1. Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. McGraw-Hill Peak Performance: Success In College And Beyond Chapter 2 Expand Your Emotional Intelligence

2. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Learning Outcomes Describe emotional intelligence and the key personal qualities Explain the importance of good character, including integrity, civility, and ethics Demonstrate responsibility, self- management, and self-control

3. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Learning Outcomes Define self-esteem and confidence Incorporate a positive attitude and motivation List the benefits of a higher education

4. Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. McGraw-Hill Success Principle 2 Focus on CHARACTER, not just skills.

5. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Emotional Intelligence And Maturity Emotional Intelligence Maturity 1.Self-awareness— tuning in to yourself 2.Empathy—tuning in to others 3.Change—tuning in to results

6. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Character First: Integrity, Civility, And Ethics Character Integrity Civility Empathy Ethics “The measure of a man’s character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out.” Thomas Macaulay British writer and politician

7. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Responsibility I am responsible for… Forming positive habits Assessing my skills My feelings and actions Keeping my agreements Paying back student loans Setting goals My decisions and choices

8. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Responsibility Learning study and job skills Managing time and stress Personal and professional relationships Major and career planning Managing money Knowing what resources are available My health and energy

9. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Self-Control 1.Calm down 2.Clarify and define 3.Listen with empathy and respect 4.Use “I” statements 5.Focus on one problem 6.Focus on win-win solutions “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha

10. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Self-Esteem And Confidence Confidence can develop from… Focusing on your strengths and positive qualities Learning to be resilient and bouncing back after disappointments and setbacks Using affirmations and visualizations to replace negative thought and images Taking responsibility for your life instead of blaming others

11. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Self-Esteem And Confidence Learning skills and competencies Focusing on giving, not receiving, and make others feel valued and appreciated Surrounding yourself with confident and kind people

12. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. A Positive Attitude And Personal Motivation Higher productivity An openness to learning at school and on the job School and job satisfaction Creativity in solving problems and finding solutions A positive attitude encourages…

13. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. A Positive Attitude And Personal Motivation The ability to work with diverse groups of people Enthusiasm and a “can do” outlook Confidence and higher self-esteem The ability to channel stress and increase energy A sense of purpose and direction

14. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. A Positive Attitude And Personal Motivation People who have a negative attitude may… Feel that they are victims and are helpless to make a change Focus on the worst that can happen in a situation Blame external circumstances for their attitudes Focus on the negative in people and situations Believe adversity will last forever Be angry and blame other people

15. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. How Needs And Desires Influence Attitudes And Motivation Self-actualization Self-esteem Love/belonging Safety and security Physiological needs

16. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. The Motivation Cycle Beliefs and self-esteem Self-talk and imagery Physical reaction Behavior

17. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Motivational Strategies Act as if you are motivated Use affirmations Use visualization Use goals as motivational tools Understand expectations

18. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Motivational Strategies Study in teams Stay physically and mentally healthy Learn to reframe Reward yourself Make learning relevant

19. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. The Benefits Of Higher Education Encourages critical thinking Is a smart financial investment Prepares you for life on the job

20. McGraw-Hill Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Overcome Obstacles Don’t get discouraged Create positive mind shifts “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan Professional basketball player

21. Copyright © 2011 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. McGraw-Hill Peak Performance: Success In College And Beyond Chapter 2 Achieve Emotional Intelligence