1. Cadet Etiquett
MILITARY BALL

2. Energizer (Candy Activity)
One team eat candy (or food provided in bowls) with forks and knives.
The other team tape your fingers together or put on mittens, and then try to eat from the bowl.
Discuss how easy or difficult it is to change how something is usually done.

3. Reflection: (Candy Activity)
How do you usually eat these foods?
How did you feel as you tried to eat your food?
What foods do you eat one way in public, but eat another way at home?

4. Bad Table Manner
Video

5. AGENDA
Standards of Dress
Formal Introductions
Key Note Terms / Question
Receiving Line / Hands Shakes
Dining Tips (Methods, Manners, and Courtesies of Eating)
Other courtesies
Practical Exercise

6. Agree or Disagree
Practical Exercise

7. What is “Etiquette”? What is “Manners”?
Etiquette vs. Manners
What is “Etiquette”?
A) To engage a person for duty in the armed forces.
B) Behaviors based on rules of a polite society.
C) The proper way to wear a military uniform.
D) An uncritical or formalized conception, notion, or attitude.
What is “Manners”?
A) A decision on how to proceed; a plan.
B) A trusted counselor or guide.
C) To display respect, care, and consideration towards others.
D) The arrangement of people or elements of a unit in a prescribed manner.

8. During your JROTC experience, and life after graduation,
there will be occasions when you will be encouraged to
interact with people on a social level.

9. Choose the word that best completes the sentence below.
A formal military dinner for military members only is known as _____________.
Dining -in
Dining-out
Protocol
Receiving line

10. Standards of Dress Formal - Women (long or short evening gown)
- Men (uniform or tuxedo) uniform with white shirt and bow tie
- Women (long or short evening gown)
Informal
- Men (sport coat and tie)
- Women (daytime dress or nice pantsuit)
Casual
- Men (nice slacks and sport/collared shirt)
- Women (sundress or nice pants and blouse)

11. Choose the word that best completes the sentence below.
Traditionally, a/an __________ is a man who attends a social
affair without an escort/date.
Protocol
Etiquette
Stag
Sorbet

12. Formal Introductions Simple, and direct; speak slow and clear
The most generally accepted introductions are…
(May I introduce…” or”…, I would like you to meet…” You should not say”…, Meet…)
Use titles (Doctor, Reverend, Pastor…and other guests as Mr., Mrs., Miss, or Ms.)
Return a courtesy such as, “Nice to meet you,” “Hello, “”I am really glad to meet you,” or “How do you do?”

13. Receiving Line Customary and mandatory SAI, spouse, honored guests
Ladies precede the gentlemen through the line; ladies are introduced first
Adjutant announces the names to the host

14. Shaking Hands Handshakes are brief, a feeling of strength, and warmth
- When a hand is offered, then take it
Handshakes are brief, a feeling of strength, and warmth
Maintain eye contact
Don’t shake violently or too firm or keep shaking for a long time or offer only your fingertips
If seated rise to acknowledge
Remove gloves unless in the Color Guard or otherwise inconvenient

15. Choose the word that best completes the sentence below.
You shouldn’t _____________ or take control of a conversation.
Manners
Monopolize
Tines
Place cards

16. Receiving Line / Hand Shake Demo

17. Choose the word that best completes the sentence below.
The intent of the dining-in is to promote cordiality, ___________, and esprit de corps.
Repast
Comradeship
Receiving Line
Curtly

18. Dining Tips Be relaxed, politeness is the key
Gentlemen do not sit down until all the ladies are seated
Help with the seating by holding the chair
Posture at the table; straight but not stiff
When a lady leaves the table; the gentleman who seated her rises
When a lady returns to the table, then the gentleman who seated her rises

19. Dining Tips
Dinner guest do not touch anything on the table until after the invocation
Napkin: unfold partially on your lap; never unfold completely or above the table
Start with the outside piece of silverware and work inwards
# of pieces of silverware indicate the # of courses to expect

21. Dining Tips
Eating : hold the fork in your left hand with the tines down when cutting food
Cut no more than two or three bites of food, then place the knife on the plate and transfer the fork to your right hand (zigzag method)
When not using your fork and knife : place them together across the top of your plate
When you have finished eating : place the fork and knife together on the plate diagonally from 10 to 4

22. Choose the word that best completes the sentence below.
A ___________ is a fruit-flavored ice served for dessert.
Tines
Place cards
Sorbet
Stag

23. Dining Tips (Silverware)
- After using silverware, do not place it back on the table
- Do not leave a used spoon in a cup, place it on the saucer
- Leave unused silverware on the table in its proper position

24. Other Tips Sip your soup from the side of the spoon, do not slurp
Do not blow on your soup to cool it
Break your bread, then butter and eat it one piece at a time
Do not tuck your napkin under your belt or wear it like a bib
Dab with a napkin; never blow your nose with it; never lick your fingers
If you must leave the table, then say “Excuse me please” with no explanation required

25. Other Tips Do’s and Don’t
Take small bites; not mouthfuls
If you burp, say excuse me
Hats, gloves, cameras, etc do not belong on the table
Don’t ask for a doggy bag
Don’t reach across the table for something, ask for it to be passed
Keep the conversation light, nothing serious
Be a good listener; do not interrupt

26. Other Courtesies/Tips
Walking with a lady
Opening doors
Unacceptable to use slang and poor grammar (yeah, nope, etc)
Never address a senior person by their first or last name
Good grooming (no second chance to make a first impression)
Good grooming is an individual responsibility; it should not be necessary for an instructor or senior cadet to tell you to maintain good hygiene
Don’t chew gum

27. Final Words of Wisdom Your are responsible for your guest’s behavior
Practice good manners
Observe the basic courtesies, traditions, and customs
Enjoy yourself and have fun