1. Effective Parenting Skills Chapter 3

2. “Wanted – Perfect Parents” 1. What are the qualities of perfect parents?

3. The Thunderstorm

4. Child’s Needs: Scenario As the thunder rolled and the lightening cracked during the night, two-year-old Ian cried out. His mother awoke from her own sleep with a start and quickly ran to his room. She took Ian out of the crib. Holding him close, she carried him to the rocking chair.

5. She sat down and began rocking, singing softly to comfort him. The storm passed and so did his fears. Soon Ian was asleep again. Once his mother was sure he was sound asleep, she put him back in his crib.

6. The next morning, Ian awoke as though nothing had happened. He was cheerful and ready to take on the world. His mother gave him a reassuring hug, and he ran off to play.

7. Scenario Question What would you say to a two-year-old who was frightened of thunder and lightning? What about a four-year-old? What about a six-year-old?

8. What is Parenting? Parenting – Caring for children and helping them develop – Meeting child’s needs – When to help and when to back off – Adaptation As child grows, parent grows – Avoid pushing Try activities readiness

9. Reasonable Expectations “Act Your Age” – Parents don’t always know what to expect. – Match expectations to the individual child.

10. Find a Comfortable Parenting Style 3 main styles of parenting – Authoritarian – Democratic – Permissive

11. Authoritarian Based on the idea that children should obey their parents without question. Quick & Firm Child does what parent says with out question.

12. Democratic Children have more input into rules and limits. Child given a certain amount of independence and freedom. Within rules.

13. Permissive Parents give children a wide range of freedom. Child may set their own rules.

14. How do people learn parenting? High school Hospitals Schools Community groups Books Magazines Family & Friends Observation

15. Task of parenting 3 basic tasks – Meet basic needs Food, clothing, shelter, safety, health, language, social interaction – Nurture Giving a child opportunities for encouragement and enrichment. Parents first teachers Give children the freedom they need to learn

16. Cont. – Guide children in appropriate positive behavior Communicate positively Use words child can understand Be clear. Don’t confuse. Be positive and polite. – “Please, Thank you” Give praise and love.

17. What skills can children develop by playing with these things?

18. Review Questions 1.Where can people take courses in parenting? School, Hospitals, Community groups 2.What are the three tasks of parenting? Meet basic needs, nurture children, guiding behavior 3.In what areas of development do children have needs to be met? Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Moral, Social 4.What are 3 styles of parenting? Authoritarian, Democratic, Permissive

19. Guiding Children’s Behavior Amy was frustrated because 4 year old Jenny never put her toys away. She tried reminding Jenny, scolding her, and even banning television until the toys were picked up. Nothing seemed to work. She didn’t know what to do. What should she do?

20. Understanding Guidance Guidance – Using firmness and understanding to help children learn to control their own behavior. Self-discipline – Ability to control you own behavior. Conscience – Inner sense of what is right.