do it. 2. Obey and discover the main reason why you were told to do it. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

19. 19 With every rule: What are the main reasons why we have this rule? iteenchallenge.org T504.03

20. 20 B. Three levels of obedience 3. Obey on your own--- An expanded version is: Obey on your own---because it is the right thing to do. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

21. 21 It is extremely important that staff function at Level Three Do the rules you enforce reflect God’s priorities in life? iteenchallenge.org T504.03

22. 22 D. Three levels of discipline 1. Self-discipline --not self-punishment --a healthy, mature way of facing life --functioning at level 3 of obedience --it's self-control --willingly choosing to live within the rules 2 Corinthians 10:5 Philippians 3:12-14 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

23. 23 D. T hree levels of discipline 1. Self-discipline 2 Corinthians 10:5 2. Discipline by others. Romans 13:1-5 3. Discipline by God. Hebrews 12:5-11 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

24. 24 Lesson 3 Relationships in Discipline iteenchallenge.org T504.03

25. Key Truth: Discipline carries the greatest potential for positive growth in the context of meaningful relationships. 25 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

26. 26 Hebrews 12:10 NIV Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

27. THE SETTING OF DISCIPLINE 27 iteenchallenge.orgT504.03

28. 28 A. Discipline in the context of meaningful relationships 1. The family 2. Society 3. God iteenchallenge.org T504.03

29. 29 Discipline at Teen Challenge In the Teen Challenge program, damaged relationships are a major problem iteenchallenge.org T504.03

30. B. Discipline in the context of damaged relationships 1. Delusion 1. Delusion--not seeing, not understanding, or not acting in truth. 2. Denial 2. Denial--a defense mechanism to hide from the painful consequences of facing the truth 30 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

31. B. Discipline in the context of damaged relationships 3. Rebellion 3. Rebellion--"I don't want to submit to your authority." 31 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

32. Case Study #2 Just a little respect, please! Instructions: 1. Take Study Guide Project 4. Read the case study on the top of the page. If you are studying this as a correspondence course, continue and answer all questions at this time. 2. If you are studying this course in a classroom environment group, go ahead and answer all questions before the next session / class. Bring it with you to discuss in the next class. 32 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

33. 33 Lesson 4 The Main Goals of Discipline iteenchallenge.org T504.03

34. Key Truth: Change within and in one’s behavior is the goal of discipline. Key Verse: 2 Peter 3:9b NIV He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. 34 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

35. 35 A. What is the main goal of discipline? A. Change! -- What kind of change? -- you cannot force a student to change -- biblical discipline is designed to bring change from a willing heart. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

36. 36 Love is the highest motive for change So what motivates a person to want to change? 1. Learning 2. Pain a. Spiritual pain b. Emotional pain c. Physical pain iteenchallenge.org T504.03

37. 37 What kind of change are we looking for ? Change that comes from the heart Change that comes from the heart Change to want to obey God and those in authority over us. Change to want to obey God and those in authority over us. iteenchallenge.org T504.03

38. 38 B. What is the purpose of discipline - punishment and correction? iteenchallenge.org T504.03

39. 39 C. What is redemptive discipline? To bring healing, not just punishment To bring healing, not just punishment What are we doing to prepare this to be a redemptive experience? What are we doing to prepare this to be a redemptive experience? iteenchallenge.org T504.03

40. D. Discipline and the Consequences Two perspectives of the problem 1. Getting caught 2. Disobedient behavior 40 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

41. E. Attitudes of the staff Firm love Firm love Tender heart Tender heart Attentive ears Attentive ears 41 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

42. 42 Lesson 5: The Role of Staff in Discipline iteenchallenge.org T504.03

43. Key Truth: Teen Challenge staff must demonstrate God's character in the context of discipline. Key Verses: Ephesians 4:15 NIV Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. 1 Corinthians 11:1 NIV Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ. 43 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

44. Key areas in the life of the staff A. Understanding authority B. The self image of the staff C. Avoiding the wrong kind of help 44 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

45. Key areas in the life of the staff D. Understanding cultural differences E. Communicating with Godly love 45 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

46. A. Understanding authority 1. The Jesus Style of authority 2. God commands parents to discipline their children 3. Leadership by example 1 Corinthians 11:1 46 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

47. A. Understanding authority 4. Walk in truth 5. Obey at levels 2 & 3 47 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

48. B. The self image of the staff 1. Do you need to be needed? 2. Power & a weak self image 3. The RIGHT to be respected 48 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

49. C. AVOIDING THE WRONG KIND OF HELP 49 iteenchallenge.orgT504.03

50. 1. Enabling 1. Anything that stands in the way of persons experiencing the natural consequences of their own behavior. Galatians 6:7-8 2. When helping harms the one you love. 50 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

51. 1. Enabling 3. Rescuing people from their responsibilities and/or consequences. 4. Giving the person permission to stay sick, and continue with their inappropriate behavior. 51 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

52. 2. Confronting Conflict We are most useful in confronting conflict when we are not so much trying to change another person as we are trying to help them see themselves more accurately. 52 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

53. D. Understanding cultural differences 53 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

54. E. Communicating with Godly love 1 Peter 4:8 Colossians 4:6 Ephesians 4:15 54 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

55. Case Study 4: Kitchen Crew Chief Question 2 What are the two issues that face the staff as a result of the student's actions and words? 55 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

56. Lesson 6 TC Standards & Policies for Discipline 56 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

57. Key Truth: Discipline in the TC program is only done within the context of approved policies and procedures. Key Verse: 2 Timothy 4:5 NIV But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship,... discharge all the duties of your ministry. 57 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

58. 3 Steps for Standards and Policies 1. Teen Challenge Accreditation Standards 2. Local TC Policies & Procedures 3. How staff implement these policies & procedures 58 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

59. Abuse, neglect, and exploitation How could the discipline practices of a TC center relate to the issues of abuse, neglect, or exploitation? 59 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

60. What constitutes abuse when disciplining a student? Physical abuse - hitting, beating, attempted strangulation. Verbal abuse - shouting, berating a student, subjecting them to racial slurs or other demeaning verbal messages. 60 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

61. Student Rights The right to give informed consent to refuse treatment or medication and to be advised of the consequences of such a decision. That any third-party coverage of treatment, including any limitations on the duration of services, be made aware of if available. The right to give informed consent to refuse treatment or medication and to be advised of the consequences of such a decision. That any third-party coverage of treatment, including any limitations on the duration of services, be made aware of if available. 61 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

62. Student Rights b. The right to a grievance procedure. c. The right to a humane and safe environment free from abuse, neglect, and exploitation. The student shall not be detained against their will. They shall be granted dignity and personal privacy. 62 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

63. What issues raised in this standard directly relate to discipline?" What issues raised in this standard directly relate to discipline?" 63 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

64. STUDENT GRIEVANCE POLICY Standard 77 64 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

65. Records Student Records Student Records – Standards 68 & 69 65 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

66. Step 2 Policies and Procedures Manual 1. Documenting discipline given to students 2. Policies on discipline 66 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

67. Step 3 Implementing discipline policies 67 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

68. Case study #5: The Laundry Lie Question 1: If you were the staff who caught Jill doing her laundry, what would you do? Question 2: If you were the program director, what would you do once you found out from the other two staff what Jill had done? 68 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

69. Case study #5: The Laundry Lie Discipline assigned Jill 1. She was assigned 3 hours of extra work detail--one hour for each staff involved in this case. She had to wash the van inside and out and do yard work for the rest of the time. 2. She had to memorize several verses related to lying and manipulation. 3. On her next scheduled day to do her laundry, she was not allowed to use the washer or dryer, but had to do her laundry by hand. 69 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

70. Lesson 7 Interview with Teen Challenge Program Director 70 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

71. Lesson 8 Methods of Discipline 71 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

72. Key Truth: With the Lord's help, we need to find the most appropriate discipline for each student. 72 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

73. Key Verse: Hebrews 12:11 (NIV) No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. 73 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

74. 74 A major concern for all staff What is the intent behind the discipline? What is the intent behind the discipline? How will this discipline help this student develop the godly attitudes and behaviors of a growing Christian? How will this discipline help this student develop the godly attitudes and behaviors of a growing Christian? iteenchallenge.org T504.03

75. Methods of Discipline Discipline situation #___ How would you discipline? 75 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

76. A. Methods of Discipline 1. Counseling 2. Educational Projects 3. Loss of Privileges 4. Work Detail 5. Major violations 76 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

77. 1. Counseling 77 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

78. 2. Educational Projects A. Scripture study B. Character Qualities study C. Book study projects D. Special written projects 78 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

79. 3. Loss of Privileges -- phone calls -- visits from family -- mail -- recreation -- -- shopping trips -- passes -- free time -- 79 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

80. 4. Work Detail 80 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

81. 5. Major violations a. Probation b. Extend time in the program c. Start the program over again 81 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

82. 5. Major violations d. Suspension e. Dismissal from the program f. Transfer to another program 82 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

83. 83 B. Prohibited Disciplinary Procedures 1. No demeaning language 2. No physical contact 3. No lock-downs iteenchallenge.org T504.03

84. 84 B. Prohibited Disciplinary Procedures d. Do not discipline in public e. No food deprivation f. No excessive discipline iteenchallenge.org T504.03

85. C. Dismissal process 85 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

86. D. How to assign appropriate discipline 86 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

87. Lesson 9 Making Discipline Effective 87 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

88. Key Truth Staff must respond in discipline with godly attitudes to help make the discipline effective. 88 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

89. Key Verse 1 Peter 3:9 (NIV) Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 89 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

90. Making Discipline Effective A. Show love & concern B. Avoid favoritism C. Stay calm during a problem 90 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

91. Making Discipline Effective D. Dealing with difficult people E. Patience vs. frustration F. Confronting conflict 91 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

92. A. Show love & concern How can staff show they love the students? How can staff show they love the students? How can staff show they care about the students? How can staff show they care about the students? 92 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

93. A. Show love & concern How did staff show love or fail to show love? How did staff show love or fail to show love? How did that impact their relationship with that staff, especially when it came time to discipline? How did that impact their relationship with that staff, especially when it came time to discipline? 93 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

94. B. Avoid favoritism How do staff show favoritism to students? How do staff show favoritism to students? How does the perception of favoritism affect the student's response to discipline? How does the perception of favoritism affect the student's response to discipline? 94 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

95. C. Stay calm during a problem How easy is it for you right now in life to take disrespectful comments or unjustified criticism? How easy is it for you right now in life to take disrespectful comments or unjustified criticism? 95 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

96. C. Stay calm during a problem Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. 96 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

97. E. Patience vs. frustration What situations related to discipline do you think would be most frustrating to you? What situations related to discipline do you think would be most frustrating to you? 97 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

98. E. Patience vs. frustration What are some appropriate or inappropriate ways to express patience in the context of disciplining students in the Teen Challenge program? What are some appropriate or inappropriate ways to express patience in the context of disciplining students in the Teen Challenge program? 98 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

99. Chapter 10 Special Situations in Discipline 99 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

100. Special Situations in Discipline Special Situations in Discipline A. Training for new staff B. Confession vs. denial C. Evidence gathering and assessment D. Confidentiality 100 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

101. Special Situations in Discipline E. When do you call the police? F. When do you discipline the whole program? G. Disciplining a student with a background of abuse 101 iteenchallenge.org T504.03

102. Contact information Global Teen Challenge gtc@globaltc.orgwww.GlobalTC.orgwww.iTeenChallenge.org 102 iteenchallenge.org 2/2013 T504.03