3. First Comes Love..(Courtship) The role of love in courtship and marriage differs sharply from one society to another. http://qed.princeton.edu/images/e/e0/K inship_Structures.jpg http://qed.princeton.edu/images/e/e0/K inship_Structures.jpg India, arranged marriages are the norm, love follows marriage, rather than preceding it. India, arranged marriages are the norm, love follows marriage, rather than preceding it. United States, romantic love (feelings of erotic attraction accompanied by an admiration of the other) guides most in choice. United States, romantic love (feelings of erotic attraction accompanied by an admiration of the other) guides most in choice.

4. Then Comes Marriage….. People’s choice of mate in the United States follows highly predictable social channels. AgeEducation Social class RaceReligion People tend to fall in love with and marry people who: People tend to fall in love with and marry people who: Live near Meet in school Work alongside Regularly see in the community activities Therefore, usually marry people of similar racial-ethnic and social backgrounds. Therefore, usually marry people of similar racial-ethnic and social backgrounds. 94%, of Americans marry someone of their same racial background. 94%, of Americans marry someone of their same racial background. However, inter-racial marriage, the trend is changing…. However, inter-racial marriage, the trend is changing….

5. Figure 16.2 The Racial Background of Husbands and Wives in Marriages Between Whites and African Americans Source: By the author. Based on Statistical Abstract 2002: Table 47.

6. Then Comes The Baby…… Current research suggests that the arrival of a baby complicates marriages. Martin Whyte, found that marital satisfaction usually decreases with the birth of a child. Martin Whyte, found that marital satisfaction usually decreases with the birth of a child. Lillian Rubin, Compared 50 working-class couples with 25 middle-class couples. Lillian Rubin, Compared 50 working-class couples with 25 middle-class couples. Results: Results: social class significantly influences how couples adjust to children. The avg. working-class couple, the first baby arrived just nine months after marriage, giving the couple a short time to adjust to being husband and wife. The avg. middle-class couple, the first baby arrived three years later, allowing them more time to adjust to each other.

7. .. And the baby carriage! YIKES …who takes care of the baby? 3 out of 5 mothers in the U.S. work for wages Married and Single mothers are similar, 1 in 3 preschoolers is cared for in the child’s home. About 1 in 6 preschool children or working mothers are in day care. About 1 in 6 preschool children or working mothers are in day care. Studies indicate that only a minority of daycare centers in U.S. offer high-quality care as measured by stimulating learning activities, safety, and emotional warmth. Nannies have become a popular option for many upper-middle-class parents. The advantage is the one-on-one attention that the child receives as well as the fact the child is cared for in his or her own home. Disadvantage is that jealousy and tensions arise between the nanny and the parents.

9. The struggle of marriage and children, what do you to drive your parents crazy???? If you have siblings how do you? Do you believe this has anything to do with your birth order?

10. Family Placement Activity Students who are: The oldest child go to the NE corner of room. The oldest child go to the NE corner of room. The youngest child go to the SE corner. The youngest child go to the SE corner. The middle child go to the SW corner. The middle child go to the SW corner. The only child go to the NW corner. The only child go to the NW corner. Each group is to list the advantages and disadvantages of their birth order on paper. Each group will present their findings.

11. Birth Order The order in which children are born into a family influences the development of the children. Oldest children bear the burden of the parents’ heaviest expectations and also of the parents’ inexperience in raising children. Second or third children are generally treated in a more relaxed way by the parents. Youngest children often have a more difficult time in making the transition to adulthood.

12. Oldest Child Usually set up as an example to the other children. Treated more like an adult by his/her parents. A high achiever. Given and accepts more responsibility than the other children. Usually college-bound. Independent.Affectionate.

13. Middle Child May work extra-hard to get recognition. Is usually a peacemaker. Is somewhat average in schoolwork, but is an all-around good student. Is usually a calm, even-tempered adult.

14. Youngest Child Gets a lot of attention, along with a lot of bossing. May be spoiled. Usually matures quickly. May be undisciplined and irresponsible. Is easy-going about school. Likes to associate with someone who takes charge of situations.

15. Only Child Tend to have a lot of the same characteristics as first-born children. As a result of gaining undivided attention, they are often considered to be self- centered. Because they never had to learn to share or overcome conflicts with brothers or sisters. Because they never had to learn to share or overcome conflicts with brothers or sisters. Only children tend to... Be well-organized Be well-organized Not take criticism well Not take criticism well Be comfortable with being the center of attention Be comfortable with being the center of attention Be responsible Be responsible

16. Sibling Rivalry Competition among children of the same family for their parents’ affections or for dominance. It can occur at any age, even into adult life. Next to the parent-child relationship, the sibling relationship is probably the strongest.