1. Conversational Reframing Acknowledgements

2. Conversational Reframing Introduction

3. ... You and I belong to a species with a remarkable ability: we can shape events in each other’s brains with exquisite precision. Simply by making noises with our mouths, we can reliably cause precise new combinations of ideas to arise in each other’s minds. Steven Pinker [1994]

4. Mind-Body Competence Cognitive-Behavior Management Neuro-Linguistic Programming

5. Neuro-linguistics holistically summarizes the body-mind connection between language [words, symbols, etc.] and neurology. It specifies how our neurology [i.e., nervous system and brain] process language and thereby respond to language.

6. Words, while totally powerless to effect and change external reality, have almost complete power to create, alter, change, destroy and invent internal reality.

7. ...“neuroscientists have learned that thoughts are electrical impulses that trigger electrical and chemical switches in the brain. Thoughts are not just psychological in nature, they are physiological - electrochemical triggers that direct and affect the chemical activity. When given an electrical command - a thought - the brain immediately does several things: It responds to the thought by releasing appropriate control chemicals into the body, and it alerts the central nervous system to any required response or action.” Shad Helmstetter

9. Perception differs qualitatively from the physical properties of the stimulus. The Soul Illusion

10. "I want you to realize that there exists no color in the natural world, and no sound - nothing of this kind; no textures, no patterns, no beauty, no scent." Sounds, colors, patterns, etc., appear to have an independent reality, yet are, in fact, constructed by the mind. All our experience of the natural world is our mind’s interpretation of the input it receives. Sir John Eccles

11. Eccles continued

12. NLP talks about various modes of awareness

13. VAK Coding Visual [pictures, sights, images] A [sounds, noise, music, tones] Kinesthetic [sensations, physical feelings of the body] Olfactory [smells] Gustatory [tastes]

14. We experience the phenomenon of sight, sounds and sensations.

15. Above and beyond the sensory level representation we have sensory-based words.

16. Non-sensory based language refers to all language that becomes more abstract as we delete more of the specific sensory words and generalize to a higher level.

17. When we go ‘meta’ to a higher logical level of symbolization and use more abstract words, we use a different kind of representational system, a non- sensory based modality.

18. In any social environment, we have to use language which then influences and effects the ‘life’ of the system: enhancing and/or limiting, creating and/or destroying.

19. Our language both reflects and describes our model of the world.

20. Words influence because they evoke us to create representations within our minds at multiple levels.

21. The magic is in the code.

22. Swish Cross Mapping Submodalities

23. Swish continued

24. Modeling

25. Modeling consists of using tools that have their origins in Artificial Intelligence [AI], linguistics and cognitive science research with the goal of making a model of excellent behavior, for transfer to other persons.

26. Structures: Reference, Deep & Surface

27. Language & Change

28. Language so fills our world that we move through it as a fish swims through water.

29. Some Universals of the Human Linguistic Process I. Well-formedness II. Constiuent Structure III. Logical Semantic Relations A. Completeness B. Ambiguity C. Synonymy

30. A transformation is an explicit statement of one kind of pattern that native speakers recognize among the sentences of their language.

31. Transformations [continued]

32. Presuppositions

33. When a person’s model has pieces missing, it is impoverished.

34. Impoverished models imply limited options.

35. Biological Constraints Physical constraints that are atypical of the species.

36. Neurological Constraints Species specific biological constraints common to all typical species representatives.

37. Social Constraints

38. Social Constraints [continued]

41. Individual constraints

42. Individual constraints [continued]

43. Generalization is the process by which elements or pieces of a person’s model become detached from their original experience and come to represent this entire category of which the experience is an example. Our ability to generalize is essential to coping with the world.

44. Deletion is a process by which we selectively pay attention to certain dimensions of our experiences and exclude others. An example would be the ability that people have to filter out or exclude all other sound in a room full of people talking in order to listen to one particular person’s voice.

45. Distortion is a process that allows us to make shifts in our experience of sensory data. Fantasy, for example, allows us to prepare for experiences that we may have before they occur. All the great novels, all the revolutionary discoveries of the sciences involve the ability to distort and misrepresent reality.

46. Every Belief is a limit to be examined. John C. Lily

47. Reframing The most fundamental goal of applying verbal patterns is to help people shift their perspective: 1) from a problem to an outcome, 2) from a failure to feedback, and 3) from an impossibility to an ‘as if’.

48. The Language of Specificity For precision and clarity or to deframe.

49. The Language of Evaluation To construct new realities & frames

50. Meaning [‘semantics’] exists only, and exclusively, in the ‘mind’.

51. This doesn’t mean this ---> It means this! Not X --------> but Y

52. The language of evaluation- of-evaluation Allows you to outframe all meanings and frames

53. Outframe continued

54. ‘Language’ describes how we code, in various symbol formats, information.

55. Information is the difference that makes a difference. Gregory Bateson

56. Creation of Meaning

57. Giving or attributing meaning to something [to anything] involves and associative process.

58. To identify meaning we have to find the associations.

59. Fire means what the frame of reference tells us it means.

60. External Behavior --> Internal State [EB] = [IS]

61. S/he who controls the frame, controls the meaning.

62. The directions of influence.

63. Directions continued

64. The Meaning of “Magic”

65. But, but, that’s manipulation!

66. Don’t believe everything you think! Ron Farkas

67. Prevention, development & remediation

68. Nothing in and of itself means anything. It takes a Meaning Maker to construct an association, set a frame, link events and marry concepts.

69. There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they said sympathetically. "May be," the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed. "May be," replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "May be," answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. " May be," said the farmer.

70. This external behavior ‘is’/ ‘equals’(leads to or causes) --> this internal state.

71. causation statements: how we model the way the world works, functions, relates to itself, etc.

72. equations statements: how we decide and model regarding meaning, what abstractions equate with behaviors, our paradigms of significance

73. value words & ideas: the ideas, events, experiences, etc., that we deem important and significant

74. identifications: what things equal other things, that we identify as the same

75. presuppositions: unquestioned assumptions that we simply operationalize as true

76. Make a distinction between the behavior and the intention.

77. Intervention

78. Deframing #1. Chunking Down

79. To elicit this conversational reframing pattern, use the elicitation questions that move a person down the scale of abstraction/specificity. ‘How specifically?’ ‘What specifically?’ ‘When specifically?’ ‘With whom specifically?’ ‘At what place specifically?’

80. Deframing #2 Detailing the sequence of the Strategy

81. #2 strategy continued

82. To elicit this reframing pattern, use the strategy elicitation questions: ‘How do you represent that belief?’ ‘How will you know if and when it does not hold true?’ ‘What comes first? What comes next?’ ‘How do you have each piece coded?’ ‘And you’re absolutely sure you don’t have that in this other format?’

83. Deframe Summary

84. Content Reframing

85. #3 Reframe the EB

86. #3Summary

87. #4 Reframe the IS

88. #4 Summary

89. #5 Reflexively Apply EB to Self or Listener #6 Reflexively Apply IS to Self or Listener

90. #5/#6 continued

91. #7 Counter Examples

92. Content Reframe Summary

93. content reframe summary continued 1

94. Content Reframe Summary continued 2

95. Counter Framing

96. Reverse Presuppositions

97. Reverse Presuppositions continued

98. #7 Counter Example Framing

99. #7 Counter Example Framing continued 1

100. #7 Counter Example Framing continued 2

101. Temporal Presuppositions

102. Identity Statements

103. Identity Statements continued 1

104. Identity Statements continued 2

105. Identity Statements continued 3

106. Questions from Cartesian Logic: What will happen if you do? [Theorem] What won’t happen if you do? [Inverse] What will happen if you don’t? [Converse] What won’t happen if you don’t? [Non- Mirror Image Reverse]

107. Counter Framing Summary

108. The ‘Time’ Frames Before: #8 Positive Prior Intention Framing #9 Positive Prior Causation Framing After: #10 First Outcome #11 Outcomes of Outcomes #12 Eternity Framing

109. Before: #8 Positive Prior Intention Framing

110. Before: #8 Positive Prior Intention Framing [continued]

111. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe [1749-1832]

112. #9 Positive Prior Causation Framing

113. #9 Positive Prior Causation Framing [Continued]

114. #10 First Outcome Framing

115. #11 Outcome of the Outcome Framing

116. #12 Eternity Framing

117. #12 Eternity Framing [continued]

118. Designing Alternative Futures

119. The ‘Time Frames’ Summary

120. Outframing

121. #13 Model of the World ‘Who made this map anyway?’

122. #13 Model of the World [continued]

123. #14 Criteria and Value Framing

124. #14 Criteria and Value Framing [continued]

126. #15 Allness Framing

127. #15 Allness Framing [continued]

128. #16 Necessity Framing

129. #16 Necessity Framing [continued]

130. #17 Identity Framing

131. #17 Identity Framing [continued]

132. #18 All Other Abstractions

133. Unreality

134. Self/Other

135. Tonal Emphasis

136. #18 All Other Abstractions Summary

137. #19 Ecology Framing

138. #19 Ecology Framing [continued]

139. Outframing Summary

140. A man wanted to know about mind, not in nature, but in his computer. He asked ‘Do you compute that you will ever think like a human being? The machine then set to work to analyze its own computation habits. Finally, the machine printed its answer on a piece of paper, as such machines do. The man ran to get the answer and found neatly typed, the words: “That reminds me of a story”. Gregory Bateson

141. Analogous Framing

142. #20 Storytelling

143. #20 Storytelling Shifting Referential Indices

144. #21 Both/And Framing

145. #22 Pseudo-Word Framing

146. #23 Negation Framing

147. #24 Possibility and ‘As If’ Framing

148. #25 Systemic & Probability Framing

149. #26 Decision Framing

150. Conclusions

151. Formal Dialogue

152. We are the sum total of what we think!

153. Glossary